Would You Sign A Pre-Nuptial If You Were Marrying Into A Wealthy Family?

Question

And if his family told you no pre-nup; no marriage.

Answer 1

Good question. If it is the first marriage for the both of you, I would say no. I could understand someone with baggage from being financially hurt in a previous marriage wanting some recourse. If it is the family putting pressure, than it would be a good time to establish the break away from mom and dad and truly put your spouse first.

Answer 2

Who are you marrying -- the guy or the family. Decide. Then, if the guy and his family insist on a pre-nup you have two options. 1) call their bluff, say "no pre-nup" and be prepared to walk away from the situation (very sad) or 2) write a very solid pre-nup that provides protections for you. The pre-nup would have to contain give and take. But be sure to cover yourself and your interests.



I believe pre-nups can be important in some settings. But I've heard attorneys say that in relationships where pre-nups are required, there is little chance the relationship will succeed. We live in a tough world. I reluctantly advise you to do a pre-nup, marry for love, not money, love as best you can. And pray every day that the relationship will be a gift from God to you both. I wish you much love. Cover your own butt.

Answer 3

We generally don't like to think of it this way, but it's true anyway: A marriage is a contractual arrangement.



A pre-nup, then, just spells out the terms of that contract in more specific terms than the laws of your state.



I agree with others that you make sure the pre-nup protects your interests as well as your fiance's. If possible, have your own attorney review it and give you guidance rather than go it alone or depend on the family's attorney. (The family's attorney can only represent one party; [s]he cannot ethically represent you and the family.)



Avoid "giving away the store" in a symbolic attempt to "prove" to the family you are not a gold-digger. The pre-nup is a business matter. The family is treating it as such in order to protect its financial interests. You need to act smart - and not sentimental - by treating it the same way.



So work out the terms to your mutual satisfaction, and then get back into the romantic part.

Answer 4

A pre-num is not a bad thing. I would not get married without one, and I am not a wealthy person.

It depends on how it is written, but does not mean that he is going into the relationship expecting divorce, nor does it mean you will come out penniless.

It is like an insurance policy. You don't plan to have your house burn down, but take out insurance because the concequences if it does are catastrophic.

Same with a pre-nup. With divorce rates running over 50% it just makes good sense. None of these people go into the marriage wanting a divorce, but sometimes they are out of your control.

The pre-num does not mean you will be out of pocket, just that you cannot rob him if things turn sour. Your honey has worked hard/inherited all his money and he should have the right to keep it if you vanish with the pool boy.

Make sure that while you are together, you get an equitable share of what you put in, and you will be right.

Answer 5

If you are really in love with him and are planning to be with him forever then yes you should. I also think it should protect you both. He can't abuse you meaning hitting, cheating and anything else that can go with that. I would have someone that knows what they are doing look at it before you sign it. And if it his family saying that you have to it probably means that he only wants it done so his family is ok with the marriage. So yes do it if you love him so you will have a healthy realationship with the in-laws. nothing is worse than fighting with the in-laws been there done that and it is not fun. good luck and make sure you are going to be happy and this pre-nup does not mess up you realationship together.

Answer 6

I would, but that's just me. If this is coming from his family, I would have a problem. If it was coming from him, then that's a different matter. I know they are just looking out for one of their own, but a marriage is between the two of you. Will they always have the last word in everything thing you two do? Are they usually so involved in your lives? Does your fiance have a backbone? Personally, I like pre-nups. The rate of divorce is just so high. I don't know if this helped you decide at all, but I hope it has. Good luck.

Answer 7

Hi....Yes I would sign a pre-nup but you bet your butt that i would be sure that I was very well took care of if something happened...With a lawyer involved...If you are truly in Love then it should not matter...work out the papers, sign them, and then forget them...Too make a marriage work, it takes the COMMITMENT and never use the pre-nup as an argument....From either side!!!

Answer 8

I wouldn't sign one. Not much of a sign of trust. I think a pre-nup invites failure. Not much incentive to stay together. Too many variables. When my ex told me he wanted a divorce, I gave it to him. I signed a quit claim deed for the house (left him the furniture and everything else in the house), and for my share of his dad's farmland (that his dad put in both our names). I left him the two cars and the pick-up that were paid for, took the new car (with the car pmt), what I could pack in it and left. After he told me that he didn't love me, never had, and that he wanted out. And I didn't need a pre-nup to do it. I think if two people love each other enough to talk about marriage and spending the rest of their lives together then they should be sharing everthing. Pre-nups are for people who don't plan on staying married.

