Why is everybody getting married and having kids suddenly?

Question

I'm almost 21, only been on one date, never had a gf, and (obviously) still a virgin. I get I'm a weird person because I don't care for sex, dating, and especially marriage (long story). I get most people are into that stuff (It just seems like more risk than reward) but getting married and having kids (in any order) in your ridiculously early 20's, seems kinda weird.
Granted my parents got married then, however it's still kinda weird that everybody seems to be doing that stuff right around age 20-22. Examples: My ssis had a kid at 20, parents married at age 20, I heard 3 people from middle school are getting married this year. (3 people marrying 3 other people, not each other). A dude from early high school is having twins and is planning a wedding next year. Also a few others have been trying to find a spouse.
I'm weird and stubborn so I can say I'm never getting dragged into any of that as I like being the loner I am. However is it a little weird that suddenly it seems like everybody is getting married and having kids now a days?

Answer 1

Although I can't answer why your circle of friends would be getting married at such a ridiculously young age, chances are it's because they are simply copying what others are doing. They want to fit in and they'll do whatever it takes to do so. Please do NOT feel the pressure, and trust me when I say that I have seen over and over right here in answers, questions from young 20-somethings how to proceed with divorce. Those who are in middle school and early high school, planning their weddings? They won't last and they don't stand a chance. You see, people that age have not even grown yet; they do not understand how they themselves will change with each passing year. They will discover new interests and find that they are not the same person at 25 as they were at 16. Young people also just want the wedding "day" but have not really put any thought into how they will make the marriage work, in more ways than one. And that means they will have to support themselves and not rely on mom and dad. It often comes as a shock when they realize they are on their own.



You, however, sound like a smart 20 year-old!! And you know better!! So don't let anyone try to tell you that getting married is all the rage, or it's the cool thing to do, because it's not. Focus on yourself and what you want to do. If and when you are ready to date, then that's when you start to date. Think about whether you'll continue education, career path, where you might want to live or travel to. It's a lot more fun than being tied down at only age 21.

Answer 2

Because they just want new pics for fb and instagram. I see this a lot as well. I also had a guy that I was dating all of sudden having a baby and then a few weeks after he posted the pics sends me messages about wanting me smh it's all for show and it sad. A lot of people are doing it for show not because they're actually in love. We're living in a world with people desperate for love so they hop on anyone willing to give that sort of attention. It's a temporary satisfaction by the time they turn 25 they'll be single, I bet you that. Keep living your life and don't feel pressured to do the same. You're still young and full of life. Enjoy your youth it comes around once in a lifetime.

Answer 3

It's just the crowd you hang with. Try going to college and applying yourself to an education and a career. You'll meet lots of people who have NO PLANS to marry until they are at least 28-32. That's just as common as people who marry young to people they dated in high school.

Answer 4

Because they want to.