What to do when your husbands family treats myself and my family as if we are embarrassing white trash?

Question

I have recently moved to Texas with my husband and our 3 year old daughter. We have been here for 2 long years now and it just keeps getting worse! I left all my friends and family back in TN so my husband could have his father that he never knew in his life as well as our daughters life. Honestly trying to make a better life for us. When my husband actually found his father we flew to TX for a week to meet the family and it was great. My father in law offered my husband a great job with his company if we would move here. So that we did 4 months later. These people think their money makes them God in control of everyones life. His step monster(mom) pretty much on a daily basis lets us know that we are not equal to the rest of the family. They pamper my husbands siblings (rich brats to be more percise) and call us when they need a hole in the wall in the wall repaired one of them has caused. The step monster and drug addicited sister are constantly causing choas for me. I have lost a total of 50 lbs in 2 years and can't afford to lose any more. The sister has really caused so many problems. I then try to repair the damage they have caused for my husbands sake only to be slapped in the face again. I am at the point that I am thinking of leaving my husband and taking my daughter back home to TN. I love my husband with all my heart but this is a living nightmare. He will not stand up for me or hisself when it comes to these people and I just can not take much more of it. They are all alochloics or drug addicted idiots, including the dad and step monster. They go as far as making fun of me because I will not have a drink with them. The children they have together literally grew up sleeping on pool tables in smoke filled bars. They have put one of their children in rehab several times from the time she was 13 till now and she is almost 20. Only to get her out and have a big lets all get drunk till we pass out party. They have their "connections" that allow them to live this way. PLease help me what in the world do I do about this?

Answer 1

haven't packed your bags yet?

Answer 2

this is why it is so very important to closely get to know someone's family before marrying them. if you can't get along with your potential in-laws, it is a huge red flag in any relationship. after all, these are the people that you will have to see every holiday and family event. they don't sound very stable. however, you on the other hand sound very judgemental and you should think about that. your husband should stand up for him, but realize that he is in a very tough spot...choosing between your family and your wife isn't where any guy wants to be. he should have put a little more thought into the whole deal before going out there, but that is water under the bridge. you all have to find some way to make this work though.

Answer 3

I would explain to my husband that I simply could not live around these people any longer, and that you all need to move. If he is unwilling to do so, then you need to tell him 2 of you are absolutely moving, and he can decide on whether he will make the number 3 by including himself. He can still have a relationship with these people if he wishes, but he can do that from afar.

Answer 4

It sounds like they're the WHITE TRASH, but can't see that through their drunken episodes.Talk with your husband about what they say to you,& what this environment will teach your child.If he won't step in & support you emotionally, & won't move,then you can tell him that your planning to move back home,where folks are sober & reasonable.Don't feel wrong or guilty,since you have tried to make this work,with no help or encouragement by his shabby thinking folks.BOL to you

Answer 5

get out while you can

Answer 6

can you please answer my question I asked please