Is there such a thing as abandonment in a marriage situation? if so how long of a time perios?

Question

My husband has been staying somewhere else but refuses now to come and get all of his clothes. He says that I can't throw him out and he can leave the clothes here until our divorce is final, but the papers aren't even filed yet. After what period of him not coming home can I say "abandonment" and make him get his stuff? Or can I at all?

Answer 1

If he is no longer living there, I would think 90 days. But just to be sure call the state police and ask.

Answer 2

Check with your attorney - laws differ from state to state. Until the property is dispensed in the divorce he is right to some degree. If you both own a house together until there is some agreement on what will be done with the house he does have the right to keep his stuff there. Just my opinion. I would ask your divorce lawyer if there is a way to get him and his stuff out of the residence when the divorce is filed.

Answer 3

Does this guy have documentation that this stuff is in the house? Haha! I bet not! Sell it all and make some cash. You never saw the stuff. You have no idea what he is talking about. He has not lived in the house for xx days.



Abandonment issues depend on the state. Get an attorney and don't speak to this guy. Always have a go-between. He is leaving the stuff there to keep one foot in the door and you off balance. If you will argue with him over his stuff, then he thinks he still has a hold on you. Go cold turkey on this guy, sister!

Answer 4

You can throw all of his stuff out, and he can't do a thing about it since your still married. This recently happened to a lady that my mom knows where her husband abandoned her and her 4 kids for a younger women, and she sold all of his hunting and fishing equipment on a garage sale (including a $1500 hunting doodad for $100!). Sell his stuff and use it for a divorce if that's where it's heading.

Answer 5

Wish I could say this for sure but get a storage and put all of his stuff in there, if he doesn't want to pick it up there and pay for it. If you throw it away, he could be a complete (ya know) and file that you ruined his clothes. Just remember keep receipts!

Answer 6

Go hire a divorce lawyer on Monday. Don't use the same lawyer as your husband or you will be the one to get screwed. The lawyer works for one person....and that will be your husband. Get a lawyer and file the papers. He or she will have the answers for you. Do it. Your husband will expect you to be weak and let him tell you what is going to happen. Surprise him.

Answer 7

I would burn his stuff he obviously doesnt want it.

Go for irreconcilable differences then file for divorce straight away.

You can get a divorce on two year seperation if he has been gone that long but if its just recent shake his boots and get the papers moving along.

Answer 8

How long have you been married before he moved out? I have no idea how that works, but yeah thats bs, I w ould just give him a week to get his stuff and throw it in the trash if he doesn't come and get it in that time frame.

Answer 9

Call your local police department. I'd run a legal notice in the local paper giving him x days to collect his things and state abandoned clothing and items will be discarded, and keep the paper for proof that you gave him written notice, if he tries to collect gainst you in court for replacement value.

Answer 10

Change those locks! Put all his clothing etc. in boxes or trash bags sit them outside the door. Tell him they are there, do this after lock change, he;s just pulling your strings, do it you can. To heck with him, first lawyer consult is also free,

Answer 11

Contact a lawyer....dont do anything with his clothes.....youve got to be the bigger person...it looks better on you in the divorce hearing....



Can you afford the mortgage/rent on that house by yourself? your husband might have just royally screwed you over....

Answer 12

first ing i would do is check the laws online on abandonment but if im not mistaken possesion is 9 tenths of the law and after 3 months his stuff is yours do with it as you please also dont take crap from him he is the one at loss