Is my fiancee cheating on me?

Question

my fiancee was flirt-ily texting a girl, he wouldnt let me see what they were texting (because i leaned over to see because he was just so happy with whatever they contained), when i asked him who she was, he said "no one" then after constant bugging by me (because, i mean, how COULD she be no one?) he replied, "fine. if i wasnt dating you, i'd be dating her." by the way, we'd been engaged for about a month when this happened.

but it's not just this girl...i had to go out of town one day to see my relatives, and while i was away, he told me he was "meeting up" with one of his ex-girlfriends and that i wasn't allowed to text him. i wanted to trust him so much, and i've always heard that exes can be friends (i've never had an ex so i dont really know about this) i tried hard to not text him, but it just felt so wrong to me, so i ended up texting him one or two anyways. he didnt answer for a long time. i questioned him immediately after their little "date" was done, and he said they went to the movies (by the way, this was HER idea, he complied, it was HER birthday...so why she chose to spend it with an ex boyfriend is beyond me, and they were very much alone), he paid for the movies, then they went to a park and ran around and messed around on the swings and things.

another girl he had a crush on when we were together. i met her for the first time when my fiancee and i were in the park having a picnic. he was very cute and romantic and giggly with me, then she showed up, said hi, left, and this big dark cloud came over his head and he kept looking around to see if he could find her again :( he told me he liked her about a week later. this same girl made some cookies for my boyfriend's roommate, and when my boyfriend saw the box, he grabbed one, ate it, and said, "OOOO! these are so GOOD!" even though that same day i'd made him some cookies and he took one bite and never touched it again because it wasn't a soft cookie, it was too crunchy (not burnt, just crunchy).

he also shared a chair with another girl he sort-of had a crush on while we were together (they were at a restaurant and there werent enough chairs or something), and fed her some of his food with his fork. i was not at this gathering.

honestly, i do not care if he sees a girl and says "she's cute!" because there ARE cute girls. but i just feel so hurt when he actually develops crushes, or tells me "if i wasnt with you, id be with her" or goes around behind my back with ex girlfriends.

is this some type of cheating?

Answer 1

He IS CHEATING ON YOU.



There are too many red flags there to count! Ahhh!!

Answer 2

Yes, he is cheating on you...that's what you call it when he takes another girl on a date and tells you not to contact him while he is doing it. He should have a lot more respect for your feelings as you are his fiancee and the woman he supposedly wants to marry. If he was my fiance, I would run for the hills and never look back. He doesn't deserve you and you will only have a life of disappointment if you marry him because he will only get worse if he thinks he can get away with it and have you as well as whoever else he wants. Please keep the ring and tell him you don't want a life with someone who thinks so little of you that he continues to date other women even after asking you to be his wife. Trust me, it will be the best decision of your entire life, painful as it may be at first.

Answer 3

All the things you wrote are bad habits! And yes they are cheating habits! 





Now,



You are either

A) stupid

B) extremely insecure

Or 

C) extremely stupid and insecure



. You are a complete DOORMAT and he is walking all over you,Hun.



I feel bad because you probably won't leave him anyway because you like the idea of being his fiancée or future wife too much. Silly girl! Leave before it's too late. I see your future though...



1. You're pregnant and you have his kids.. +



2. He either leaves you while your pregnant for another woman

 Or

3. Leaves you to be a single mother with your kids already here. Either way, he obviously has a wondering eye and no remorse for it. He cheated on you in front of your face. You're just going to regret going any further with this guy & wish you listened to the people on Yahoo answers who are telling you to RUN now!

Answer 4

im sorry but he is being extremly disrespectful towards you. Whether he has physically cheated or not, when you care for someone you dont tell them things that woujld hurt them. and he sounds like hes being a little too friendly...I am definitly not against the whole thing with hanging out with your exes (because i also have hung out with exes) but when you go to the movies with a friend you dont pay for them like that (especially if its an ex) at that point its officially a date. I think you need to set down some ground rules for him because its obviously making you uncomfortable. if he doesnt like them or respect them then you deserve better anyways. Its ok to think other people are cute but when its to the point where its disrespecting you, HIS FIANCEE (which it VERY much is disrespectful) then you deserve better

Best of Luck =]

Answer 5

Look you see the red flags you don't need a brick to hit you in the head. If you start now making excuses for him KNOWING he is talking and flirting with other women your headed for a divorce before you even walk down the isle with him!!! So wake up. He is not ready to marry. He is not committed to you at all. You hope he is You want him to be but this isn't so..........



Your a nut to marry this guy.

Answer 6

if it was me in that situation i would be sitting down with him just the 2 of yous no mobile's in the room no nothing so he cant get distracted and just have a really big heart to Heart conversation and tell him this is how you see what is going on andand how you feel about this if you have to request his mobile phone to check the messages and see what was wrote to and from them if they are nothing to him and he wants to be with you then he wont mind you checking his messages

Answer 7

Love should be free of doubts and questions. If you are questioning your relationship now it is a clear sign that you are on a rocky path that only you can step off of.

Answer 8

dump him. no offense or anything but he is trash.