What to do, My husband wants me flashing & masturbate myself in the car while driving side by side to truckers?

Question

We've been married 7y. since we're dating and he being overseas (iraq) accepted to take some very erotic pictures for him, and with the years the tone of them is been raising up, even I don't like it, is not ok with me and makes me feel very bad, not even turns me on...cause that is the point for him to get turned on...so when we ended up having sex he's so ready and I am so dry that it hurts and I just fake to be enjoying so I don't frustrate him...I've talked to him innumerable times about it, and he accepts and quits for a time, however, he starts pushing making a bit of pressure till finally I do it again, last year for his BD I had to go to a photo session (this time was not him the one to take the pics) where I posed as I Porno star and he was happy...but for me it's been the worse I've done...Now, he's doing it again...I love him, we have a beautiful son, life is happy with him, but I can not agree to this anymore...is not just that I have to get naked and masturbate in the car while he takes pics is that he does everything to make other drivers to watch the show, I think is risky and we can get in troubles one day or I'll be the one in troubles...Since the last BD pictures I made, and he says "he's being respecting me, the sex at home is very few and the few is very poor, few days ago he made assumptions about being time to get more pictures an going to the road and I just ignored the comment so he's been kind of upset and bitter with me and even commented a couple nights ago that we had a conversation about it to don't drive him to frustration as his ex wife did...so I guess this time is starting to compare me to the woman who denied him sex after their kids born...I really don't know what to do, and I don't feel ok talking about it with my mom or friends.

Answer 1

The guy is a douche, sorry but he's got some issues. I would stop sending those pictures and following is ridiculous requests. What happens when you go through your divorce and he has all those pictures in his hands? Your husband is a nutcase but you are just as responsible for your own actions as the next person. I'm hoping one of these days women will stop thinking that they have to do everything and anything for their husbands because like you should have seen, some requests are unreasonable.

Answer 2

sex play can be fun and adventuresome right up to the point where you feel pressured. Pressure and sex do not mix and if they do resentment is the result and anger soon follows. Pressure devalues you as a person and as an individual.



His wanting to show you off is not that abnormal an emotion for men - it is social ranking type of display - I have a hot woman - in your face sort of bragging but it cannot be done in dangerous ways or in ways that make you uncomfortable. Clearly you are in this position.



So you must have limits where you are uncomfortable and must say so.



Clearly he has certain desires that you sound quite willing to meet in certain ways that do not cross your own comfort zone.



So I suggest you say - that you will be wiling to help him enjoy his fantasies once a year on a couples only type vacation just the two of you and there on a tropical island where such things are the norm and accepted you will go publicly nude for him and let him photograph you being overtly sensual all he wants. You will be his sexual trophy so to speak walking in front of others on the nude beach etc but that is it. In all other circumstances you refuse to be pressured nor will you tolerate having sex without him turning you on first.



If you can find a middle ground fine otherwise the rule is it is your body and therefore your rules

Answer 3

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Answer 4

Sigh.





Say NO. You have always done what he wants, so why do you think he will ever stop assuming you will? He will not stop these demands on his own.



I think you know that this marriage is not going to work. The least you can do is regain your dignity and hold your head up high.



Think long and hard about why you would act in such a way when it made you feel bad....I seriously suggest therapy.

Answer 5

He is blackmailing you? Saying "don't drive him to frustration like his Ex did" how dare he speak to you like that. I would feel so disrespected and angry with that. Sit him down and say "I have done this, this. & this to please you when it makes me uncomfortable, the line in which you want me to go to keeps getting further away from what I want or am willing to do. I love our life together but this is becoming an issue to where I am being made to feel guilty for not bending to your every wish! When is it my turn to have you bend to my wish? I sit you down and tell you my feelings but you always go back to the things that make me feel bad about myself. We need to figure a permanent agreement and keep this from becoming me resenting you for making me feel bad if I don't do certain sexual things."





and honestly hun, maybe he won't stop, maybe he won't respect you enough to say "Ok she's already willing to do a lot I will stop pushing the envelope because I love our life together enough to do that"

But I will tell you, if he emotionally black-males you again or tries to make you feel guilt over something sexual I would shut him down with a ultimatum. POINT BLANK YOU DON't DESERVE THIS.

Answer 6

You have to find another way to spice up your marriage if you're not comfortable with this one. Have you considered getting a little bit more experimental in the bedroom? Make him lick you "down there" before he is allowed to enter. Tell him if he can make you "release" that way you'll let him try the back door. Make it clear to him you'll do extra things to get him excited, but he must do things for you too. I have a lot more ideas like that I can share with you in exchange for emailing me those pictures :-D.

Answer 7

First of all, this is nothing to be put into the "street" for comment, it's called shame; shame for who asked you to do it, and shame for what they asked you to do.



Also, many of these truckers now travel with their wives and some with their children...it's not what your misguided husband imagines anymore.



Tell him...NO...and add this little comment; "I'm beginning to wonder about you".

Answer 8

wow that's crazy