Online relationship experience with a marreid woman?

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Ok i met a woman online and we've been on and off for over two years. she's 25 i'm 22. I ended it last night because it does'nt seem she feels for me as i do her but i know she does she's just scared and dependant on her hubby who's she seperated from Allegedly. anyway i emailed her tonight . I was wondering did i play it ok? See below her hubbys name is pat


had to write this email for a couple of reasons. You don't need to reply if you dont want to i'll understand. It will be a long email because it's important to me and i dont do anything by half measure. I think you are a woman who has an extremely difficult time expressing herself. I think you have intimacy problems as well as serious self esteem problems and you and i know. And i know your a dependant completely on people in your life and PAt as you said you have people fend and give since you were 14. Your depressed because you feel guilty about that and dare i say sickened by the dependancy on others.Just a hunch because this man supports and still does. And i think he loves you. Why are you depressed?If i had a great daughter to hold and hug, a good family ,great friends that worry about me etc. Why would i feel so low? You told me you blame PAt. Why? He looks after you,supports you,he's a great father. A working man. Why? And dont come back with Adam you Effing this and that. This is not an attack on you. It's what i think and i want to express this. 2 and half years of my life was centered around you. 2 and a half years of loyalty,pain,emotion,hope,fear,love, care,money,everything all the fundamentals. Another reason why i wanted to mail is on Wednesday evening you hit me with "Why do i always mention my pills, they keep me sane". You think i bring that up to use against you? Dont ever think that ya hear me. I saw past all that it never bothered me or came into the equation i loved you for who you were all of that was background music. Another reason you said "i'm not a toy" I dont ever hurt you intentionally ever. How could i? Would i talk to u after everything if i did'nt care. Would i buy your boy shoes if i did'nt care ( not using that against u either i sent that voluntarily), would i have hung around like an idiot and a sucker if i did'nt care. Would i have answered your email/text after 6 weeks if i did't care? You mean the world to me and ur my best friend too. I dont leave someone that sacred to me without huge thought and consideration. My heart wants to be around you forever, i want to tell you i love you all the time but it causes problems and friction because it's not recipricated. Nothing i can do about that. Your married even though seperated and i wont let myself interfere with your mental state anymore. Rebecca i cant sit on a laptop and be a lame duck while that guy or some other guy is lined up on msn or over the phone. All them thoughts are constantly on my mind. Are they buying each other gifts for xmas etc. It hurts me and i cant be around that i'm sorry. You labelled all this as "**** " on your myspace. Why? It's not **** and it was never ****. As i said above there is something fundamentally wrong with your marriage and i hope you guys can sort it out. It does'nt take much , LOYALTY AND RESPECT for one another. That's why Pat would have an attitude about you. Any loving man would if his wife is talking to men online. I'm putting myself in his shoes and your son's. It's called not being selfish and putting others before yourself. Not claiming you dont by the way just some sound adive. I send this email because i owe it to myself AGAIN TO WRITE and explain where and how you might have gone wrong and why we are where we are now. I'll never forget you ever for as long as i have breath in my body i 'll never forget and i'll never stop caring. You were my world even when i lost ya i hoped and prayed even against all logic,thouands of miles away,married,mother, some issus medically and physically. Issues that can be overcome with support and patience and time. Good luck with the englishman ( you have him to support you and care about ya) i hope he comes up trumps for you and your life really takes off in most departments. I'm sorry for any pain i caused along the way extremely unintentional. I followed my heat not my head and i came up short. I think i've wrote many an email like this he's a great dude AF ehh. How can this man not find a woman ide say u ask yourself? Wrapped up in a woman i never met thats why. I said i owed myself to write this , i owe u too because you were never a toy to me ever. I gave more than i recieved but no regrets. Different people have different values and parameters with which to function.Do I see the light? No.Maybe in time. But I hope for your sake that the light shines brightly in the future whatever path u take. Life is never easy no one ever said it was but you perservere and move on. As i said im sorry for causing any pain or discomfort your way. My regret

Answer 1

She is married. Enough said! You are right to end it.

Answer 2

All your heart is there and i feel for you.

I think you know yourself deep down but have refused to face it.

Face it my friend,accept how things REALLY are. Stand back and look from a outsiders point of view

Now you must walk away, scrape up the bits of your heart from the floor and start to stick them back together(as best you can, i lend you my glue its good, i have used it a lot :))

I wish you best of luck,

I will keep my opinion of your married lady to myself you wouldn't want to hear it

Answer 3

You absolutely did the right thing by ending it with this woman, and I hope you'll stick to your guns. She's a trainwreck, from the sound of it.



Go find a nice, single woman who doesn't have all this emotional baggage and who doesn't ask you for money!

Answer 4

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