Why do men lie about EVERYTHING?

Question

Why do men lie about everything.

My husband lies about where and what he eats, how much he spends, what game he plays, his phone, whether or not he changed our daughter, what shows he watched, porn(which I don't have a problem with except when he lies about it), how he feels about people, what he wants, work, conversations he's had with me or about me, and basically everything.

Why does he do this?

Answer 1

Most of us don't. You have only yourself to blame for marrying a compulsive liar. It was an odd choice on your part, but I wonder why you're complaining about it now.

Answer 2

My husband does not lie. In the very beginning of our relationship I did catch him a few fibs here and there and we got to the bottom of it and it stopped. Ask yourself some questions... have you or do you ever complain about what he eats/how much he spends/what game he plays/ etc? Because if you have, then you've set up a reason for him to feel he HAS to lie. Some things like not wanting to hurt someone about how they feel is normal and everyone has done it. Has someone else made him feel he has to lie? You need to work this out. I did and it IS possible. Men don't lie about everything.. only some men do and they usually have a reason.



The one thing I learned in my marriage and want to pass on is you need to pick your battles. If you're always complaining then he's always on the defensive and not listening to you.

Answer 3

First off, MEN do not lie about everything. Some do, most don't.



I don't know what the issue is with your husband, but I would strongly suggest counseling. A few white lies here and there are normal, to lie to your spouse about absolutely everything is not. I would guess he doesn't even know why he does it, and that it's a habit by this point.

Answer 4

He sounds like a compulsive liar which means he can get better if he wants to and works on it.



Pathological liars are structurally screwed up (similar to autism but the 'opposite way') and they tend to construct alternate realities (that only exist in their mind) that become 'true' for them.

They'll pass a lie detector test.



The compulsive liar knows he's lying (will fail the detectors) but for whatever reason has more compulsions to lie and less self-control not to so they spit out trivial lies left and right.



He's lying about trivial things so I don't think it's about you trying to control him (in which case you would deserve to be lied to.)

Answer 5

First off, I wouldn't say it is all men who lie (although majority of them do) You could have married a pathological liar, which is strange you wouldn't have noticed his lying before you got married. Or you could just have such unreasonably high expectations of him that he is constantly scared he is going to let you down or make you mad - so he lies to try to tell you what you want to hear. Maybe he figures lying and telling you what you want to hear is easier than hearing you yell at him. Try backing off and not nagging at him so much and see if that changes the lies. If not then take him to a therapist to check into treatment for psychological lying. Good luck

Answer 6

I would love to tell you, but you wouldn't believe me since all we men are Liars!

Then again I might be lying about that?

Then Again I might be lying about the reversal as well!

I guess you are just stuck with women's opinions...but wait...they are all Liars too!!





Seriously...your husband may be a pathological liar. I have met them a few times and all you can do is scratch your head or extricate yourself from them. We used to notice something about our old boss years ago...he literally would lie even if it was more convenient to tell the truth!

Answer 7

Not all men lie but, I think that those who do are nothing but ball-less cowards.

But, by the sounds of your husband he may be a pathological liar. He may not be able to help it.

See if the liar will go to therapy. Just don't set it up as just him. You KNOW he'll lie and say he went if you don't go with him. :)

Answer 8

Because you married a liar.



My SO and I do not have this problem. Maybe you are too controlling so he feels that he must lie to you in order to be a little free.

Answer 9

First off, your generalization is not appreciated as we do not lie about everything.



It sounds like you and your husband have some serious trust issues that need to be worked out. He lies because lying about what he has been up to is less painful than telling you the truth, or at least, that is where he is at in life.

Answer 10

Look , I'm a bit of liar too...I do it sometimes when I really don't have to but I have a compulsion to do it whenever i feel that I might be backed into a corner or might be doing something wrong. its a habit you develop overtime that gets worse if you are good at it. you husband probably has trust issues with you or himself or both

Answer 11

Not all men do this. You just married a liar. He sounds like he may be a pathological liar and if he is, he probably needs professional help.

Answer 12

Because you are so critical of everything he does I bet. Lies are the best way to maintain your ignorance and so you can have peace witht the illusion that you are always right and he should not start an argument with you

Answer 13

Maybe he feels like you're judging him and won't like him if he tells the truth. Search yourself and see if you have been harsh or judgemental. Let him know that you love and accept him for who he is and that you prefer uncomfortable truths to comfortable lies. And reward him for telling the truth - even if you don't like what he says.

Answer 14

You married a liar. I suggest you stick to eating ice cream from now on.

Answer 15

First i think you need to know something .. A Real Men Never Lies .. and one who lies is not a Men

Answer 16

Not all men lie so stop being a stereotype. Maybe he is lying to you because you are a Woman shovanist

Answer 17

hey i take offence to that, i'm so brutally honest that a lot of people hate me for it.



your husband though, sounds like an ****. although there is 2 sides to every story, and you may just be angry which is magnifying the issue.

Answer 18

because women nag too much. If we told the truth you would nag until we lost the abitity to hear. If you want your husband to stop lieing then stop nagging. Matter in fact act like a guy not a girl for a day then see what happens.

Answer 19

Thanks for that. That's awesome. This question actually violated every man on earth because of your dishonest husband. I'm thinking maybe he lies to avoid your criticism. Just guessing.

Answer 20

He could be a pathological liar...not all men are like this.

Answer 21

Sounds like you both need counseling and prayer. Good luck.

Answer 22

men dont always lie but somtimes they do depends on ehat kind of man he is

Answer 23

Like father like son.

Answer 24

Sounds to me like he is a pathological liar. Divorce him.

Answer 25

The day you got married did he say " I love you"



He lied





HA HA HA

Answer 26

Could be that he is leading a double life that you are unaware of.

Answer 27

We don't!!! Ok, well, maybe thats a lie...

Answer 28

The same reason WOMEN lie about EVERYTHING!!!!

Answer 29

because. men are liars. they lie.



theyre dumbbbb.



men are incapable of change, progress, or good things