Someone, anyone, PLZ give me a few good reasons WHY....?

Question

U would not wanna have sex w/ ur SO? They even try waking u up to get some and yet they just roll over. U go to bed and walk around the house w/ no panties on and yet NADA!!! I mean WTF! Don't say stress of work cuz thats not it. Don't say stress of kids cuz thats not either. Don't say just cuz ur tired cuz again thats just not it. What else can it possibly be??

Here's what I'm thinking... Gay, not attracted sexually, or hell gay! Even if not attracted u'd still wanna get a lil being woke up if u know what I mean. Ur half asleep u don't care who ur doing!

Anyone else have anything else I can go off of here cuz things just don't seem right!!

Answer 1

Not being in the mood for sex is like a fish saying it's tired of being in water.



If you're willing to keep it hot and spicy (which I know YOU are) there's no reason not to look forward to getting naked as often as possible.



But my wife also tells me that no woman could ever want sex as much as I do - so maybe my opinion is skewed LOL.

Answer 2

There is no answer with the information you've given, but I do have a few good reasons "why."



THE GOOD



1. Older men loose the desire to have sex, it is not anyones fault, it is the chemistry of the body.



2. Some men get/have erectile dysfunctions; sometimes they are too embarrassed to tell their spouses and they are too embarrassed to get medical help.



THE BAD



1. Lack of sexual/physical attraction...



2. Anger and manipulation - just like women withhold sex as a punishment or use it as a tool to get what they want, so do some men.



THE UGLY



1. Another woman - often men who are cheating will not desire sex with their spouse because it makes them feel guilty.



2. Moving on - sometimes men who are ready for or planning a divorce will stop having sex with their spouse so that they can start moving on emotionally.





No offense, but "my husband must be gay," sounds like a cop-out to me. If you are seriously thinking that, then either you don't know the guy yet you married him anyway, or you are looking for an excuse...



I'm assuming that's not the case.



More often than not its just a difference of sexual needs; you need more, he needs less. This seems to happen especially when the husband is older than the wife. Honestly, it seems to me that men have a finite amount of sexual desire, they seem to blow it all when their in the 18-25 range and then it falls off almost completely when they hit 30ish. Women on the other hand tend to have a more steady sexual desire throughout their lives...



Communication is the foundation of a good relationship. Talk to him, tell him what's going on and hopefully you can find a happy solution/compromise.



-- A recent poll found that most married couples only have sex once or twice a month...

Answer 3

Some men have really low sex drives. Other men cheat and get plenty of sex somewhere else and so aren't interested. Some men can't have sex more than once a day. Some men are turned off when they know that they're woman is not satisfied and always wanting more. Some men are intimidated by a woman with a high sex drive. Maybe he feels that you are trying to control him. Maybe he feels that you are neglecting his emotional needs. It could be a lot of things, but don't think that it's cuz he's gay. If you said that to him you probably just made the problem a lot worse. Try to develop an understanding but you've got to try to be sensitive to him, not just thinking of yourself.

Answer 4

It could be that he's gay. More likely, something has just happened between you two and he doesn't feel attracted to you anymore. Have you criticized him or hurt his feelings? Is he jealous over another man? maybe a coworker or something? Don't blame yourself for it because it sounds like you're really trying to get out of this rut he just isn't responding. Have you asked him flat out what in the hell is going on? I wouldn't accept any bs excuse from him. You're right. It isn't stress, work or kids. All those things are a part of life and honestly sex is a great way to forget all those things! You're walking around half naked, any man would love that! If he's making you feel unattractive or unwanted, you need to make that perfectly clear to him too. He could at least be honest, it's only fair. You shouldn't have to worry about this and feel like it's your fault.

Answer 5

I am not sure what your situation is but I can tell you that maybe you don't know the whole story or if you want to avoid the reason why all together just slip a two little blue pills in a smothie or whatever and an hr later yea ha ! depends on age and whats going on in your lifes jobs are steady, the economy isn't effecting you etc. there are other causing factors that cuase a person to be what sounds like depressed and it doesn't matter how often you walk infront of a depressed person naked or not it won't help !!!!! JUST GET THE PILLS

Answer 6

You're not with him 24/7 ... saying that he couldn't possibly be cheating because he is with you "all the time" is kinda like parents who are dumbfounded when they discover their kids are having sex at a young age ... because they were "so involved" with everything and never saw any signs. If he's not getting it from you ... he's getting it somewhere. He IS male right? He DOES have a penis right? If yes to both questions, you seriously need to evaluate the notion that he *might* be getting a little somethin' somethin' on the side ... and that's why he no longer has interest in what you're offering him.

