MEN OVER 35...can some men just be offered too many blowjawbs?

Question

or too much sex? Seriuosly, I walways offer my man these things and he is almsot never in the mood, i know he is cheating so that isnt it. But it is really taking a toll on my self esteem, meaning that getting rejected from him is killing me. Im not ugly, im five nine and 125 pounds, blond and blue eyedm nice teeth and skin..he says im hot, but what gives???
also for him to go down on me, he says he has to be in the mood, what the heck does that mean??? he is 38 and im 27,

Answer 1

I am near 37 and I would be good to go with my wife anytime anyplace and I would do anything she request of me!



I just wish she had a desire like yours!



I LOVE going down on my wife, the best is after a shower or bath! ! ! ! I will do it every time she ask! (and even try when she doesn't ask)

Answer 2

Well, if you're certain he's cheating then maybe the answer is he's also always getting the BJ's from that other person which is getting him tired and NOT in the mood. Then again if he's NOT cheating then entice him by setting the mood in a different place without him knowing at first and then offer to do the naughty. Sometimes the routine just falls in place even though we are willing and able and they're not!

Good Luck!

Answer 3

Diana...why is this such a terrific concern for you and oodles of men and women?



Plus....don't you think that alittle too much of anything can become passe? You eat steak every night and you'll grow tired of it too.



Insofar as 'not in the mood'....well.....me too. Let's face it, there are some days that getting laid just is not the order of business. Some days you may want to come home and linger in the boudoir and other times come in the door and throw you on the couch and go to town. So yeah...I can understand when he says "the mood" thing.



Don't concern yourself with this stuff. It isn't you. Take some comfort in that.

Answer 4

no you sound very hot and a guy 38 should still have what it takes to keep you happy. now if he was 58 i could see maybe. i hope he wakes up soon cause someone like you wont be lonely long..i bet you do have guys hit on you alot already...when sexually frustrated things can happen even tho you don't want them too. maybe a little jealousy needs to happen...go out some with your girlfriends but don't tell him where. leave for a couple of hours in the evening and just say shopping...you can stir him up again...good luck

Answer 5

My man wants another bj while he is getting a bj and he is pushing forty too...He is always enthusiastic to reciprocate and gets ornery if I put him off. My husband has a really stressful job, so sometimes he is just too tense for sex, but he has NEVER refused a bj. Either your man is stressed, has a health issue like being overweight or heart issues, or he is getting it somewhere else. If it is stress, you need to let him know that his behavior is affecting you and maybe he will be a little more attentive. If it is health issues, make a doctor's appointment for him. He may be slowing down a bit, but he shouldn't be shutting you down completely...That's not nice. He wouldn't like it if you did that to him.

Answer 6

Diana,



Get him to a doctor and get him a complete physical. There could be medical reasons for his behavior.



After you rule out medical reasons, find out if he is addicted to any thing like porn or drugs? if he is then get him to quit or you quit on him.



First of all he is much older than you are. It could be that you are too easy for him. Provide him some Challenge and don't offer anything to him. Let him work/earn his bjs.



If nothing helps, give him an ultimatum and prepare your self to move on.



Good luck,

Answer 7

I'm around his age. In my opinion there is no such thing as too much lovin, especially of the oral kind.



But my wife thinks I'm a "sex addict" so there you have it. He probably just has a much lower drive than you do.

Answer 8

Not a good situation at all.



He could simply not like you or is even be repulsed by you.



He is having his member mouthed regularly by another and has you snowed.



He is gay.



He is having depression or another medical condition.



Not to encouraging, is it? You are in trouble. Take care of yourself.

Answer 9

I know of a few guys who dont enjoy Bj's. I dont know why? But they do not like them. Maybe he is one these. Or he is just so bored of you that the idea doesnt turn him on anymore? Do you or have ever offered to swallow? Maybe thats what he needs!

Answer 10

Some of us just like the real thing a whole lot more...



Why settle for a McRib when a whole rack of ribs can be had?

Answer 11

I have the opposite problem. My drive and spontaneous actions at 45 is alive and well, but my wife isn't interested.

Answer 12

i had to look at the name who typed this, i thought i wrote it! i'm ALWAYS fondling, touching, tonguing things, and NOTHING! he's 43, i'm 37. i'm ALWAYS in the mood for giving a bj, but 1/2 the time, he's like i'm watching tv!

Answer 13

Sound to me like you need to drop the loser and find someone worthy of your affection! Good Luck

Answer 14

he has the Madonna syndrome.



sucking dick or licking pussy is for whores, not his wife. chances are he enjoys the hell out it, but his wife shouldnt do kinda stuff.



my ex husband thought i was the madonna, birthing his kids and all. we had missionary sex. clean. but he was banging the hell out of his mistress.......oral sex and all. damn, i couldnt even get it bent over the couch.



and yes, we had a great marriage.

Answer 15

i think its his age. i noticed a HUGE drop in my husbands sexual appetite after he turned 36 or 37. could just be as simple as that.

Answer 16

Maybe you don't give good bjs? If you are lacking oral skills that might be putting him off.

Answer 17

Bro you are still in your prime. His drive insn't as strong as yours. As men age their sex drive...takes a drive.

Answer 18

Maybe you aren't that good at it, or maybe he is tired or too lazy, or he doesn't think he is good at it.

Answer 19

your just His OLD wife its that simple

Answer 20

Not me.