Alone for Thanksgiving?

Question

Well its official... this is my first Thanksgiving that I will be alone. I used to spend it with my boy & wife, but now Im divorced, Im all alone. I dont get to see my boy this years Thanksgiving but will have him next year, but I do get him for X-mas this year.

All of my family is going out of state, and all my buddys are spending it with their famils & I would hate to intrude on a family gathering while Im just their as a sore thumb. So Im pretty much planning on making me a turkey sandwich & getting drunk... hell, got nothing better to do.

Anyone here spend the holidays alone before? What did you do to ease the pain?

Answer 1

Yes, I have. It wasn't painful. Thanksgiving is just a day like any other day. It just happens to be on a Thursday, every year. What did I do? Well, I didn't treat it any different than the day before or the day after. I survived. You will too.

Answer 2

I;m really sorry for your circumstances. That sucks!!! I would think one of your friends would invite you over?? Whats wrong with them?? Anyway, think this way. In just a couple of months, you'll be seeing your little boy on christmas. Think of that. it should make you feel better. Happy thanksgiving!!! And PLEASE>>> don't get drunk. Thats not the answer. And it will make you feel worse. May I suggest something? Maybe you should go to a homeless shelter and volunteer to hand out the food for dinner. Maybe that will help you not to be alone. GOOD LUCK!!! Make the best of the holiday!!!

Answer 3

I am sorry to hear about your situation. PLease know that sad times pass and that there will be other holidays in your life that will be filled with love and family.



But for this holiday, that won't be the case. I think it would be a good idea to head to a homeless shelter or soup kitchen. THey will need volunteers and you can use a sad day to help others. I once read that if you are feeling very bad, you should go and do something good for someone else.



You have the chance to help others, but you will really be helping yourself by moving outside of your sadness.



Best of luck and Happy Thanksgiving.

Answer 4

Oh, that's so sad. I've spent Thanksgiving by myself before, only because I didn't feel like going to the in-laws with the family For me it was my quiet time so I didn't mind, until I started to get hungry. I jumped in the car looking to find a place to eat, and there was nothing open! Who knew? I thought there would be someplace open for people alone like me, but noooooo! Anyway, if you get an invite by friends, I strongly advise you to take them up on it. Show up at their door with a bottle of wine, and a smile. It'll make them feel good that you accepted. That's what Thanksgiving is all about. A time to be thankful for family and friends.

Answer 5

I understand that you do not want to impose on your friends or co-workers and your family is far away. I think every person at one point of his/her life had to go through it. It is ok, it will pass. Next time you are in relationship you will appreciate it so much more. For now I would suggest to make the best of it. Try to volunteer, there are a lot of people that would be very thankful for your help! Good luck!

Answer 6

Welcome to the club. I'm a four year veteran myself and I can finally say that this year I am not saddened by it. I would much rather have them here, but I am finally comfortable with it.



I can say this, however. There are many of us out there and if you choose not to spend it with a friend(or an anonymous stranger for that matter)... well, I don't blame you, but that part is a choice.



Btw the way, you won't be the only one making that choice. I'll be crying in my beer as well. More for the loss of my grandparents than my family, but still...

Answer 7

Just remember that there's always a chance to create a new family. I have no family or good friends to spend holidays with, but I try to think of the future and how I might one day have good ones.. Take care.

Answer 8

Man, did you make me feel bad.



Write down your blessings on paper and then thank God for them.



I KNOW that your friends would love to have you over for THanksgiving. That's what the day is all about. If you get invited to go, take up the invitation and GO!!

Answer 9

Go and volunteer, help the ones who have even less to be thankful for. You still get the boy for Christmas. Be thankful for that.

Answer 10

my wife was kill by a drunk diver 2 years ago and the holidays are hard when your alone so i go to help in a soup kitchen for the homeless it help not feeling alone and you help people

Answer 11

Awww.. poor you! Try to spend Thanksgiving with your family they will surely accept you! Well, Try to have a happy thanksgiving.

Answer 12

I rented a few funny movies and stuffed myself until i almost burst. It will be ok. trust me

Maybe you can travel with you family and don't think of it as being a burden to be with your friends on christmas....ok best wishes to you.

Answer 13

You could go to a bar and have a few drinks to ease the pain.

Answer 14

why be alone-- go volunteer somewhere and help people