Answer 9

Nope, wouldn't sign it. Marriage should be based on love, trust and respect. Pre-nups are a sign that these things aren't strong enough. Marriages are supposed to be for life and I think it is a bad sign to have an "out" before you even get started. If there was a divorce, I wouldn't want any of their money anyway.

Answer 10

No way!! To me, I believe that if a guy wants you to sign a pre-nup, he believes that the relationship might fail. I also think if a guy wants you to sign a pre-nup, he is more in love with his other possessions more than he is you. If I was told no pre-nup, no marriage, I would say "fine!!" It would definitely be his loss, not mine.

Answer 11

Yes, because if I truly Loved the man I wouldn't put GREED in front of me.



Pre-Nuptial agreements are necessary to protect the vested assets and interests of the one marrying without this. Sounds to me like you're feeling slighted because of the insistence of a pre-nuptial agreement needing to be signed.



These are the risks you take and if you're not willing to take the risk then you shouldn't want to be married.



Think about it.....you're sabotaging your future marriage because of GREED and pride. If you truly love this man you will sign the pre-nuptial agreement---be happy and reap the benefits that wealth has to offer. If you're smart you'll have a provision made in that pre-nuptial agreement that states in the even of your spouses death and if you've been married over 25 years that the pre-nuptial agreement will become null and void and any inheritance that is to be gained will be rightfully yours.



SEEK out legal advice----don't be coerced or misguided!

Answer 12

Yes, if I marry again, I still plan to marry for life.



No need to fear the pre-nup as long as you plan to remain married.



I would have it worded in the following fashion. If either cheats, the cheater loses all marital assets.



The pre-nup it to protect a wealthy person from a gold-digging spouse.



If he is not willing to put in a clause that infidelity by either party is grounds for that party losing all marital assets, then I wouldn't marry him.



Make sure the pre-nup protects you as much as it does him, or don't sign.

Answer 13

Absolutely. I wouldn't be marrying for his money. How else could you prove that? Only the money acquired before marriage would be protected. If we worked and accumulated things in our marriage (as any other married couple does) then I would still get what was rightfully mine if he left. His families money isn't mine to begin with, I wouldn't ask for it if there wasn't a pre-nup.

Answer 14

You don't marry for money, you marry for love. A pre-nup protects the money and assets the person has going into a marriage and not necessarily the money or assets accumulated during the marriage.

Answer 15

Why is his FAMILY setting the terms of your marriage? I am not opposed to a pre-nup itself, but it needs to be a decision between the two of you. If his family is pressuring him about this, they will pressure him about other things, too. There will be many things in your life together that they will offer opinions on. If he is willing to NOT marry you based on their say-so, that is a red flag.

Answer 16

Yes I would, if you really love her sign it, but you could discuss putting a 7 yrs limit on it or another amount of years that you both agree to and this may make you feel better. In this day and age its only normal to protect yourself, if roles where reversed and you asked her to sign would she? You always need to protect what you have now because there are a lot of nastey people out there and if I were you I would sign it. It will also protect you and your goods as well, get her to sign one as well. If you don't then are you just marrying because of the moeny? Thats what it will look like, if you don't. Take care Heather

Answer 17

Pre-nups are like two-edged swords. It hurts both of you (feelings that is). If he really loved you he wouldn't ask you to sign one. If you really loved him you would sign it.

I would only sign if there were stipulations about how much money you would get if he cheated, if he left the marriage.....

Answer 18

His family says no pre-nup no marriage.....does this guy have a mind of his own?

If his family is this involved now,think about what it will be like when you are married.

My suggestion..get out while you can

Answer 19

If I Knew for sure that I was in Love, Yes I would, for what would any money matter.

Then the fact would be obviously evident that your heart is true and no whispers would be heard. Trust would exist without question.

But, you may say I guess they don't trust me because they want me to sign this legal document that would supercede any laws governing marriage, before I say "I Do".

If you are Truly in Love, sing it to establish a lifelong trust between each other, before doubts about their trust can ever be allowed to surface.

Good Luck

Answer 20

I was w/ an atty., for 4 years; asked me 2 marry him 3 x's.His mother was leary of all the women her son brought home to meet dear ol' mom, 'cuz he made $$$$$. But he was not ready for the LIFELONG commitment of MARRIAGE. I would NEVER sign. No matter what his family said, I'd be marrying him not his family. Granted you do marry into a family, but you don't marry the family.

