What do I do about my pissed off ex girlfriend?

Question

I sent a message on myspace to my ex girlfriend, talking about how I've been missing her a little and thought we could see each other again. You know, just bring up the subject and maybe shes interested?

Well apparently she wasn't interested at all. She sent a message back calling me off and saying she would never want to and got all mad and told me to get out of her life. So I tried to respect her and end it right there, and instead of arguing back about everything I just said "ok if thats what makes you happy then I won't talk to you anymore. I want you to be happy and if I have to get out of your life then I will."
She replys with a message telling me to shut the **** up and grow a pair of balls. lol. She starts calling me off on all this stupid **** that isn't even true or doesn't make sense. Basically she just started ranting. So I got pretty pissed and ranted back in a message after that.
Well she decided to take it to the next level and start posting bulletins so all of our friends could see.They said stuff like her friends want to kick my ***, she was ranting at me, saying things that arent true and personal things. You know, the whole 9 yards. she was displaying all of our personal conversations and things that really embarrassed me.
I DID NOT stoop to her level and do that. I just basically posted a bulletin telling her to leave me alone and cut it out. Did I do the right thing? She didn't take the bulletin down and now a bunch of people are going to think a lot of things about me that are lies. Her bulletin is very convincing to someone who doesn't know the inside details.

I dont want her back. I just want to know how to get her to stop saying things about me.

oh btw I called her and asked her to cut it out and take down the bulletin, and she refused and said "no its how I feel."

Answer 1

Sounds like you should have stopped talking to her and removed her from your friends list after the first message. By continuing to reply and engage her, you're giving her the attention and fuel she craves. Delete her from your friends list and ignore any further contact from her. If people think badly about you based on one person's side of the story, then they're not really friends you want to have anyway.

Answer 2

Obviously she's acting out because of the break-up. I didn't do these kinds of things she did, so the world can know what a bad person my ex boyfriend was. I just got out of a 2 year relationship and he really did not treat me well at all. However, during our relationship I confided in my friends and family, which made them resent him even more. I did NOT put him on blast on myspace, facebook, or any website.

Now he wants me back. He calls me all the time and wants me to do things with him. I still go to church him him and his family, but I finally made it a point to call him this morning and tell him that we will not get back together again because he needs to realize what he did and didn't do to me was wrong and he can't be rewarded for that.

Maybe your ex was scared that you were going to do the same thing and she wants everyone to know how she feels because shes feeling sorry for herself. She must not have that many close friends or she wouldn't be putting everything online.

I'm sorry she did that to you, but I'm guessing your still young and after time passes, it'll all be in your past and you can move on. Let me tell you, there are PLENTY of people out there in your boat honey.

Answer 3

well my Friend you put your foot in it in the first place and perhaps she was trying to get over you and by you sending that message to her and ask her things and even ask her anything at that point probably did piss her off. You should have left well enough alone and forgotten about her. Why go around stirring up a hornet's nest just to see what it is going to do? Well you found out , they sting back and really hurt. Your mistake , her gain, you gave her leverage there and really i hate to say it , you do deserve it but by now , i think both of you need to drop the drama and just move on , it is such a waste of life.If you are that desperate to get attention and reassurance that you are loved then go get a dog.

Answer 4

Show her that you don't give two f**** about her. 1. Have all the girls on you when she's around 2. Kiss make out flirt 3. Have casual sex w/ someone and send the pics/video to her phone 4. Seduce her friends so they can talk about you 5. Become the ultimate ladies man

Answer 5

lol make the little suggestion that your going to the police to claim harassment (on the web). The Police DO take it very seriously since many people have died, committed suicide and more because of what people have said and done on the web. The police can look into the threats shes made and sudjest an order of protection. A verbal (written is worse because it's proof) assult WILL get you what you want. I know because my mother dealt with a similar situation.

Answer 6

Stop dating little girls. Cautiously switch to mature women instead. Real relationships involve mature emotions and respect. Not myspace.

Answer 7

She is just playing the "you'll be sorry" game.I don't know myself why some people like to play this game,especially when noone wins everybody loses.Drama queen I'm guessing Well at least you know not to talk to her again.GOOD LUCK!!!

Answer 8

She is, IMHO, a "piece of work". She can post whatever she wants about you, but you know what? People who know her probably know what she's like, or will, after they get to know her well. And they probably take whatever she says with a grain of salt.

Answer 9

sounds like you caught hr @ exatly the wrong time, so just blank it, blok it out & don't pay it any attention. there's a saying,

"Those that matter don't mind & those that mind don't matter."

Answer 10

Oooh! I wanna see the bulleton! What's the link?

Answer 11

nothing you can do about it.just know that most mature people won't pay attention to crap like that anyways.

Answer 12

you can do nothing. just lay low. eventually she'll get tired and stop.

Answer 13

Punch her in the pussy.