my sex life with the wife is boring , how to work on that?

Question

do you think sex is a core sissue in a relationship.

Answer 1

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Answer 2

How pathetic is that? I suppose you're out here looking for what you can get. Good sex is a by product of having a good relationship. Outstanding sex is a by product of emotional and spiritual oneness. A person doesn't even have to have sex before marriage and worry about if they are good in bed - if the trust and love is developed first. Boring sex is a by product of a relationship where you're not connecting and are lacking something there. Great physical sex with someone else is not going to compensate for your relational deficiencies. You'll only end up feeling worse on the inside and hurting people in the process. Build a great relationship and nothing else is needed to build excitement because of the intimacy and connectedness established in other areas of your lives - none of this baloney with toys and stuff is even relevant - you can have something way beyond all of this baloney with a change of heart in how you view your relationship. Your relationship with your wife is not a means to an end of having sex. The relationship is the start and the end of it - AWESOME sex is the byproduct of a GREAT relationship - not the GOAL. Do things in being unselfish, serving the other and doing things to delight and suprise and acknowledge how you appreciate them outside of the sexual arena. Surprise - not the answer you're looking for but if you take it to heart - it will turn things inside out for you.

Answer 3

It depends on lot of things.

It is imperative to know whether your wife is working lady?

Is she suffering from any sickness?

Has some thing unwanted things happen in her family?

How your children are doing in school?

And regarding you , sex life depends on certain factors.

When do you return from Office/factory/workplace?

Do you extend the hands of cooperation to your wife in her kitchen work?

Do you drink or smoke heavily?

If a person is given some of the above informations it will be better to advice.

Any in general you have to act i.e. love play and try to arrouse her, change the position,

Besides try to love her besides the sex.

After all sex is not only criteria in family life, but no doubt that is vital.

Better to consult a doc.

Since you have mentioned it is boaring, that means you have your own problem. And may be you have started not liking your wife.

It is therefore suggested you must change the position and extend the love play for long time. And try to think positive.

Answer 4

Sex is extremely important for a healthy relationship. Trust me, she still wants it just as much as you do. She still has her freaky streak... She is bored, too. Bring some toys into it. Try new positions. Encourge her to throw a passion party!!! And give her money to spend there! Get a bunch of gossiping, lonely, drunken women in a room full of a young lady who makes her living on selling them sex toys and advice! Watch out... mama's coming home!!! haha

Answer 5

A dull routine can become a big issue.



Good for you for wanting to work on it and not looking outside your marriage for one on the side.



Do you remember what you use to do when you were dating your wife? Do you remember the special places you would go and the little things that you would do for her? Start doing them again. A little romance makes a girl go crazy, and you'll reap the rewards in the bedroom.

Answer 6

I really dont think, sex is a core isseu in a relation ship....if it would, than how people pass life together with full caring and loving at the age of 50+? Sex doent matter than! Or, why wives stay with their husbands or so husbands when any one of them fell in serious sickness?

Sex is an important part of life - it's a need, but, dont mix it with normal lifestyle.......dont give it life-death priroty.



Try to discuss with ur partner openly about problems u r facing.......afterall, if u dont share with her, with whom u will share? Express near her...she will understand u also and in such way u will get a solution.

Answer 7

You say you always give her multiplys so maybe she has no idea that you are not satisfied. Try telling her what you want her to do to you. Look seriously at your lifestyle too because if you are not getting the same satisfaction as you used to then the problem might be with you somewhere.

Answer 8

you need to have sex other than in your bedroom. Go for a drive, rent a hotel, out on the porch, whatever. The change of venue is fun. How about watching porn together?

Answer 9

Half of it is your part. Maybe you are the boring one. Initiate something interesting.



Take her to Victoria's secret, when you get home, grab a spatula, some body butter, some skittles, and get interesting.

Answer 10

you are supposed to be loving & romantic all day long not just in bed

she might be uptight if thats whats been happening

do little things around the house for her as well to make her feel very loved & special

when you do all that she will most likely be more loving & romantic back to you

Answer 11

yes it is, you will just have to try new things with each other. ask her if she has any ideas, or buy some of those sex therapy books from Barns and Noble

Answer 12

it probably isn't and judging from your avatar, you are getting older and probably have a really busy and hectic life, i suggest taking a retreat with the wife in a cabin in the woods, (just dont have a heart attack) lmao

Answer 13

try talking to her about trying new things if u think it is boring she probably does too or u can try slowly doing new things for ideas buy cosmo alot of men do read it

Answer 14

gee....try pleasing her first. yes, it can be a core issue if you're selfish about it. not getting enough? try to see it from her point of view-maybe you're lousy when it comes to satisfying her. there's a reason nice guys finish last...

Answer 15

Need more information. What's so boring? What are you tired of?

Answer 16

wht did u think marriage is...fun and adventurous everyday?