I need advice to help my friend!!! Please serious advice only!?

Question

Okay, this is a really bizzare question. Krystie & Marty are my friends and Amy and David are my friends. My friend (Amy) had an affair with David. I am assuming that Marty & Amy know nothing about it. Now, Amy feels bad about it and the guy and her have agreed to not ever see each other again, however, now Krystie has made comments about things in her marriage not being so good. I don't know if she suspects something is going on or if something is really happening. Should I say something to Amy about it? Should I ask Krystie for more details? (I really don't want to get involved- but they are both my friends- and I don't know what to do). I don't really know what to do but, I hate to see two marriages fall apart and me stuck in the middle of it.

Answer 1

If you don't want to get involved then ask no more questions.

Answer 2

I hate to see two marriages fall apart and me stuck in the middle of it. I hate it too, but you are in the middle.

Ask yourself 2 questions.

If I were Amy, would I wan't to be ratted out by a friend?

If I were Krystie, do I deserve to know?

What to do?

OK bottom line write a note to both friends and date it!

Express why you didn't say anything Krystie -

Express why you wanted to say something but didn't toAmy.



The truth will come out. Quite honestly the three muskateers are about to be broken up. DO NOT GET IN THE LINE OF FIRE. When the truth comes out give each thier notes and expect the phone to ring and e-mails to start flying. Remember once a cheat always a cheat UNLESS they come clean it will happen again.

Good luck buttercup.

p.s. If your married keep your hubby away from this girl......

Answer 3

Don't get involved. This isn't your problem to fix it's theirs. I made a mistake one time in telling my sister in law (at the time) that her bf tried coming on to me and after that things between her and I were never the same. Of course her bf hated me after that, oh and they're still together anyway..lol So can you see how this can backfire? You think you're helping someone out but it turns into the old saying "no good deed ever goes unpunished". So your best bet is to let sleeping dogs lay.

Answer 4

Sounds like an episode of "30 something". Plug your ears and stay out of it. Oh and find some friends who understand what the word "faithful" means. Remember you are who your friends are.

Answer 5

my advice to you is to not get involved at ALL!!! Act like you don't know nothing. That way you won't loose one over the other and you don't have to pick sides. So just stay out and advice your friend ONLY if she asks. And tell her the truth that way if she does happen to find out about the affair you wouldn't have nothing to do with it.

Answer 6

First of all you are not stuck in the middle - yet. However, if you get involved,know that you are playing with fire. Stay out of other people's marriages.

Answer 7

It's a lose lose situation either way you go...Tell krystie to get some marriage counseling and see if that helps.

Answer 8

Unless YOU are the [friend] stay out of it; but do supply the crying towel for each of them. A friend will be there BUT keep big nose out of it.. Big nose and tattling can/will only make things worse usually..An that's my advice.

Answer 9

did you cheat NO so lets see you have nothing to do with it and for the record i would not be friends with people who cheat on each other just my opinion

Answer 10

I think it's between them and maybe you should set on the side lines for but try and be there when they need you

Answer 11

Hell NO!



Stay out of it and get yourself some better friends.



If she would put you in a position to lie for her, what would she do to you?