How do you feel about your spouse associating with the opposite sex at work? And where do you draw the line?

Question

I'm just curious, because my dad cheated on my mom with a co- worker, she forgave him..a couple years later my dad tells my mom that the woman switched jobs and was no longer there. Now 18 years later, they divorce, he marries this other woman, and we find out she's worked with him the whole time. So how do you feel about your spouse associating with the opposite sex in the workplace, and where do you draw the line?

Answer 1

Its tough because you want to trust the other person (as that is the foundation of a relationship) but at the same time, can you trust the persons coworkers? Do you trust that your husband isn't going to fall prey at work? Plenty of women are so unethical and will do whatever to further their cause, thats the scary part.

Answer 2

There will always be the opposite sex at any work site. It is a fact of life. But if my man was going out to lunch or calling this women on a daily basis, I would have to draw the line. I would also, go meet him at work occasionally, and go to lunch with him. I would also, try to be friend his co-workers. But the #1 thing is I would trust him unless, he gave me reason not to.

Answer 3

well my husband is a cop. so im not worried about the chicks he works with because they are either lesbians or they already got married to another cop. i'm worried about the skanks that give him free coffee and the waitresses that he sees everyday. i ask him if i can have lunch with him at the places he eats at for lunch but i always get some bullcrap excuse. i cant draw the line with this guy. he says he can do what he wants. so i need to just leave soon. and we co own a gym i worry about the girls that come in he tells me stories about girls that sound just like me. but all sexy and sweaty .. bastard

Answer 4

It's all individual... for me the biggest thing is trust. My lady and I are both friends with people of the opposite sex, both married and unmarried. We both hang out with singles of the opposite sex. We act appropriately and trust each other, so it isn't a big deal. I'd never set rules for her or vice versa as there's just nothing to be jealous about for us.

Answer 5

the element is, the term "buddy" probably has diverse meanings for various human beings. If it particularly is a chum in terms of they chat at artwork or digital mail one yet another, then no situation. If it particularly is a chum in terms of they meet one yet another for dinner, lunch, a action picture, a ball interest, and so on without every person else, i think of it particularly is crossing the line. once you marry, i think of which you're particularly promising to sidestep infidelity or perhaps the visual attraction of infidelity, which ability respecting your husband or spouse sufficient to in trouble-free terms bypass out with opposite intercourse acquaintances in communities of three or extra.

Answer 6

yes i trust my wife and i'd draw the limit at anything outside the workplace. but, here's the problem. guys always will try to push the limit with what they can get away with. maybe a joke, innuendo, a touch on the shoulder. thats the s**t that would make me furious and probably go and kick his a**.

Answer 7

I draw the line at him socializing with women outside of work if their boyfriends/husbands are not present. Also, he is not allowed to hang out with single women. He resents this because he thinks I should trust him, but tough ta-tas. I trust him, but I'm not going to be the kind of wife who never saw it coming.

Answer 8

I would not worry about it. He does not but I do have male friends at work. I know that there is nothing going on and there never will be. We hang out sometimes outside of work with my husband and their wives. If he had an affair that would be different but then I would not have forgiven him for it.

Answer 9

I don't care it's work. What am I suppose to do I can't isolate him nor would.



As long as it is not physical.

Answer 10

as long as there isn't any touchy feely going on there,it shouldn't be any problems.it shouldn't happen there but it always does.

mildred sent me

Answer 11

I trust her - that's it.