Answer 21

If i truly loved someone then i wouldn't have a problem signing. But if they truly loved you then they wouldn't ask you to sign a pre-nup

Answer 22

Yes.....but a limited one. I mean there are gold diggers out there and they have the right to protect their fortune. But I don't like it if he's a playboy and it's forever.......no one in love ever goes into marraige planning on it to fail...so it hurts when someone asks you to do that. But I just inherited a small amount of money. As soon as I did....my husband quit working......there's money for my kids and their boyfriends are already spending it for them. All the bills and everything are in my name so it's not like I cannot pay them without destroying myself. I said a small amount and at this rate....it will be gone soon. Money changes people and it's just a smart move. It's sad and you may not be that kind of person. Lifes trials and tribulations prove that......consult an attorney...make basic protections for you and your potential children and then just go about life forgetting about the money.....work, save......and just love your man.

Answer 23

I would sign only if I was provided for with a enormous settlement, I mean ever how many million they have put in writing my share. I wouldn't get married, sign one if they didn't give me what I wanted, His family is being sure sonny boy's wife doesn't get a dime if their marriage goes south. No way, don't sign that until you have your atty. look it over and if their in some gilts that would forbid you in any shape or form for getting your share, tear it up and send it to them COD.

Answer 24

Ask yourself this question, would you marry the man if he didnt have the money? If the answer is yes then sign the prenup and get married. If the answer is no then move on. After all your marrying the man not the money!

Answer 25

NO!!!! dont do it, if the money is an issue from the beginning it will always be between you, a prenup is a license to get away with whatever that person that benefits from it, wants to do. I have first hand knowledge of this, in my case it was his license to cheat, and boy cheat he did, I divorced him, after 10 years got nothing. I never cheated on him, and loved him, he loved his money.

Answer 26

I think pre-nups are wrong, but if they insist on a prenup, have some fun with it.

Answer 27

yes but make sure u come out with some thing if the marriage ends. they jus want to make sure u are not marrying him for the money. But dont be stupid, get whats urs.

Answer 28

Yes. I once dated a woman from a wealthy family, and I was clear there would need to be a prenup if we were to get married ... to protect us both.



Thankfully, we didn't get married, but that's another story.

Answer 29

Only if it benefits you! In the first place, why is he marrying you if he doesnt trust you? If it's his family that demands of this, he should defend your rights as his wife-to-be. If he loves you unconditionally, he should stand up for you even if it means that he gets cut off from his inheritence/wealth.

Answer 30

Nope, I wont.

I'll stand up for my principle because in the first place i'm not marrying him for their money.

I'm Marrying him for LOVE- and that is enough reason for me to give up the marriage and sacrifice our relationship if he doesn't have the backbone to fight for me.

That way i can also figure out & measure how much he loves me.

Answer 31

The only way I would sign it is if I were guarenteed a large sum of money if marriage did not work.

Answer 32

I don't see why not, as long as it protects both of you, and isn't unreasonable. But I would be concerned that his family has so much control over him that they decide weather or not the two of you marry. Shouldn't that be his call?

Answer 33

I would get a copy and take it to a lawyer of my own.I would have my own written so if things didn't work out I would be able to leave in peace with something for my troubles.

Answer 34

no problem with the principle but if anyone behaved like that to me I'd give them a slap and tell them to stick there wedding (not over the money, just i wont be given ultimatums like that)



but if it was an idea that me and my man came to together then sure why not?

Answer 35

I don't think I would ,if my husband asked me to i think i would be hurt because it pretty much means he thinks we might not be together forever and I'm in it for love i would say good bye and pray he would change his mind.

Answer 36

Yes, and I would take it to my lawyer to go over it and make sure there are fair provisions for both parties involved.

Answer 37

No, because your life with that family would be a nightmare. Does your bf have any backbone at all?

Answer 38

No I wouldn't.

You are expected to pull your weight, use your money, pay half for the bills.. and then get left on the street if he ever divorced you.. doesn't sound like love to me.

Answer 39

Yes, and why not, you had nothing to do with earning what they already had before marriage.

Answer 40

Do you love him?

If your just looking for money then don't sign

Answer 41

you just marrying him for the money anyways if you werent the prenupt wouldnt matter

Answer 42

yes

Answer 43

Only a woman should willingly sign such a document.

Answer 44

He__ NOOOOO your should Never sign any such thing.

Answer 45

his family are telling you this? what does he think you both should do? i see problems. BIG PROBLEMS! to answer your question - no, not if i could help it !!!

Answer 46

Yes If you really loved him it wouldn't matter would it!!! so you need to decide if you really do or not......

Answer 47

Hell NO I would not if she loves you she would not make you sign it.

Answer 48

if i luv him, and trust him with all of my heart, ya.

Answer 49

only if protects both of u. no cheating, no hitting etc......

Answer 50

YES

Answer 51

probally i would