Why do you think my husband has a man's name listed ICE in his tennis book ?

Question

I needed a phone number and went to check my husband's little tennis phone book in his tennis bag for the number and I noticed on the front page at in case of illness or accident, a man's name was entered there! I should tell you that my husband sleeps downstairs (his choice). He has been hiding something on the computer because he makes me sign on as a guest and also he always clears the screen if I walk in the room. He guards his cell phone and makes calls away from home, etc. We have been intimate only a few times in 7 years. I am suspecting he's gay but he has always looked at women and confessed an affair 16 years ago with a woman on his volleyball team. He's also emotionally abusive and we are on the rocks really bad right now.

Answer 1

You must now "transform" into "Private Eye" woman.



I'm sorry that your husband does not make wild passionate love to you. I know how sad that is. What I'm concerned about here is that reading your question it seems rather obvious that something is very wrong here....very wrong indeed.



Buy a little tape recorder at Target or somewhere like that, hide it under his car seat. Switch out the little cassetttes every two days. Listen in on any phone calls and/or converstations he has in his car.



Go on-line and purchase the "spy" software to "spy" on his computer activity.



Go on-line and purchase the "spy" equipment to spy on his cell phone, it only takes two minutes to install it onto his phone and he will never know.

Follow him.



Stalk him.



Get the proof that your Divorce Attorney tells you to and then....get everything.



e-mail me this other man's name and phone number and I'll go on-line to the web-site "Complete Investigative Services" and we'll try and get an address on him. That is, If you'd like my help.



Go on-line and purchase the "tracking device" that you hide on his car, then you go on-line and have a complete record of everywhere he drives his sorry axx.



You mention that he sleeps downstairs, hide a tape recorder in his room, in case he is making phone calls......this could be very informative.



You say he has a tennis bag? Okay, time to find out who,what, when and where he is playing tennis. This sounds very important.



If you have any close family member or friend try and get them to help you out with this crisis. You are in a very trajic marriage, wether or not he is gay...you say that he is abusive, your on the rocks. That's hard.



You can do this, you are going to make it, no matter what bad, evil choices your husband has made.



So far you need the following;



1) A lot of courage.

2) Spy equipment.

3) more Spy equipment.

4) someone to Spy with you.

5) even more courage.





You can do this! You are not alone in your sufferings, many wifes are or were in your situation. There is much hope, all will be well.



P.S. DO NOT ASK HIM ABOUT THE ICE MAN, HE WILL NOT TELL YOU THE TRUTH, YOU MUST DISCOVER IT.

Answer 2

I would suspect that if I had been married for 7 years and only had sex with my husband a few times that either he was gay or bi-sexual or having a long term affair.



The fact that you have a sexless marriage, he doesn't sleep with you, he's very controlling, and is emotionally abusive, then there is no logical reason for you to be with this man and you should get a divorce and find someone who can make you happy.



But you are a woman and women need answers. When you are sure your husband is at work, so there won't be any chance of him being with the person he has listed as in case of emergency. Call the number. Whether the person who answers the phone is a woman or man, tell the person you work at a hospital and ______ (insert your husband's name) was in a car accident and had this person's number listed as to call in case of emergency. Ask the person what their name is and are they a relative. If they say they aren't a relative then ask if the person is his girlfriend or male partner. The person will want to know what his injuries are and you will tell the person that the law will not allow you to give out his medical condition. Maybe if you are clever you can find out a little information about what this person's relationship is to your husband.



Going to all this trouble may answer some of your questions, but it won't change your present situation. You are in a bad marriage and you need to get out of it and start living a normal life.

Answer 3

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Why do you think my husband has a man's name listed ICE in his tennis book ?

I needed a phone number and went to check my husband's little tennis phone book in his tennis bag for the number and I noticed on the front page at in case of illness or accident, a man's name was entered there! I should tell you that my husband sleeps downstairs (his choice). He has been hiding...

