i was going to ask my husband for a divorce but i then found out?

Question

i am pregnant

we have been married for 5years this august and we have a daughter who is 3

we are quite opposite im 26 gobby and dress 2 impress he is rich 34 and quite a career guy we both have good jobs im a insurance claims accessor he is a deputy head teacher at senior school we have a nice house cars the perfect life he treats me like a kid sometimes but he really looks after me and treats me like a princess but i feelthereis something missing and i decided i want a divorce

but im 3 months pregnant with our second and i dont know what to do shall i stick with him for a baby or what

Answer 1

It might not be legal to get a divorce right now.

Answer 2

How did you get a "good job" with such atrocious grammar and spelling?



You already have a child you're going to put through a divorce. Why do you suddenly care about one more?

Answer 3

Stick around. There doesn't sound like there is really anything wrong other the a feeling is "missing".

Answer 4

If you love him then stay

Answer 5

No, I think you should send your baby to me. I will take care of it. You can go looking for greener grass. Win/Win.



Hmmm....come to think of it, send your husband to me. ;-)

Answer 6

Why not spend the time and money on improving your marriage? It will cost less than a divorce!



Start with counseling and start dating your husband and fall in love again!

Answer 7

U r divorcing for a no reason. First of all try to know urself and exactly what u need in ur life. What if u divorce and still u r unsatisfied. u will lose everything even a loving husband and for ur kind information unless the baby is born u cannot apply for divorce. Think about ur decision well and then act. http://www.reviewlocator.com/reviews/surviving-divorce-divorce-survival-a-review-on-product-prepare-for-divorce/

Answer 8

You should never stay in a marriage just for the children. That is not healthy for them or for you guys.

There doesn't seem to be anything really wrong except you two need to mature a little, gain respect for each other and learn to communicate. All of which can be done through marital counseling. Its worth a shot - why not try to put this marriage back together before jumping into divorce?

Answer 9

Okay so you've went from like 13 to 19 and now 26 in the space of a year??

Answer 10

You should carry on with your plans.

Never stay together cus of that reason.

Answer 11

You really don't know why! You say somethings missing and you don't know what. What are you really looking into, you or him? No life is perfect, only needs to be tweaked for the both of you. It starts out with what makes me happy then everyone else.

Answer 12

You weren't planning on sticking with him for your 3 year old daughter, so why would a baby make any difference with your decision in wanting a divorce. If you stay with your husband 'for the baby' you are putting a giant burden on the shoulders of the baby since it's sole job in life is to keep it's parents together. Nothing like having a job even before you are born???



Sounds a bit silly to put the expectations on the baby and not on evaluating why you are unhappy with your marriage and if there is anything you can do to improve it. Believe me, being a 26 single mom will severely limit your time to date, no less make it more difficult to find a man. If you want a divorce because you are bored in your marriage, sorry to say another 5 years into your next relationship you will find yourself once again bored.

Answer 13

If there is no love between you and you feel that there never will. Maybe you should, but if you are missing something. Take some time to sit down and try to find it with him. Other wise why did you marry him in the first place and have children. There is never going to be a perfect forever. This life is what you make of it, for good, for bad and for boring. Maybe sit down talk to him, maybe you need to find some kind of hobby for you two to connect again. Try before you say goodbye.

Answer 14

You have to tell him about the baby. He treats you like a princess, so what's your problem? Has he stopped loving you? Is he mean and abusive to you? The 2 of you have a good life together with a 2nd baby on the way. You didn't mention any stress in your life, nor why you want to get a divorce.



I would advise you to stick around and work out your differences. I am sure he'd be thrilled with the baby. Why aren't you thrilled?

Answer 15

Feeling like "something is missing" is not a reason for divorce. All marriages go thru times when it's not all a dream come true. He sounds like a good guy and worth sticking it out with. Also, your daughter deserves to be with parents who want what's best for her. If you get a divorce and go about your life looking for "what's missing" it could be disastrous for her, as well as your unborn child. Take care of your kids first, even if you feel like you are compromising your own happiness. It's part of adulthood.

Answer 16

Yes you should make it work out. If your husband isn't phycially, emotionally or verbally abusing you, stay married and talk to him about how you are feeling...your children need to be a stable environment and you need to stay with a man who you trust and can come home to a home and not worry about you and your future.....communication works everytime. Fix him a drink and you a glass of apple juice and let him know that you will be a daddy again, belated "happy father's day" to him and celebrate....you won't have time enough to pack and move and be concerned about the schools, etc for your children. Let your husband know how you feel and work it out....many women wish they were in your shoes, watch out because someone may try and take him away

Answer 17

Maybe you should ask yourself why you married him in the first place if you two are so opposite. There must have been some reason you wanted to be his wife. Maybe go back to that. Giving up on your marriage just because something is missing isn't right. Figure out what's missing and work on it together.

Answer 18

You are extremely self centered. You have a 3 year old child and you were thinking about breaking up her family because your missing something? Wow, great job mom.

Answer 19

Marriage counseling, Try everything so when the kids get older the will respect the fact you earned your way out of the marriage.

Answer 20

if you want a divorce have a good reason. do you really not love him anymore? can you live your life without his care? did you find someone else? these are the questions you should ask yourself before you decide.and why the sudden change? oh and talk to him first. good luck with your new kid.

Answer 21

honestly you have your plate full! your best bet is to do what you think is right, if you want to stay with him for the baby then thats what you should do, but if you dont love him anymore then get out because thats the best thing for you i fell outa love with my ex and we divorced weither i was prego or not, and i was, (ended up loosing the baby) so just do what your heart is saying!

Answer 22

Tell him you feel somethings missing, then both of you go to marriage counseling to see if you can find it.

Answer 23

Stay for another year, if after that you still feel you want a divorce then ask him.

Answer 24

hang in there for 18 more yrs. just look at it like your doing time.



after all that what marriage is.



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