Answer 7

Need a couple of more details such as, does he stay after work a lot, or does he get phone calls and doesn't want to talk in front of you?



I am had the same problem and I found out that she was cheating..

She caught an std... and didn't want to give it to me. I found the medicine that she was taking and that is how I found out...



Ok well if he is with you all the time then maybe he is not cheating. Try to just take it from him, most men find aggressivness exciting, I do! Come at him with one objective in mind, to satisfy yourself.. See if that gets his engine running!

Answer 8

I'm not putting you down in anyway, what is or have you had a routine in the past and still have the same routine, it sounds to me and I could be wrong but he is not been stimulated have you tried doing things out of the ordinary things that are out of your character that he wouldn't expect you to do or even contemplate doing some men its not that there not attracted to there partners its that they get used to the same thing and it gets quite boring, it is like and I'm quating this from a movie but its like having corn flakes for breakfast for the rest of your life hope you know what I mean and I hope this helps.



EDIT:

What about socialiseing going out to dinner dancing something to break things up and make the relationship fun going away for a dirty week end hope this helps

Answer 9

1. Loss of sex drive.



2. They really don't like you anymore even if they say they do



3. You piss them off and they have no passion for you anymore



4. They are screwing someone else, you're just a warm body to lay next to.



5. It's not you it's them.



6. They think every sexual episode should mean something more than just sex.



7. They're idiots.



8. Like you said: they're really gay.



9. They are really insecure with their own bodies.



10. They don't belive in sex after marriage.



Pure this list I created isn't just for you, this is in General for those who have purde SOs/spouses. I know you're not married.

Answer 10

Have you tried asking him what the problem is? That seem like the most effective way to go.

If you have some causes to believe he is 'gay' maybe you should ask him that too.

Some time I think it just goes to simply 'not attracted sexually' and I know that sounds awful but it does happen...the only thing to do then is to go on dates and get to know each other again...remembering the good ole days...

Good luck,,,it isn't easy....

Answer 11

Whomever this is, they definitely have a problem, as I can guarantee you, if that was me in your house, I would be wanting it ALL THE TIME and I would be requesting that we be naked enjoying each others company, as much as possible. Seriously -- he he is either not into the relationship, bored with the relationship or perhaps (and I know you don't want to hear this, as it hurts), seeing someone else on the side. I hope not for your sake, but it could be.

Answer 12

Maybe not gay but, in a relationship with another woman. Men feel like if they are doing one gal they can't do the wife and/or gf. I know stupid, right. If you have kids, I seriously don't think he is gay. Ask your self what else has changed around there and you might just find your answer. Good Luck...

Answer 13

Have him go see a doctor, there are many MEDICAL reasons for low to no sex drive. Have him talk to the doc and get checked out. I can understand being really frustrated and angry with the no sex thing, but please rule out unknown medical conditions before breaking up or fighting more about it. You guys both deserve it.

Answer 14

Gay might be the answer, OR maybe he just isn't attracted to you anymore. Believe it or not, it happens. There is another option. Maybe he's getting it somewhere else.

Answer 15

Could he be cheating? I know that would be horrible but that is ususaly one of the reasons someone stops being interested in sex with their partners?!

Answer 16

I don't think he is gay, but his homone levels may be way out of whack. He should be checked...has he been losing muscle mass in the arms/legs?

Answer 17

Lose that caterpillar looking tummy, tone up and dress sexier. don't walk around nude, give him somethin to imagine about. Then if he still does not want you, get someone who will.

Answer 18

Yeah... I had this same exact problem with my husband. Years later, I found out he was addicted to porn.

Answer 19

An affair?

Answer 20

He's not the right one for you? Seems kinda simple pure....

Answer 21

maybe not in the mood or. didnt sleep well at night..

or maybe alot of things on mind.. Pure...

haahhaha...

Answer 22

Maybe this person is having a problem getting it up and dont want you to know about it. Or maybe its because of your name PURE EVIL!! WTF

Answer 23

i don't blame you for being pissed off you just need to take care of your needs yourself

Answer 24

agree'd .. doesn't seem right. i know i'd be a little curious and see whats REALLY going on.

Answer 25

dang girl you wore him out, poor guy didn't know what he was getting into....

Answer 26

XD....pour man

Answer 27

Honestly, I have no idea.