Does it make me weak that I can't leave my husband?

Question

I've had confirmation from several different people that I should leave my husband. He is a raging alcoholic and hasn't supported his family in three years (this includes children he has with two other women).

THe fist year of our marriage was relatively smooth and his drinking didn't seem to be a problem (I admit that I was very naive about the issue and had never dealt with a addict before). By the second year of the marriage, things took a turn for the worse and he was drinking constantly and became extremely verbally and emotionally abusive. a few months before our third year of marriage, I managed to kick him out of the house (with the help of my MIL) and he eventually agreed to go to rehab. Fast forward another 6 months (today) and he's fail another rehab and a detox center. He still doesn't work (although he's a little more productive) and his verbal abuse is much less significant (but still there when he's completely hammered - which is maybe once or twice a week). I need to get out for my children's sake (we have a blended family - yours, mine, and ours). But he simply won't leave! I've talked to a lawyer and a cop and they both told me that my MIL has to file for a formal eviction which will take up to 90 days. I'm at a loss because I want him out now! I can't leave the home because I work from home and everything is set up here, not to mention, I don't want to uproot my kids and I am low income (hence the reason I'm living with my MIL).

So, am I just a weak woman who is afraid to leave her husband? Maybe, perhaps it's a sign that I need to try to work it out with him no matter what the cost? I got him to move out before to go to rehab, but now he absolutely refuses. What should I do? I don't live near any other family.

Answer 1

It's not fair to your kids, or yourself, to stay one more day with this abusive alcoholic. If you have to wait 90 days for him to leave (I have no idea what an MIL is) then pack up your home office and your kids and go stay with friends or relatives until he's out. This is not uprooting your kids, this is rescuing them from what sounds like a nightmare of a situation. Good luck

Answer 2

First off a ultimate hubby would not cheat and moment...there's NO such factor as a ultimate hubby. I commend you for eventually amassing sufficient force to finish this marriage. Do now not fall for his threats or begs on account that HE evidently has a obstacle and I desire he no less than seeks the aid he demands. I believe he wishes to be a married guy dwelling the unmarried lifestyles and he demands to become aware of you'll be able to NOT have it each methods. You will uncover the braveness to head on with out him via elevating your boys in an enviroment that's healthful and now not in a concern wherein they're going to develop up believing they're believe to cheat on their other halves. Find force in realizing you deserve bigger and are valued at bigger. Know that if he REALLY cherished you, he could be not able to be with different females. I kicked out my dishonest hubby while I already had three sons and was once 7months pregnant and I NEVER regretted it. Do now not knowingly ever ALLOW a person to disrespect you on account that you're keen on him. Put your love into your kids and constructing a bigger lifestyles for the three of you, exceptional of success.

Answer 3

First - Unlock your gate to freedom then everything else will fall into places.



Take help from Women Cell in this case. Ur husband is an alcoholic which is destroying ur family life so theres no point that he wud get support from the Law. Its easy only thing u need is the courage to untag him and move on confidently!