My boyfriends ex wife is ruining our relationship?

Question

My boyfriends ex wife is ruining our relationship?

Answer 1

if was was you i wouldnt live like that because why would you wont to live like that i would leave if he dosnt care why should you

Answer 2

move away. shes lucky he even bothers. he does need to support his kid, but this is ridiculous. shes acting like a spoiled brat.

Answer 3

OMG! Why do ex's have to be so aweful! It's the same in my life - my husband pays a very generous amount of child support, and it's just never enough, they always guilt him into giving them more - while they live a lavish life-style, doing and buying things we cannot afford - luxury. Oh, and she taught the kids to get daddy to pay for everything... They never give him anything - birthday, Christmas - or spend time with him, they only call him when they want something - money. I am on the verge of getting out of this because I cannot live my life with this crap brought into my life - while we are in debt, mind ya....

Answer 4

he has 2 children so he should ofcourse give to both of them, that is a fact, but he can definetly lower the child benefit. You can take this to court if you can prove that the money he own is not enough. he can do it himself without a lawyer. as lawyers are expensive. this has to be agreed on something afordable for both of you.

Answer 5

This is a tough situation your in. Ask your self whats in the best intrest to your child. I do believe your bf needs to pay support for his child, but not to the point his other chid is suffering. But if you think you have a better opportunity at life without him, follow your heart. Unfortunatly the ex is here to stay, I personally wouldn't put up with that. You'll just make yourself miserable. Good luck!

Answer 6

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Answer 7

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Answer 8

First, take any calendars you have and all important papers and mail and put it into your bedroom. Lock your door. This way they cant snoop. The next visit have a "family" meeting with kids and explain privacy and that you dont mind you telling mom what you did in your house. Tell them you know she asks them a ton of questions and they can answer her with the truth. Then go into "rules" in your house. Respect everyone, no matter who it is, ..yo..other adults in the house or that come to visit. Go over any chores you want done (clean up after themselves, clean up room before they go back to mom, give each one a little chore for the weekend (set table, clear table). Give them allowance for YOUR house and keep money there or in account for them to save for something. Start making your house, family. Ignore the mother and her comments. Just yes the kids unless it is a lie you can prove to them. For his family, tell them you dont want to hear it and if they want to speak to her or listen to her fine BUT to keep it to themselves. All of the above should be coming from your boyfriends mouth and you listening. Next few visits, have very structured with family things to do. Family game time, movie and popcorn night, go to park, have fun with them and ignore the other crap. It will only get to you if you let it. If kids get mouthy your boyfriend should be the one to punish them and demand respect. Timeout time, cut allowance, take away a privilege. We made a chart so everyone knew what was expected and positive rewards (they can help you pick what they want so they want to behave) and consequences. This chart can be remade as things in the house change. Last, he can ask for court ordered counseling for kids and you guys. If he has joint legal custody, he can find a therapist, interview them, make sure he likes them, and make appointment for all of you. Find one that has saturday appointments and start taking them, Good luck!

Answer 9

I'm really sorry about your situation. There isn't much you can do but it sounds like she doesn't need any of your boyfriends money. Try to get your boyfriend to take the issue to court and tell him your position. Try out a local church. Usually the people at church are really supportive when someone in the congregation is in need. Save money as much as possible.

Answer 10

Well the courts decide how much child support that he pay that has nothing to do with her. If she is lying keep receipts and thing every time he gets his daughter and take it with you every time you go to court. I suggest moving into a smaller house and lowering a lot of your bills that might help the economy is bad so do all you can to save money. No you are not being selfish a mother should wants whats best for her child

Answer 11

Yes you sound selfish. You knew before you had a child with him that he had a prior obligation. So you should have automatically assumed he would be paying that amount until this child turns 18. And who cares if her new husband makes money - the support order is what the court determined your husband is obligated to pay for his half of his child's needs.



The tax thing is simple; when they filed jointly he SSN was listed as primary. He signed the return as a competant adult that put him 1st in the line of fire should anything be wrong with the return. That is why they are garnishing him and not seeking restitution from her. Legally he can take her to court and ask that she pay something towards it but it would depend on how much money she made that year. If she was a homemaker when she was married to him then he is SOL. If she made 30% of the income and he had 70% then your husband could request that she pay 30% of the judgement. The problem might be his if their divorce decree states that any issues from the marriage are now resolved regardless if all of them are realized or not. So most likely; he probably is stuck paying uncle Sam.



I get that you have a child and your stressing over how tight things are but in all honesty - this is your issue. So either you have to raise income or cut expenses.

Answer 12

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If i where you i would just leave her alone. Maybe contact her a couple days a week just to see how she's doing i mean 3 years you have to care about her and i know you miss talking to her. Let her see what you really meant to her. If she misses you she WILL find a way to contact you, And in doing that it will show you how much she really cares by calling you just to see why you have called her as much.



Being a girl myself as long as you chase her the more she is going to run. She told you she didn't know what she wanted. so in other words she needs time, so give her what she wants give her that space she asked for. Show her you care by giving her that. If it is meant to be she will come back to you. Everything happens for a reason. I know all this is hard to do but it does work it worked in my situation. Im glad i did all this. Besides doing all this will show you if it IS meant to be or not. Good luck and i hope everything works out the way you want it to, and if not then i wish you the best of luck starting something new

Answer 13

both you and he knew he had this child before he got with you,you both knew he paid her child support,you decided to have a child with him and now you haave to figure out how to rise above the circumstances.Hand me downs arent all that bad,my kids wear them all the time,and they still look nice.tell dfs that you and your bf make your meals separately and that he doesnt contributemuch to the household (say like 100) and try again for food stamps