Is my wife attracted to my brother?

Question

My wife and I have been married for 8 years and have 3 beautiful children. Recently I have noticed my wife and my brother catching glances at each other whenever we visit him. He clearly has a smirk on his face while my wife looks as if she is enjoying his attention. I am planning a trip to New York for work in the coming months and I am worried that something might happen between the two of them while I am away. My brother is a loser piece of trash who cares of nobody but himself. I don't trust him at all. I asked her point blank if there was any kind of sexual tension going on between them and she adamantly denies anything is going on. She was defensive when I asked her which makes me doubt her even more. Am I crazy to be thinking about this? Any advice would be greatly appreciated. I am at my wits end.

Answer 1

Based on what you are saying it sounds like you have a problem. The worst thing you could do right now is ignore your hunch.

If she denies though what can you do? Beat it out of her? No.

I think what you do is stick around and be with your family as much as possible and limit, severely limit your time with your brother. Good luck.

Answer 2

You have to give your wife the benefit of the doubt. Has your wife ever been caught with another man before? If not, I wouldn't go that far into believing that she may be cheating on you, especially with your brother. The reason that she was so defensive was because she was offended that you would even think that she could ever do such a thing. It's the same thing with me too, my boyfriend of 6 years lives across the country from me and he's always thinking that I might be cheating on him which I clearly am not and it sometimes makes me angry that he could even ever think that way. So for the sake of your marriage and your kids, just trust your wife and keep an eye out for your brother.

Answer 3

She may be enjoying his attention, and maybe your brother is trying to do this on purpose to get your goat so to speak...If your wife has not given you any reason to worry about this or be suspicious of her, then maybe it is only in your mind. She denied it to you. Hopefully she is telling you the truth....Do you have any reason to think your wife is not or would not be completely loyal to you?

Even if you can't trust your loser brother...you should be able to trust your wife...unless she has given you reason to doubt her trust and faithfulness, I wouldn't get too overly concerned....

I would certainly hope your wife would tell him to hit the road if he ever did try something as low down as that....

I think you are just nervous about leaving for such a long stretch of time....Have someone look after your wife while you are away...do you have a sis or maybe mom could spend some time with her....

Try not to be too worried and bothered about the whole thing...I am sure the stress of leaving is just getting to you....have you asked her if she would be willing to join you in New York? That could be an option, and the two of you could have some much needed relaxation time when you are not working....

Good luck hon....I wish I could put your mind more at ease....(((((hugs))))......it is going to be alright....

Answer 4

Unfortunately it sounds like there is some sort of sexual attention. I can tell you one thing though jealousy will get you nowhere! The more you play it cool sit back and relax the better. I know that sounds horrible and almost impossible; but if you keep coming at your wife with these accusations you will only push her into his arms. That we know you do not want.



Think of your children, think of what this type of tension in the house hold will do to them. "Curiosity killed the cat" and if your wife lets this curiosity get the best of her, well than she is the one who will have to let that guilt weight on her conscious for the rest of her life. Honey, kill her with kindness make her feel like dirt for ever even looking your brothers way.

Answer 5

I agree with Emily. You don't say if you and your wife are happily married though... Perhaps she is seeking something that you are not providing. Maybe you don't listen to her? Maybe you patronize her? Maybe you don't tell her how much you love her as much as you used to? Maybe it's not you at all. It's hard to say. I think the best thing you can do is just be the best man you can be. Do all the proper husband things, say all the right words. Make a conscious effort to do everything you can to be the best husband. If she does go through with an affair then there was probably nothing you could have done to prevent it.

Answer 6

Well,they way you explained everything,you sound bi-curious. There's nothing wrong with fantasies. And this experience may help you be a little more kind to gay people. Your fantasies may not mean anything and I honestly wouldn't really worry dude. There;s this myth among straight people that fantasizing about the same sex means you're gay...that is far from the truth. Everyone has odd sexual dreams,that's just your sub-conscious telling you something about your life. The wet dream aspect makes me think that you just want you wife to do something,but you're afriad to try it. I'm not just saying that,I'm getting that from Phsycology Today

Answer 7

If ur trip is not too long and kids have holidays then ask her to go to her Parent's place...Is ur Brother living with u?...If yes, then show him the door before u leave...If not, then clearly warn ur wife about him...if she is willing to hold the family, she will listen to u...if she is not, then she was never urs...

Answer 8

Your brother probably looks like so it's only natural for there to be sexual tension. Unless you or he were adopted. If one of you were adopted, toss her out on the street, but otherwise, don't worry, its just the price you pay for having someone with almost the entirely same genetic code.

Answer 9

from what u have described u have no reason to suspect anything between either of them



has she been unfaithful? are u insecure for some reason?



something else is going on other than what u've written

Answer 10

if you have money you can hire a private detective to keep an eye on them. i would be worried if i were you..



best of luck

Answer 11

Better keep her with her parents when u leave India.

Answer 12

seems you dint trust her either if he.s like. that and it takes .2. to tango you might think of gettincounselingng for you and her both if all fails yodidn'tnt say you tried

Answer 13

thats fucked up man.....u dont only have to fear that ur brother might **** her, if she can do it to ur brother, no doubt she can do it to other man that she's attracted to....may be to a plumber, milk man, pizza man, delivery man, or even to your grandpa