Why does my Husband get so upset when i get.....?

Question

when i get sick , he is upset when i tell him i dont feel well , he said its coz he doesnot know how to handle the situation and too much worry , i feel not supported sometimes , he is an excelente Husband and Father but when i get sick he gets too upset and i feel he does not support me , could he be saying the thuth, is that the way he show how worry he is ? thanks for your answers

Answer 1

I would say when you marry someone it is your duty to support them in sickness and in health. I think that's the way it goes.

Answer 2

I guess he just feels bad in a way, because when my wife gets sick, I am the same way. I feel bad that there isn't anything I can do to help. I mean, with a headache, I give her some aspirin and lay down with her, calm her down. But, when it's like a stomach bug, and I know there is nothing I can do, I just try to avoid her, because she'll bite my head off if I start to bug her.



I guess it depends on what kind of sick you are feeling. I don't know if it is something you have problems with often, or if you just get crappy feeling from time to time.



Either way, he's your husband, he loves you. Hope things get better

Answer 3

Sometimes people don't know how to react rationally without comming off cold or mad when they really meant otherwise. He sounds like he loves you but (subconscously) seems like he gets scared when you get sick because he may have had some type of scar due to that thought of someone he truly loved/loves getting sick. Tell him you'd appreciate it if he could understand that people get sick when their mind and body do not harmonize and that it's nothing, and that you'd get better fast. We're only human and when ur body over exerts - it crashes to let us know we need to slow down and rest up a bit.

Answer 4

Depends upon how often you get sick, what the results of it are, etc. Maybe you are sick, maybe you are simply a hypo who thinks a hang nail should get you a week in bed.



Do you seem to need to get medical attention for your problems? Does the doctors rug have a groove in it because you visit so often? Are you in the frequent visitor club at the doctor or hospital, for various/multiple things? Or are you one who is always sick but never badly enough to need medical treatment?



Do you seem to be well when you want to do something or have plans as a rule? If so, he probably thinks you are a faker and full of crap, who is just trying to get out of things you dont wish to do, but dont want to be seen as lazy, selfish, etc.



Supportive? Ladies, some of you dont seem to feel a man supportive unless he is a bridge pier, never moving, always supportive of you no matter what you do or how you act.

Answer 5

I don't know what it is, but I don't know anyone whose husband doesn't get bent out of shape when they get sick. Even the most sensitive ones freak out because they don't know how to take care of a sick person. And men hate to feel incompetent. Try just telling him something he could do to help you. Like, "Honey, I would love it if you would run to the store and get me a magazine and some cough drops." I bet he does it, you get what you want, and he stops feeling upset because he did something for you. Men.

Answer 6

Men really don't know how to handle it when their lady gets sick, but he should at least make an effort by asking you what he can do to help. He's just using excuses. Tell him what you need him to do since he won't ask. If you get a messed up reaction to that then you know what time it is.

Answer 7

I know exactly how your husband feels! I too am this way, it is because my wife takes excellent care of our home and when she is sick I am afraid that I can't do as well as she can. I am afraid that the children wont eat well since I can't cook, and I have to buy them fast food. I am afraid that they won't have clean close since I don't know how to do laundry very well. I am afraid to miss the correct time the medicine is due for my wife, I am afraid that of alot of things, but I am more afraid of admitting all of this to my wife. I can deal messing up my life, but not my families.



Talk to your husband, let him know how you feel and hopefully he can open up to you to were your worries are put to rest. Good luck.

Answer 8

He's not really angry with you, he's angry at him self for not knowing what or how to handle the situation. It's also a fear that he might lose you, THEN what would he do. I once heard that it also has to do with selfishness. Not sure how that works. Talk it over with him. Ask if he get scared when you get sick...see what he opens up to saying. Best of luck.

Answer 9

He probably can't handle things when your out of comission. That is no reason for him to make you feel worse when you are sick! He should grow up and help out the best he can so you can feel better faster! P.S. When he is sick do you lay guilt trips on him!?! Remind him of that next time you are blue!

Answer 10

That could be. I've seen men who get very upset when their wife is crying or sick. When you are well, it would be good to talk to him about it. Suggest things that he can do. Ask him why he gets upset when you're sick.

Answer 11

yes he is telling you the truth, many men can't handle this, they feel powerful to help you and when that happens it brings men down, [especially people they love] sounds crazy but its true, men like to be in control of a situation. They think they are expected to take care of all things, of course he loves you, tell him you don't expect him to heal you. We females just want to talk about things, but males are action people--let him know he 'isn't expected to actually heal you, that's why we have doctors. just be a little more tender at that time.'

Answer 12

i have been like that to and it was because i felt my wife should be doing something to avoid getting sick all the time. I later learned from getting sick a few times myself that it just happens, so sorry your husband isn't telling you the truth of why he gets mad i bet its because he just don't understand.

Answer 13

He could be telling you the truth. A lot of guys think they have to protect their women and when sickness occurs then they are at a loss as to what to do and feel helpless.

Answer 14

Guys don't know how to show worry, its not manly. My husband once yelled at me for falling and hurting my back. Not unusual really for a guy to not know how to handle such things.

Answer 15

Guys cant take care of us when were sick but want to be pampered when they are thats the bottom line.lol

Answer 16

He sounds irresponsible and not at all like a man who is in love.

I think you want to see him with those "rose colored" glasses, but I'm sure if you were honest with yourself and us, we could see many more instances of his NOT being a good partner.



Good Luck

Answer 17

remind your husband his marrige vows in sickness and in health and so on he needs to help you when your sick he can worry but don't get angrey at you

Answer 18

He's not worried - he's a baby!!! He needs you to take care of him and his needs, so he can't take it when you have needs of your own. This is pretty common with men. Confront him.

Answer 19

No, thats the way he shows how spoiled he is!

Answer 20

He depends on you to be strong

Answer 21

SCREW THAT GUY!

NEXT TIME HE GET'S SICK

TAKE A LADIES NIGHT OUT!

Answer 22

you are right and may I add that he is also very selfish

Answer 23

he is a freak he likes sex alot