i'm having a hard time making love to my husband...?

Question

we have a 2 month old son together, i'm about 40 lbs away from my pre-baby weight. my husband is very loving and caring and tells me i'm beautiful and all that good stuff. it's just that when we make love, i feel tense. and it makes se hurt a little.sometimes when he enters and then afterward. the sex is good besides that. he gives me oral, but sometimes that doesn't help either. we don't have any other issues (no money issues, house issues etc.) to add as stressors. my question is :is this normal? has anyone else experienced anything like this? what can i do to ease the tension to make entry more enjoyable and not be so tense? btw this hasn't happened at all before we had our son. i wonder if it's possible, that i'm tense because i definetly don't want to get pregnant again!!!! ever!! any insight would be good

Answer 1

Roadblocks can come up at times despite our best intentions of enjoying ourselves. Take an evening and let your husband know if he watches the boy you'd like to take a relaxing bath and it will be worth his while. Relax awhile in the tub and get dressed in some sexy lingerie. Then once your child is in bed have a glass or two of champagne or a cocktail with your husband as you talk and listen to some music. You'll relax, he'll enjoy himself and you'll feel more at ease. You've been through a change the last year or so and you just need some release. Good luck

Answer 2

Its very normal. Our body takes time to heal. Until n unless u r comfortable, u wun enjoy love making.



Happened wid me last year after my 2nd baby was born.I used to participate but never enjoyed until abt 6 months. Things started coming bak to normal, after I forced myself to enjoy, as i was also missing the pleasure.



Perhaps, its too early for u right now as the baby is very small and u seem to be stressed out. Also, you are afraid of becoming pregnant again which is not a combination that lends itself to great sexual desire.



You are too tired, for one thing. And you know another baby would just add to your already heavy workload—and you know how babies are made!



You need to see both your OB-GYN and a therapist. The OB-GYN can discuss contraceptive options with you, so you will have fewer worries about an accidental pregnancy. A therapist can help you find ways to cope with the demands of your life, and perhaps help you and your husband communicate better so you can understand each other better. You should also make sure that you are healing properly. Sometimes discomfort can make sexual intercourse less desirable.



Good Luck :)

Answer 3

Maybe your extra tense about the not wanting to get pregnant again. If you feel so strongly about that, maybe your birth control methods need to be looked into. If you are on the pill, and he is using a condom, then that should make you relax in that area anyway. I wouldn't want to bring another baby into a home that wasn't financially stable either. Good luck.

Answer 4

Totally normal after having a baby. It takes a good year before everything goes back to pre-baby body. You need to get comfortable with yourself, and accept that he loves you the way you are. If you don't want to get pregnant again look into permanent birth control.

Answer 5

You are right, you lack concentration.You know in sex concentration gives you the pleasure, enjoyment , but if you are tense, or thinking something like what youve said you are worried , for you might get pregnant so thats it.maybe tell your husband to give you time, and explain your side.If he really love you, he will understand you.

Answer 6

you my have some leasions from giving birth. kinda common but can be cured by having more sex. use a water based lube astro glyde works very well and after having sex a few times if the problem still exist go back to the dr