Answer 4

Wow, sorry to read all this. Sounds like who his ICE number is the last thing you should be concerned about. You need to make a decision. It seems like you have chosen to live in a relationship that tolerated this behavior, or at least did not go looking for the answers. I think the one thing that you owe yourself is to give your love, your time, and to share your life with someone that thinks that you are pretty damn special, and hell ya, there better be some fireworks when you enter a room. You need to need to figure out if you want more than this for yourself or if you are content to play dumb... I am hoping that you are not. Make some time, shut out distractions, and talk with your husband. You deserve better and if things are as you have described he must be living a very difficult existence. He may love you very much but be fighting who he is... Maybe you should let him have his life and you can find one for yourself as well. Good Luck and God Bless.

Answer 5

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Answer 6

Doesn't matter if he's gay or straight... the point will still remain the same, your husband is confiding in someone else. He's hiding a secret life from you. Whether that be male or female, it's still a problem. He's not going to come out and admit so you need to think about what you're going to do. Will you leave or stay living a lie?

Answer 7

ICE: acronym



In

Case of

Emergency



How do you know it is a man? Did you call the phone number to see who it belongs to? if you, as his wife, dont recognize the number he probably is hiding something but ICE is used quite frequently, not a name just for emergency use.

Answer 8

ICE is the acronym for In Case of Emergency. Have you called the number or done a google search for the number including area code? As far the rest of it, trust your instincts.



I am sorry for you in this marriage gone bad. Get out and be healthy.







BTW My wife has the passwords to my email accounts. She has her own logins and has administrative level access, even though I do all of the set ups and maintenance.

Answer 9

If what you say is correct, your husband is hiding a great deal and

as his wile you are entitled to ask and receive an answer. If he is

gay you may be his cover but one way or the other you are entitled to know especially if he is having sex with a man you must

be wary of sexually transmitted diseases. On the other hand it may all be harmless but you need to know.

Answer 10

Ok, so you know whats going on. The question is why do you think you'd be homeless? Do you work? Do you have access to your husbands bank account? If he's so nasty, then you need to get out now! If you have a savings or can get money from jewelry, or anything you can sell, do it and move now!

Answer 11

Whether he is gay or heterosexual is irrelevant. The man is having an affair, and apparently more than one. He is not even hiding it. It couldn't be more obvious. What are you waiting for? Pack your bags and get out of there. How many years of your life are you going to waste before you realize you are way too awesome to be treated like this?

Answer 12

Either way your husband is hiding things from you and you shouldnt have let it get this far. You need to decide if you want to deal with it and stay or leave his ***.



Ask him about this "ICE" person if you want too, but keep in mind he may just lie about it.

Answer 13

And you are tolerating this because? Don't you think that life is too short to put up with anyone's bull? Maybe you should seek some counseling for yourself if he won't go with you and see if your marriage can be salvaged. If it can't, move on while you are still young enough to have a life. His behavior is suspect. Go with your gut feeling.

Answer 14

You are asking too much. First, the name "Ice" is probably a nickname. I used to play darts with someone named Ice. Second, why the hell are you still with someone like that. Life is too short for you to live like that. Good luck

Answer 15

If you suspect your husband is gay. Most likely he is .. Hope those 7 time sleeping with you, you have used protection. Why would you want to be with someone who is abusive and is cheating on you?

Answer 16

it means



ICE



IN CASE of Emergency



they will call this number

Answer 17

I don't know if he's gay or not; but there is definitely something seriously wrong with your marriage.



If he is emotionally abusive you should get out; regardless of his other interests

Answer 18

I think you need to leave.



He's abusive to you..there is no intimacy and he hides things from you, I'm not sure why it matters what he's up to, he's clearly not the best partner for you. Divorce him.

Answer 19

you better give him some truth serum or you could get a fatal std.

it's not the name Ice but everything else you said.

Answer 20

He's either gay or he's doing a drug known as ice. But it really sounds like he's wicked gay.

Answer 21

i wouldn't even ask.. all things considered you're choosing to stay there. it's not worth the endless nights of wondering and the stress. leave him.

Answer 22

Follow your instinct!

If it walks like a duck and quacks like a duck...it's a duck.

Answer 23

honey, the man is gay (or bi). sorry