Question about divorce?

Question

Ok here we go, My estranged hubby who has mental health problems wants a divorce but has no grounds to divorce and keeps pressuring me to get on with it as i do. Right now its the last thing on my mind as my daughters son (she is only 18) is about to have a major op and he is only 6 motnhs old, He did have a twin who died as they were borb 15 weeks early. Do you think i am being unreasonable making him wait as i didnt want a divorce he did he was not even willing to dicuss just went ahead and demanded,

Answer 1

So he wants the divorce but has no grounds to divorce you but you have grounds to divorce him? I will tell you this from experience as I am currently going through a divorce - it is probably the most stressful thing you will have to go through and solicitors will only add to your problems if you choose one that wants to cause arguments between you. That said, if he wants the divorce it's easier and it will always be stressful no matter when you do it.



It depends where you live: in the UK either of you could file for divorce straight away for unreasonable behaviour or adultery. Anything can be considered unreasonable behaviour really. Otherwise, you will have no option but to file for divorce after two years separation or five years separation. After 2 years he will need your consent to divorce you. If you wait five years he will not need your consent. I have discovered that it's very difficult to object to the divorce after two years - if he files it now without your consent he will probably get it. I would advise you to pop down to the court and pick up the first set of divorce papers (divorce petition) for free and see what it entails. If you don't want the divorce I would not advise you to file the petition - I would make him file for divorce instead. He may come up with some examples of unreasonable behaviour about you that might hurt you but at least you will be in a position to defend and object to the divorce.



At the end of the day, you have to do what you think is best and look after number one. Sounds like you don't want the divorce and if you don't file now he will have to do it himself (halving your stress) or he will have to wait for a few years. You are in a good position really. I hope your grandchild recovers soon. Good luck.

Answer 2

You sound like you are well rid of him. If you have been seperated for more than 2 years you or he can file for divorce without any issue. If you wanted a divorce prior to then it has to be on grounds of adultery, unreasonable behaviour etc (ie you need a reason to split). If he wants a divorce that badly tell him to go ahead with it - despite what you see in films, the result is often a fair 50 50 split, but there are more costs incurred for the one that files for divorce (him). If I was you I would agree to it, but let him pay for everything and you just sign the forms

Answer 3

I'm sorry, but your husband could divorce you citing "unreasonable behaviour" as the cause, and there's not a lot you can do to stop this. Almost anything can be classed as unreasonable behaviour, and its very difficult to argue against in a divorce court.



I think its perfectly reasonable for you to ask him to wait a little. Its obviously a stressful time for all of your family at the moment.



A bit more time might be helpful for everyone... it might change his mind about wanting a divorce, but I think you should be prepared just in case he still wants to divorce.

Answer 4

I can not comment on your marriage since I do not know the whole story. I can only say I am sorry for the lose of your grandchild and pray for God to work a miracle on the surviving child. Has your family checked into the services provided by the Ronald McDonald House Charities?

Answer 5

A freedom or a precise is a state granted permission to do some thing interior of a definite potential that they later set with lawsuits. it rather is a joke. All of politics is a joke. Telling somebody they are allowed to be loose isn't genuine freedom and is even worse being a complete perversion of what a precise or freedom rather is.

Answer 6

i dont think you are being unreasonable.

if he wants a divorce, then he should go ahead & do it. If he wants you to do it, then he will have to wait. As frankly Your daughter & grandson have to come 1st.

Stand your ground & all good wishes for you all & the babe xx

Answer 7

He doesn't need your okay to file for divorce so I am not sure why he is demanding.



Take of your daughter and let him do what ever he want. You have other things to worry about.



Hope all goes well for your grandson. We will be praying for him

Answer 8

just think about your daughter and grandson that is what matters if he wants a divorce then let him sort it or he can wait until a time when you are ready to deal with it. I hope everything goes alright for your grandson

Answer 9

in most states, if he wants a divorce, he can file for it on his own. If he wants a divorce, you'd be better off to let him go. Suggest counseling first though, it may work,

Answer 10

If he wants to divorce you he can do so on the grounds of incompatibility.

Answer 11

expalin to your husband why you cant move for a divorce at this time.inform him that you cant get divorced without your help....you need to sign the papers too.



get him to move for divorce....both parties can move for it, not just you.

Answer 12

dont hurt yourself by asking and just take everything 4 the sake of the kids

Answer 13

If he doesn't want you,why complicate your life.Let him have his divorce ,you concentrate on the baby.