Should I ask if my husband can tag along?

Question

Last week, I and about 20 other people were invited to a happy hour event after work that's in a few days. My husband takes me to work and picks me up, so I'm wondering if it would be alright if he came along. I feel like the guy in charge would say yes if I asked, but it doesn't seem like the kind of event that you would normally bring non-coworkers to. Should I ask or would it be awkward if he was there? If I don't ask, I probably won't attend myself as there would be nowhere for him to go for at least an hour while I mingled, and he certainly wouldn't drive all the way back home, it's a 45 minute commute during evening rush hour.

Answer 1

First of all, does your husband actually WANT to attend the Happy Hour Event?" (My own husband would rather be 'staked out on an anthill' than attend most things I am invited to with my cronies!) If your husband would be comfortable attending and wants to go, then ask the organizer-guy if it would be okay for him to attend? If your husband does not want to attend, then get a ride there with a co-worker and see if your husband would pick you up later; or get a ride home with a co-worker; or Uber home. You can work this out to everyone's satisfaction!

Answer 2

if you want.

Answer 3

Certo

Answer 4

He can’t just pick you up a little later than normal?

Answer 5

don't ask and don't go. inviting your spouse to a work even is an absolute nonsense

Answer 6

No need to ask, just take him. If you were invited to someplace private, you would need to ask, but since you are going to a public place, it doesn't matter because there will be other people there no one knows too.

Answer 7

As you can see, on a worldwide site, there are regional differences. One person said spouses would attend, but that sure hasn't been my experience. The only work related event I've ever been to where spouses were included is a Christmas dinner at a nice restaurant. Otherwise, it's co-workers just mingling with each other.



So I don't know what to tell you. It might be ok to ask the guy arranging it, or it might be awkward. If you do ask him, state it in a way that makes it clear you'll understand if he doesn't think it's a good idea. You don't want to put him on the spot and make him feel he has to say yes. Also, I take it there isn't someone who lives near you who could give you a ride?

Answer 8

Go ahead and ask if it's okay if hubby attends, because he's your ride home and otherwise you won't be able to make it. It probably won't be a problem (especially if the company isn't paying for the get together). Otherwise, see if hubby can find something else to entertain himself for an hour or two before picking you up (he may have errands he can run or something).

Answer 9

Yeah, hon, don't try to take your husband to a co-worker get-together.

Answer 10

I would assume that a happy hour after work event would very naturally welcome spouses. Do ask though. In general.. after work socializing events should expect some people to bring their spouses. Please ask the host today. "Happy Hour" events tend to be nohost bars but you want to know that.

Answer 11

I think it is a bad idea to socialize with co workers at any time. It causes problems on the job at later dates. I just would not attend.

Answer 12

Stephanie, why do you come across as though you are talking about a dog, rather than the love of your life, who just happens to take you to work each day and picks you up and thus, showing that you would not have a job to go to, if he did not do that!



What about your husband? I assume that you know he would be happy to "tag" along and be left for an hour whilst you have fun?



Honestly, your question and follow up is just so disrespectful against the very man who enables you to work!

Answer 13

Why can't you get home via Taxi/Ubber/Lyft/whatever?

Regardless, there is nothing wrong with asking.