He doesn't think he is satisfying me....?

Question

Ok, my boyfriend of 1 year is great in every way. However, he has asked me several times if I am satisfied with our sex. At first I thought he wasn't or something but he said no it's perfect and it's never been better for him. He thinks he isn't doing enough for me. But the truth is I love it and I enjoy it very much. Why does he keep asking me about it though? I don't know what else I can do or say to prove to him that I am very satisfied. No rude answers please!!!
We are in our 30's by the way.

Answer 1

He is a man, all men do this. Do everything in your power to let him know. Definetly try to be more out spoken in bed. Be very specific. Tell him exactly what feels good and when. You can make it easy and say I really like when you blank. Or you are so good at doing blank. Also his confidence isn't too high. So make him feel good even when you aren't in bed. Let him know he is sexy. If you get the chance to pack his lunch slip him a note that says "last night was great" Go all out , let him know he is always on your mind.

Answer 2

I read and re-read your question and think this is actually deeper than you realize. I don't beleive your boyfriend is really asking this about you but rather seeking a way to perhaps open up the lines of communication for his "new moves" or perhaps additional new things in the bedroom. Men seek approval in order to boost their ego because they really do want to know if they are satisfying the one they love. The fact that he's been so proactive about asking you tells me that he definetly cares about you-but he may just want to add a little spice and is feeling you out. Be open and receptive and listen to his trigger questions so that you can find out what his root cause is for this question though.

Answer 3

yeah, obviously he's not get enough of a visual/vocal response to know that you have enjoyed it. Everyone is little different and doesn't express their pleasure the same way. Perhaps you are enjoying, but not to the full extent as if you let go and just got a little crazy with movement or vocalization. Try it, you might like it and I'm betting he surely will.

Answer 4

Its good that he is so into keeping you satisfied and wants to keep his game up. But not so good that he seems a little insecure about his skills. Make sure you express to him how much you like it and over time he'll get more confident. In the mean time enjoy it and take advantage of him being so focused on you!!!

Answer 5

I think what it comes down to is the boy who cryed wolf. It's not your fault but girls ar a whole. I use to be like that with the first girl i ever had sex with. See we know that 9 out of 10 times you girls are going to tell us we did fine in bed weather we did or not so we don't know what to believe. Sounds can be faked and things said lies.

Answer 6

A couple possibilities: He might be curious about trying something new or a bit kinky and trying to open the subject for conversation. Or, if you've had many past boyfriends, he might be insecure about how he...ahem...measures up in comparison.

Answer 7

Are you showing him that you like it or just saying that you do? It could be that you're not letting yourself go when you are making love, so he doesn't have any body language indicators as to how receptive you are to him. It you're screaming, moaning, and carrying on, then it could just be that he's insecure. If so, then concentrate on how to boost his security all around, not just in the bedroom.

Answer 8

You didn't say, but are you vocal in bed. If a guy doesn't hear you he gets paranoid that he's not doing it for you. Let him know. Give him some moans and few "Oh God's" to boost the old ego.

Answer 9

It's an archaic self deprecating way of thinking he is showing you that he cares. Just show him this answer and he will stop with the obsessive part, but you don't want him to never ask...Do you?

Answer 10

Some men ask the same question.They want to be sure,that their partners are satisfied enough,so,they are proud about that real fact.Good question.what you need to say,when he ask you,is yes.He will be proud about that.

Answer 11

Men are obsessed with their "performance" for some reason. They never think they are "good". They don't realize that we think they are fine - honestly!! Just keep telling him he's fine and maybe someday he'll believe you.

Answer 12

Give specific feedback during the act. Give him signals of what you like/dislike. (ie Let him know if speed needs to increase or decrease.) He's asking for specifics, you're not providing them.



Some men get their joy from pleasing their partner as much as pleasing themselves. Let him please, please.

Answer 13

Make more noise. And when you're at your peak, make it known to him.

Answer 14

This really has nothing to do with you and EVERYTHING to do with him. He's insecure about his sexual prowess.

Answer 15

be more passionate and verbal. Tell him you love his ?)$@ inside you

Answer 16

he wants his ego stroked a little.

Answer 17

he is insecure and sounds annoying