My husband's ex-wife is using our home address and phone number as hers?

Question

My husband's ex-wife is using our home address and phone number as hers for credit cards. We have debit collectors calling all the time for her. She has had bills sent to our address addressed to her. Several months ago someone had called looking for her and the lady stated that our address and phone number was given to them by her. Friday we had another credit company call looking for her. I made it very clear that the next time that she did it I would press charges. she knows that my husband will not stand up to her. i contacted the police department and they said that they would call me back well they haven't I can't get a hold of the officer what should I do next?

Answer 1

For starters.....go to the post office and see if there's anything they can do. Anytime you get mail for her from a business call the business and explain that you're getting bills for someone who does not reside at your address and you'd like for them to have the correct address. Also, write the correct address on the envelope and drop it back in the mail. What ever you do don't open her mail - that's a federal offense.

As for the phone calls...if you do not know phone numbers for her (parents, boyfriend, friends, work) find out. The next time a bill collector calls you can give them a nice list of other people to call.

The third thing you may want/need to do is see an attorney. I don't know if this constitutes fraud, harassment or anything but an attorney could tell you your options. It may only take a strongly worded letter from an attorney to get her to stop. The threat of legal action can be quite the deterrent.

Answer 2

Do you know what charge you want filed against her? Being that she isn't endangering your life, your home, or YOUR money.... the cops are busy stopping murderers and catching dangerous criminals. You can still go into the police department and file harassment charges against her. The police are likely to tell you to give anyone who calls for her, her number and address. And turn a change of address card for her into the post office. Write on every piece of mail that arrives her forwarding address and stick it in the box. Put it in the paper that you are not responsible for her debts and have no legal relationship whatsoever. It's called a legal notice. All newspapers have a page like that they publish at least once a week. You could send a copy to her and all her creditors.

Answer 3

1. You and your husband need to pull copies of your credit reports from all 3 agencies, this is free once per year at WWW.ANNUALCREDITREPORT.COM if there are any accounts that are not yours on there ( ex's) you have to file a dispute with each agency that has it, they each have their own set of instructions on how to dispute. You can also ask to have your credit reports "frozen' this means no one can get a report to be used to open new accounts, if you want to open an account it costs about 15.00 to have it unfrozen for a bank to get it pulled.

2. Any mail that comes to your house with her name on it: do not open, but write " NOT AT THIS ADDRESS' on it and either take it back to the post office or leave for the mail man, I would take pictures of these letters in the event you end up in court.

3. If anyone calls and asks for her simply say " XXX does not live here, and has NEVER lived here. DO NOT CALL THIS NUMBER AGAIN." keep a log of these calls and if you have caller ID take a pic of the numbers. again, in case this goes to court.

4. Say NOTHING to her, don't mention any calls or letters, don't say you will press charges.

Answer 4

Call the credit card company itself and tell them that she is using your address falsely... example if its capital one that your getting statements from then look up capital ones site and call them and let them know what is happening.. i think its pretty cowardly of your husband to put you in a situation of having to rectify a situation that involves his x wife.. makes one wonder why? also id put any mail addressed to her back in the mail box with "RETURN TO SENDER PERSON DOESNT LIVE HERE" on it..and id change my phone number and have it unlisted.. and only give your husbands x his cell phone number if they have children together..that would solve the creditors calling and as far as the mail part of it.. so what toss it.. other then that its not like its going to affect your credit.. other then that im not sure theres much more you could do.. but id definately report it to her creditors because if there are any pentalties for her doing this.. they will know how to go about doing it. and id give them her current phone number and address.. good luck..

Answer 5

Change your phone number. Or, if she needs your phone number because of children involved, give her a cell phone number that has caller ID and only answer if it is her. Return to Sender all her mail, Addressee Not Known. Her cards will be cancelled and she won't be able to play this game anymore.

Answer 6

Don't open the mail. If you get anything addressed to her name, put "Return to Sender. No such person at this address"

If they call, state she does not live there and have your husband send them a copy of his divorce decree as proof they are no longer married and she no longer lives with him and have him give out her new address and new phone number.

You can also get the police involved

Answer 7

Simply tell any callers that no one by that name lives at your address. If you know the woman's real number, give it to them. Otherwise, simply tell them she's never lived there and if the continue to call you'll press charges.



As for the mail, mark it undeliverable (no one by that name at your address) and leave it for the mail carrier to take back (at no charge to you).



Simple.



EDIT: Emmett, the FAKE QUESTION ASKER Funny that M46eeyore asked this exact question, with some updates you didn't copy, 7 yrs ago. BA was given to brwneyedgrl.

Answer 8

Go to the post office and take any mail of hers and tell them that she is not at this address and to return it to the company it came from. Let them know that her mail is NOT to be delivered to your address.



When the credit card companies call - tell them she no longer lives there and this is not her phone number and to stop calling.



IF you know her real address and phone number, then give that information to the companies.

Answer 9

Do not wait for the police, you need to start returning all the her incoming mail (especially the bills) to the post office and state the person does not live at your address.Let the letter carrier know to return any mail that is not addressed to you and your husband. You may also need to change your number or at least the voice mail to state that you and your husband only reside at your address. You also need to get your husband to understand that you guys are setting yourselves up for all sorts of trouble by not dealing with this.

Above all else you need to make sure your husband is not giving her permission to do this, stranger things have happened. I hope this helps.

Answer 10

there is nothing the police can do.



When the cc company calls, tell them that she does NOT live here and give them her real number and address. Ask them NOT to call again.



When you receive mail, write, NOT AT THIS ADDRESS/RETURN TO SENDER



This should make it go away.

Answer 11

Start having the mail returned,

marked "Not at this address".

You can also give her actual

address to those that are

trying to get ahold of her

(make sure to include her

phone number).

Answer 12

Tell the callers that they have the wrong number and the mail... write "return to sender" Do the same thing you would do if a stranger used your address and phone number.

Answer 13

File a restraining order on her sorry ***. Then if it continues, put her in Jail.



This is a form of harassment and intentional infliction of harm on you.



Don't stand for it one more minute.

Answer 14

You should return her mail to sender and say that she does not live at this address.

Answer 15

Don't ignore the creditors when they call. Tell them what she is doing and give them her current contact information.

Answer 16

I don't know there's anything you can do.

You can't stop her. I don't know if that's fraud or not.

Answer 17

Talk to a lawyer right away this might be considered identity theft.

Answer 18

Call again.