Question:
Why does my wife make me?
2010-07-12 11:11:39 UTC
My wife is from Italy, her family all lives in Italy. We've been married for two years and I've been over to Italy with her once.. It was miserable. I ended up being left out of everything (I'm 100% American, I'm from New York and I can only speak english) she speaks english and italian. Her family can't speak a word of English so she has to translate. I was basically shunned out of everything so I went out into the town and walked around and got some food and just sat by myself while her and her family enjoyed Themselves. It was miserable, I told her I had a great time but it sucked. Her family over there hated me, they laughed at me (so I think) and I couldn't understand what they were saying. Then my wife translated that they thought I had a funny accent. Then I understood some of what they said and my wife did verify they said "Why did you marry that lousy american, why not marry good italian boy?" she told me they didn't mean it rudely.. Yeah right. I do not want to go again, I'll be left out again.. I'll endup walking the town by myself again while they all enjoy themselves. I don't want to go, it's going to be terrible. My wife promises they'll be nice to me this time and that she'll spend more time and help me learn italian. It's a blast walking the streets alone not being able to understand anything anyone says and having to point at the one and only picture of food on the menu and hoping it's good because my wife is with her family and can't translate the words.
Six answers:
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2010-07-12 11:18:35 UTC
Your first mistake was telling your wife you had a great time. Don't lie to your wife, and don't expect things to improve if you don't voice your displeasure.

Maybe you should learn a bit of rudimentary Italian so you and her family can get to know each other a bit. And plan some activities for you and your wife, with or without a few family members, that don't revolve around family. Some sightseeing, etc.
mmmm
2010-07-12 11:18:14 UTC
they sound like rude italians im half italian and half english i talk both as well maybe you should like stay somewhere else like where its english speaking more and she could go out and you could stay in a hotel or something and then you wouldnt have to spend all your time with her family or just tell her your not going or something
me
2010-07-12 11:17:11 UTC
If this is a one time thing. he family coming over, just forget about what they said as long as you love your wife. If it constantly happens that they visit you or vice versa, then i would take action if they constantly insult you, make fun of you and shun you. Tell them how you feel, and don't let it ruin your relationship.
2010-07-12 11:16:56 UTC
Tell her the truth. You don't want to go because you're uncomfortable and you get left out.



You know, none of us really ENJOY seeing the in-laws. hah
paul john
2010-07-12 11:23:37 UTC
get rosetta stone and learn italian and don't tell them. I would tell your wife how uncomfortable it is.
maria
2010-07-12 11:20:10 UTC
Monster-in laws.... they have a bad rap for a reason.



You should be honest with her. She should have been more considerate.


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