Should I be concerned my wife's coworker is texting her and sometimes calls her baby?

Question

Its not a lot of texting maybe 3 or 4 text a day and she's not deleting them but I saw it last night when I was playing a game on her phone and he said goodnight baby. I looked back through the thread and he says it quite often. We are in the south but it looks like he's flirting to me. My wife said he's just a friend and has been acting really lovie with me more so then usually so I don't know.

Answer 1

3 or 4 texts a day from someone who is neither a partner nor a close friend? I'd say that IS a lot of texting!

It's good that your wife isn't hiding anything from you, but it sounds like his intentions are dishonourable, whether she's realised that yet or not. I'd advise her to take a step back from this guy.

Answer 2

Absolutely. She shouldn't be allowing anyone else to call her 'baby' except you. And what is this co-worker doing infringing on your home turf? She is with him all day at work..Enuf is enuf. Maybe the "acting more lovie with you lately" is an extension of co-worker's 'lovie' with YOUR WIFE. Unless the texting is a work requirement, he has no business texting w/your's. He needs his own playmate.

Answer 3

Yes, it's inappropriate. He obviously has ZERO respect for you or how you feel about their "friendship". And I wouldn't expect your wife to put an end to it since she obviously kinda likes it. The fact that she's being extra lovey dovey with you is a sign that he's warming her up a bit for you. Thanks I guess? But unless I knew the guy, I would warn my wife that the next time he texts you at night and says "goodnight baby" that he can expect a visit from you at work!

Answer 4

You are a man. . . if a woman was texting you 3-4 times and ending with 'baby'. she would have a problem. i had a coworker once thatI was close to but we never texted during the day bc i didnt allow that bc i had an inkling that he was attracted to me but he never said it. alot of men who wants a married woman, get close being subtle with his moves. being nice and friendly. suddenly begin saying things like 'BABY' hint, hint. the rule of thumb in my marriage is . . . if a friend or a coworker of the opposite sex cant say or act the same way in front of your spouse- there is a red flag! and it is subject to be questioned. that is how affairs get started. the Prey, your wife in this case, let their guard down.

Answer 5

Yes. That is alot of texting! First it starts with social websites, text, phone calls. Then later on lunch, gifts, and sex.These are signs of an emotional affair. Eventually it will develop into a relationship or sex. My husbands married co-workers would call him and tell him about their freaky sexcapades and porn sites. I used to tell him birds of a feather flock together and eventually you will be tempted to do the same.



Well, my husband of almost 15 years just left me stating "it was him and not me." And that he had debt and prior temptations of substance abuse problems and he stays with another women. The same woman from his past that contacted him on the social website he starting calling, texting, accepting gifts, and helping. He started changing his style of clothes and shoes, facial hair, grooming, separate bank account, not wanting to spend time on holidays, etc



I am sorry to inform you, but these are all signs that your marriage is in trouble.

Answer 6

3-4 texts a day is not a lot, but it's a lot enough to say that there is some type of friendship going on there. I think it's very possible that he's a gay friend.

Answer 7

Red. Flag. There's definitely something wrong with this scenario. My friends don't have pet names for me and if my husband's friends (make or female) called him baby, I'd be concerned. Bring it up to her, talk about it.

Answer 8

you sensed it right. Ask your wife to maintain some boundaries in friend circle otherwise you will have problem eventually if you don't give her warning right now.



talk to her politely and ask her opinion on her friendship with her co-worker.

Answer 9

THIS IS CALLED A HUGE RED FLAG!



I THINK I WOULD QUESTION WHY THE WIFE LETS IT HAPPEN...CALLING HER BABE!



SOUNDS LIKE SHE LIKES THE ATTENTION



IF I WERE YOU I WOULD TEXT BACK NIGHT BABE..LOVE YOUR NAME...SO HE GETS A CLUE..AND SHE COULD LAUGH IT OFF THE NEXT DAY AT WORK



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Answer 10

Friends don't call each other baby. You're being lied to.

Answer 11

If you are serious that she is receiving these texts, she is most likely having sex with him.

Answer 12

I think its time to set some boundaries, but only if they apply to yourself as well.

Answer 13

well...it sounds a bit fishy that she would allow him to refer to her as baby, can you keep tabs on her? does she have time to cheat on you? i would be concerned about it but i wouldn't let it eat away at me.

Answer 14

My dear friend,yes you should take objection.

Answer 15

my friend i think its time to take a big decision