Am I a porn addict?

Question

I just found out that I am a porn addict. I came home last night from work, and my wife informed me of this fact. When I asked were she got that from, she showed me all of these answers to her question about me.
Is this what we do? Has our society sunk so low that we have to coin terms to label people who like things that we don't?
1st. There is an explaination for the box of porn that was in my trunk eight years ago. I was in the Navy, and stationed in Washington. We were in the baracks and had a television in our room. In Bremerton there are four things. Porn Shops, bars, the base, and rain. So we watched porn and drank. When we left and went back to live on the ship, I had a car, and a lot of guys didn't. They gave me their movies to hold until we got back to San Diego. When we got there, a lot of guys didn't have access to a tv, and never picked it up. I had put them all in a box in the trunk, and most of them weren't mine. I owned three or four.
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Answer 1

um...unless a professional gave you the label of porn addict I don't think that you are. Most men watching porn regularily it's pretty normal. Did you get rid of the videos in your trunk??? if you did then there shouldn't be a problem. If you watch and think about porn 24/7 then you might be an addict and in that case I suggest you get some help. Also, if porn is a huge problem for your wife then you need to talk about it and compremise on what's a resonable amount of porn to watch.

Answer 2

Just think of him as an alcoholic. Him watching this would be like a sip of alcohol for an alcoholic. Even 'just a sip' can make an alcoholic relapse. So if he is a porn addict like you say he is then of course it would upset you. He needs to stay away from this completely if he is trying to get better! Oh and one more thing. NOT EVERY MAN WATCHES PORN!! Regardless of what you all think on here its not true!!!!! Yes I know the majority does but NOT ALL!! I really wish you people would quit making every man seem like a porn addicted, strip club going, cheater when that is far from the truth!! There are some good men out there and its not fair for them to get put in the 'jerk' category!!

Answer 3

Don't worry about it. You're only a porn addict if it's interfering with your sex life. I'm not sure what your wife thinks, didn't read the question and don't care.



Your wife just feels insecure about the porn. It's a normal first reaction. I even admit to that kind of reaction, the insecurity that is, at first. Then I realised, porn is like a sex toy. It's a fantasy and in some ways, it literally does feel good to look. According to some, men are visual and I can just imagine! It's like a vibrator or a good shower head and it's not like porn stars are victims or don't realise this themselves. I did some research, talked to my husband and came to this conclusion. It's not like I'm against mastubation! I think it's essential to a quality sex life.



You need to talk to your wife. Tell her your reasons and tell her that she is beautiful. Tell her what it is about porn that you enjoy. Don't be stupid about it though. Sugar coat it. Intelligent women know you are sugar coating, but can see that you care and that my friend, is all that matters. Have fun!

Answer 4

From what you described you are not a porn addict. I agree with you equating the time you might spend on porn to her time on the computer. I don't think most women get this. You are two individuals living together. Be who you are and let her accept you. Let her be who she is and accept it. If anything either of you does interferes with your marriage, regroup and get your focus back. A marriage is more important than porn OR yahoo answers.

Answer 5

I was in the Navy and I understand what your saying about thier stuff being in your car, but if it's causing a problem through it out.

Sound like your wife has confidence issues. You could help this by giving some positive reinforcement.

Last, you're not an addict. Maybe she should try watching some with you and doing what's going on in the movie. It will change your sex life and her attitude.

Answer 6

There is nothing wrong with watching porn as long as u dont make it a main priority in ur life but just cuz u have the ability to pull open that trunk whenever u want and watch them doesnt mean that ur doing it Im sure that u have seen dirty movies and such doesnt mean ur an addict. Tell ur wife that she is making a big deal out of nothing. Could be worse u could be making regular trips to the adult stores, strip clubs and checking out websites on a daily basis.

Answer 7

Oh c'mon you two! Are you trying to save on marriage counseling by getting free advice here? Well, don't be surprized that you get what you pay for. Yes, it is true that in a relationship, both people need to accept each other. But neither you or your wife seem to be able to do so. She cannot accept that you might enjoy watching porn once every blue moon, and you can't accept her over-the-top jealousy and insecurity. I'm sorry for your situation, and I don't know if Y!A can help you. Both of you guys need to grow up.

Answer 8

If you would rather look at porn than be with your wife then you probably have a problem. Waiting til she leaves the house so you can do it is also a pretty good indicator that you have issues.



You and your wife make up the rules to your marriage, though, so it sounds like you two need to figure out some guidelines.

Answer 9

I am a female and I love porn. That does not make me a addict. I watch it with my boyfriend all the time. Some women just feel threatened by their husband or boyfriend watching that stuff.

Answer 10

If you not watching thous videos every day you are not a porn addict.

Answer 11

why would you hold your friends porn. lol did their parents not allow it. if you are a porn addict tell your wife to help you get out of that. if you wife doesnt understand then she doesnt really trust you.

Answer 12

just get rid and do a good deed at the same time. remember when you were too young to get hold of porn. there are kids out there longing for porn and you ave way too much of the stuff

Answer 13

Your buddies must have left their weed in my car! That would explain where it came from when I got pulled over last week. Of course, all we have to do around here is smoke weed, drink, and watch porn! If it would just rain everything would be ok!

Answer 14

Just throw all the junk away and make your wife happy. It'll be better if you leave porn in the trash as it definitely affects you badly and warps your thoughts for life!

Answer 15

i think as a grown man you should be able to decide for yourself what you choose to watch when you are by yourself doing whatever you damn well please. as far as you being an addict i was taught those who live in glass houses shouldnt throw stones and to judge not lest ye be judged yourself.

so there ive said it and if those movies are on dvd you can send em to me ill hold onto em for ya while yer trying to get things sorted out with the misses LOL.....

Answer 16

Unless pornography is getting in the way of your sex life you are not a "porn addict". Your wife, however, respectfully, is a prude.

Answer 17

My dear husband, you are lying!

you have box of porn, and if people don't

believe i can take a picture, for them!

if some body is interest on it?

my email: [e-mail]

Answer 18

u shud have dumped them before marriage i wud have hated it too if i had found sumthing like that i sure hope my future husband reads it n dumps everything that'll make me feel rotten b'coz u r expected 2 change after marriage n move out of your boyish fantasies n behave like a responsible man who looks at only his wife n nobody else

Answer 19

If you don't need it, why not get rid of it... just like a sweater that doesn't fit anymore...

Answer 20

u are a porn star ?

Answer 21

HA! Ok...they weren't yours...

Answer 22

it doesn't matter where you get your appeitite as long as you eat at home . ..

Answer 23

Oh please tell your wife to shut the hell up......