Need help fast! What should I say for the wedding invitation regarding gifts. 10 pts for best answer!?

Question

I am filling out a form right now to submit for my invitation order. I do not plan to have a wedding registry and I don't want to put the word "gift optional" on the invitation either.

Basically I did not want to put anything on the invitation at all. I believe if people want to bring something , they can call and ask or just bring what they feel. I do not want anyone to feel guilty or pressured into bringing a gift or feel bad if they cant when they see a gift registry on the invitation.

However my fiancee and family thinks i should still put something to avoid confusion and repeat of gifts. I still personally strong about my position however I understand their point of view as well.


I have decided maybe i could just put something that says, if you are interested in gifts please enquire at the stated email address or contact number, something to that effect


What short phrase should i put? Any suggestion how how i should state it? What to say?

GREATLY APPRECIATE IT? ten points for best answer!

Answer 1

Personally I think you should stick to your guns. It's obvious that if people want to give you a gift they can ask you and they already have your contact details for the RSVP. So all that is doing is making your invite say 'GIFTS GIFTS! GIVE US GIFTS!' I know that's not your intention :) But I really think you need to stick to your guns on this one.

Tell your family that they can guide guests with their gift giving (say that three times quickly!), hopefully that will appease them.

Also you can try to convince them that your guests are intelligent people and won't get 'confused' about how to give an appropriate gift.

AND lastly tell them that not mentioning gifts on an invite is Etiquette 101.

Answer 2

Do not mention gifts in any manner on the wedding invitations. Traditionally, there is a table at the reception where wedding guests are welcome to place presents if they have brought one. And, traditionally, the maid of honor or the bride or the bride's mother holds a pouch where financial gifts are held if offered.



People get three blenders. So what. Most people include a gift receipt so you can return or exchange whatever gifts you receive.



I agree with you 100% about the register and any mention of gifts on a wedding invitation. Don't offer an alternative. Just don't mention it at all.



I "get" that you are unlikely to receive a complete set of Royal Dalton china in your perfect setting with this procedure but you aren't getting married in order to receive china, right?



Some girls do. You aren't. Be yourself. You'll have an address on your RSVP so people will know where to send any gifts they might want to give you whether they can attend the wedding or not.

Answer 3

Nothing. It is highly improper to mention gifts in any way on (or enclosed with) the invitation. I know people do it, but that doesn't make it right. If they want to know what you want/need, they will ask.



If there are duplicate gifts, you can exchange them; people have done that since the beginning of time and it's not that big a deal. Just remember to thank people sincerely for their thoughtfulness and how much you appreciate them being a part of your special day.

Answer 4

You can use my own tried & proven saying I made up & my adult children also use..."when in doubt, DON'T". IF you're in doubt of something don't do it. There's a reason why you are questioning it. Those that can afford gifts will give them to you. Some may ask you or your relatives what to give, you'll no doubt get more in money than anything, that's the norm. IF you get duplicates, you can either exchange them or use them for gifts when you need to. Don't worry about mentioning anything. You are thinking in the rite terms...happy future to you...:)

Answer 5

You never put anything about gifts on an invitation...EVER

Answer 6

Tell them they can make donations to the ASPCA on your behalf as your wedding gift.

Answer 7

nothing.......people shouldnt as for gifts......and people shouldnt feel obligated to give