I have a question, my husband filed for modification of visitation papers. The reason he is asking for modification is, the current visitation papers are from 8 years ago when he worked on midnight shift. My husband and his ex have had a verbal agreement for some time that we can get the kids every other weekend and every thursday. The thing is, whenever they have a disagreement, she resorts back to the papers, which limits his time with the children. So, he filed for modification and sent her a copy of the papers and also has a court date. If she refuses the certified mail and does not show up to court, does he automatically win? Or do we have to do this all over again..