Friend in need...?

Question

I have a friend in some serious need, i am not sure how to help her. Maybe someone can help me help her.. She is married and they have been married for 16 +/- years and recently she found he has another email account and that he has been secretly communicating with this woman who is a co-worker in another town, she wants into his email to make sure she is not jumping the gun, he tells her no that nothing is going on, yet he sent her flowers and a card and he lies to his wife. she tried retrieving his password, but ended up locking his account cause she got things wrong to many times, she sais he is using a different last name, I have not had to deal with something like this and I don't know what to tell her. Can someone help me help her.. Thanks

Answer 1

She feels something is going on and she may be right but the thing that she must not do is to get paranoid. It can easily be done in these situations tell her to keep her head above water or people actually will not help her. The answer will come to her in a different way if she is patient it will come.

Answer 2

Tell her if she feels like she needs to investigate her husband's activity, she might need to re-evaluate her marriage. He's up to something or he wouldn't care if she has his password.



My husband and I know each other's passwords on everything. If he has nothing to hide he won't mind if she knows his password.



At any rate a married man has no excuse for sending another woman flowers or cards unless it's his mother or sister!

Answer 3

Wait, this is confusing. How does she know he sent flowers to another woman?



Attempting to crack into someone's email is illegal. Sounds as though he knew she'd try to get into it so he set up a tight password/user information.



Tell your friend to stop tampering with the email. It'll only get her in trouble. Suggest that she search around the house, maybe, for receipts etc. And check her husband's cell phone bill/mileage on his car. Beyond that, she should just sit her husband down and demand to know what's going on.

Answer 4

She might want to consider getting a computer program called a keylogger. It isn't pretty, but if she needs his password, there IS a way to get it. Other than that, I don't know how to help except to say that you can't trust a liar.



edit: a keylogger records every key you hit, and you can find them fairly cheap on the internet.

Answer 5

Except to surprise for holidays or special events, there's no reason for a spouse to keep secrets from the other spouse. And unless he's in the military or law enforcement, this other email account is a matter of national security, and he'd have to kill her (joke :^)) if she discovered confidential info, then there's no reason for him to be secretive, UNLESS he's up to something.



Even if he justifies it as being innocent or "nothing", it's something and he needs to come clean NOW!

Answer 6

The answer to this delima is that she already knows their is something going on but your friend is looking for a way not believe it by knowly relying her decision on something she cant hack. A email password.

If she know there is something going on she does need the email to prove it

Answer 7

It's all in her hands. Talk to her about it and suggest that she tries to talk to him. If that doesn't work, she needs to threaten divorce. No woman deserves that. He thinks that he can make it all better by sucking up, which is incredibly pathetic. Just what to you think he'll do if his wife can find cold-hard evidence? Buy her a car? Also, maybe she should try couple therapy?

Answer 8

There is soft ware she can get that can retrieve deleted emails and any thing else that has been on your computer.

Been there done that. Keep your head up.

Good Luck

Answer 9

There is software available the records every dtroke of the keyboard....don't know if it's any good, I know it;s kinda pricey but worth a shot I guess

Answer 10

Best thing to do is confront it. If he gets all upset like she is prying it's tuff. Better to solve it and know what your relationship is all about than have it go on like that.

Answer 11

why do u want friends from chennai only cant make all types of friends

Answer 12

well i would tell the woman to met me somewhere to see who she is ..because it could be one of her friends..but if it wasnt i would be like "[[name]] is my husband! u bastard!" and then like knock her out...just kidding thats mean..but then i would talk to the husband to see what he is thinking..

but it could be something for his job too

Answer 13

http://www.intelius.com/search-name.php?searchform=name&&PHPSESSID=a86b2da69ee1bc7a477ad283884d73f1 will even pull up to the minute cell phone calls! she can also back up her computer to last week or any previous day ,,,,,look in the start menue

Answer 14

if it is causing a gap betwen thier relationship tell her to confront him and tell him what is happening if he has lost interset in her she should sadly leave him she may actually find her true love

Answer 15

HE IZ DEFF. CHEATIN ON HER...FO SURE..