PLEASE read I am really devistated right now and i don't know what to do/think.?

Question

Ok so I have been going out with my boyfriend for 3 and a half months now.He left for college in August and we get to see each other every 2-3 weeks.I have been counting down the Thanksgiving break he would have,which he was off Wednesday through Friday including the weekend.I am usually the one who picks him up from college(3 hours away) but this time his sister got him.I was SO excited to see him for the break..I waited..and waited I was hoping to see him Wed..nothing although I did talk to him that night on the phone,he wanted to come see me but his dad wanted him home(his parents(well dad and STEP mom) are going through a separation) and he said he would try to make it Thursday.I called him that morning he said he had some cooking to do then he would be over after he finished cooking and stuff.I waited and waited.He never showed up.I called him the next morning and he said he was just getting ready to come over but he had to get dressed and eat something for breakfast then he would be over.About an hour and a half later he did come by.He usually spends the night with me but not that night.He stayed until 8 and his dad came and got him.He said he had to babysit tomorrow.I told him right before he left "Will I get to see you tomorrow?" he said "Hopefully.call me tomorrow" and i asked "Any certain time?" he said "Umm i'm not sure what time I will be up." I said "ok I will call." Now on Saturday,I called 4 times once at 11 once at 12 once at 1 and again at 2..then I gave up.Nobody answered.This morning,I got up went to church was all eager to see him once more before he left to go back to school today.I get home and his dad is on Facebook and I tell him.."Hey Allen,I was wondering what time y'all were gonna take David back to Baylor today.I am hoping to see him one last time before he leaves today.Hope everything is going better for you" and he tells me "his sister came and got him this morning sweety and his biological mother came to see him ." I haven't stopped crying yet.I got to see him 6 hours this week.6 HOURS.After being away from him for 6 weeks and I am REALLY upset.I thought he would swing by to tell me goodbye or something but he didn't.I don't know what to think.Now I won't get to see him for 2 and a half weeks.Till he is off for Christmas break.I am just so saddened by this.6 hours.His parents cannot afford much at all and his phone has been off for weeks now so all we have is Facebook.But I am lucky to even catch him online cause he is busy with school and everything.I just don't know what to do.Should he apologize for this?

Answer 1

I think you are overreacting. I know you wanted to see him and all but his family is going through a rough time and the fact that his parents are divorce means he has to spent just as much time with one parent as he does with the other without one getting mad that he didn't spend time with them. And then there is you. I would be thankful that you got to see him at all. Thanksgiving break is a short one.



He will be home longer for Christmas and you will see him more than. But I think that you need to think about him and what he is going through and not the fact that you only got to see him for 6 hours.



Like someone else said you've only been with I'm a few months and you are already stressing. Don't come off as clingy because most guys don't like that.

Answer 2

Sounds like he has a lot going on in his life. Women are so different from men. This would be a time, if rolls were reversed, that you would be clinging for him. Guys???He really may have just been mentally fried. I would not ask or expect an apology from him. When you get a chance to talk, let him take the lead about the lack of time you got to spend together. As long as you truely believe he was doing what he said, let it go. Wait and see what happens at Christmas. If he really was tied up with heavy family issues, the last thing he needs is someone else demanding his emotional help.



You guys have only been together three months, not three years. If he is the one for you, be there for him. If this relationship is the right one for him, he will be back.

Answer 3

Dont depress yourself. If he had really missed you and wanted to spend as much time as you wanted to spend with him, nothing would have kept him away from you. NOTHING. He wouldnt have had any excuse. He may have met someone over at college, who knows. Just wait until next break. Open up n tell him how he made you feel. Meanwhile, there's no need to upset yourself.

and one question: you said you guys spent some time together.. didnt he seem any different? like disinterested maybe? 'cause i bet that's what he is.

Answer 4

he probably had a reason for leaving, there is a huge drama he is going through with his family, they have expectations from him to be there for them... and on the other side there is you, who keeps calling and calling and calling...omg 11...12...1...2...that is just annoying. sure you are going to miss him, but give him some space to deal with things he is dealing with. and you know how it goes in life, if he really wants to see you and if he really misses you he will find the way to find you and be with you. but he is going through a lot, just relax you are becoming obsessed with the whole thing, do something, distract yourself. :)

Answer 5

You have only been dating this guy for 3+ months. His family is in turmoil right now. Why can't you understand that and cut him some slack? You show NO compassion for him and his family. All you are thinking about is you and the fact that you didn't get to sleep with him. Big deal. No, he should not apologize for anything. I think he probably did the best he could do. I think you should apologize to him for being such a princess.

Answer 6

You've been around for 110 days - they've been there all of his life. He has a divided family that is currently going through a crisis, and his responsibility is to them. You are not a wife, not a fiancee, and just barely a girlfriend. You don't have any right to feel angry, hurt, or anything other than sad that you didn't get to spend more time together. Your presence in his life does not mean he has to drop all his familial obligations to cater to you. He tried to please everyone - including you. He owes you no apology, but you might consider apologizing to him for pressuring him when his family demanded his time.

Answer 7

If he were truly interested in you, he would have made the time to be with you regardless of family obligations!

The writing is on the wall - he is easing out of this relationship.

Don't run after him!

Answer 8

He seemed really busy over the holidays. The only thing that he did wrong was brush you off and not give you direct answers. He should have said that he was busy with family or called you back to say that he could not make it.

Answer 9

he should but relize this is his first thanksgiving back from college maybe he wanted to be with his family. i know ur hurt but ya'll havent been together long enough for him to put u before his family. jus sayin the situation could be worse =( but it sounds like he was jus spending it wit his family. good luck and try talking to him about how u feel. hope it helps

Answer 10

He had a busy holiday weekend with family. It is a family holiday after all.



No, he shouldn't apologize. You should try to be more understanding. I understand that you were disappointed and you had a lot of expectations that weren't met, but it's not his fault.

Answer 11

sweetheart im so sorry fr u :(

bt relax a bit and give him some space fr himself too.

further, if u think that its really hurt u bad ... try to speak to him and put it across

onc he knows that u take things so seriously, he should be a bit more accomodating...

gud lck!

Answer 12

Sorry to be rude but maybe if you stop being so needy, he'll feel like spending more time with you.

Answer 13

Y'all have been together for 3.5 months and you are acting like you have been together for 3 years. You are probably scaring him.