My mum told me she's been seeing another man and asked me not to tell my dad?

Question

Ok so long story but here goes...

My mum came into my room on tuesday night in tears telling me her friend had died and she couldn't tell anyone, I asked her which friend and why and she said a man that used to come into her work who she got friendly with. She said that nobody knows that they spoke except for 1 other guy who rang her over the weekend to tell her that her friend had died.

My first reaction was that my mum had been cheating on my dad with this guy but she said they just texted each other during the week and that they met up a couple of times for coffees and that nothing beyond that happned (not sure if I believe this or not) she said he cheared up her life and she did the same for him. She begged me not to say anything to my dad because he wouldn't like it and might split up with her, my first reaction was if it was such an innocent relationship then why can't my dad know? But she just said he would get jealous and flip out.

Anyway my mum was distraught that her friend had died and that she was unable to tell anyone (because of what they would think and how they would react). I am glad she told me because I can't imagaine how she felt trying to keep her emotions in and having no one to talk to about it but I feel really weird about it. I asked they had wanted to be togethjer and she said maybe and that they did love each other. My mum and dad have had a lot of problems over the years, they have both cheated on each other previously and I believe they are still together through habbit and convenience.

My mum has asked me to go to the funeral of this guy next week with her without my dad knowing, I initially said yes bacause I saw how upset she was and couldn't bear the thought of her all alone at this funeral without anyone who she knows but now I feel like I'm betraying my dad and can't look at him in the eye.

I don't know what to do!!! What if my dad finds this out and then finds out that I knew the whole time? I'm 20 and live @home btw. Help!!

Answer 1

I wouldn't get involved.

Answer 2

"she even advised me she wanted to purchase me a pincher for my birthday" have you ever requested for a dogs of your own, or is this mom's idea? because in case you do not favor a dogs--an all the household initiatives possession includes--then tell her NOW. *Respectfully* say you get truly some pup interaction from the kin dogs (her dogs), do not favor one in all of your own, and what you would truly like on your birthday is _____ (fill interior the sparkling with some thing functional). As for the shape of dogs: are all of them properly treated? Do all of them get fed properly, and ideal medical interest at the same time as they favor it (which incorporates preventatives like vaccinations)? Are all of them spayed and neutered so there aren't any unintentional litters? Do they each and every get sufficient interest and workout? Is the residing house kept quite sparkling (if a dogs has an twist of destiny, the section is quickly wiped clean and deodorized)? If the solutions to the the previous questions are all definite, then your mom isn't a hoarder. may not be your decision of a thanks to stay, and probably your mom is going slightly overboard because she's attempting to keep all the dogs she will, yet as long as she manages properly there is not some thing to agonize about. If it receives to the point the position she *isn't* dealing with properly, that would properly be the time to step ahead and exhibit your problem (in an outstanding way). One question, although: does your city or city have a by technique of-regulation limiting the shape of pets a kinfolk could have?

Answer 3

I can see where your mother is coming from however she needs to confront her problems. It sounds like they have been ongoing for a very long time. She needs to stay with your Dad because she wants to not out of convenience.



I think it is unfair that she has put you into this mess but if she loved this man she is truly mourning. If she goes to this funeral she needs to leave your father. She shouldn't have it both ways. And she shouldn't put you in the place of betraying your father. Unfortunately even though you love your mother I would refuse to go to the funeral unless she tells your dad about this.

Answer 4

My dear friend,my suggestion is that with his death that chapter is over so let sleeping dog sleep! As far as funeral is,tell the truth to your father that you are going to funeral of your mother's colleague.

Answer 5

ok, this guy had to be more than text ...for her to attand his funeral...

come on your mom is pulling a fast one

and shes hiding something ...dont support her in this its not your place...

if this guy was nothing she will not attend his funeral

Answer 6

that's not fair for her to do... hate when parents make their kids their shrink... just console her and move on