I'm 20 he's 40. What does he want?

Question

Hey,

Going to try and keep it as short as possible! I met a guy around a month ago at a bar and we got on so well! I went back to his that night and we sat up talking for hours and we did sleep together. He's 40 and I'm 20 (i realise people will have their opinions) he does not look 40, he doesn't come across as 40 and we seemed to have so much in common.

Anyway, we were texting for a bit after but then when I made the suggestion to go for drinks he said "I just don't know if its a good idea." so i just left it as didn't want to appear desperate. So I start seeing someone new but could not get him out of my head for the entire month that I was seeing this other guy for.

Then yesterday I get a text from this guy saying how are etc and saying we should have drinks and catch up so i agreed then when i text him today he says he can't make it then we get into a text convo and he says " i'm sorry i just disappeared. I wrote out an epic text about how i think the age gap is too much but then never sent it." then he says "you do know i was really into you though?" which i really did think he was (it appeared that way.) so then i swallow my pride and tell him i'm really into him and he goes on to say "I'm 40 though, i'm old!! i have a crazy ex and kids!" ?(his kids live away with their mum and are 15/16 btw) so i just replied "well i don't care but it'd be nice to have drinks" he replys "yeah would be good to catch up next week :)" so i then just left the texting there..
He also said when I asked why he never text "I think i got ahead of myself a bit and panicked" What does this even mean?!

I really like this guy and haven't been able to get him out of my head but i just don't get what he's thinking! 1 minute he's saying he's really into me, the next he's trying to put me off of him! any advice would be appreciated! thank you

Answer 1

He's really hung up on the age gap, OR he's into mind games. Either way I think you're wasting your time.

Answer 2

NO NEED to even read the rest of your question. You want to know what he wants? This is pretty simple my dear. He's 40! You're 20! Nuff said! And whatever he did the first night you two met apparently worked, because by the end of the evening you ended up sleeping with him!

Answer 3

hi honey, i grew to become into as quickly as like that too while i grew to become into 14. All i wanted grew to become right into a boyfriend besides i'm now 17 and characteristic a wonderful boyfriend, yet I additionally did no longer get my first boyfriend till i grew to become into 15. i began out finding up all approximately it and each thing. i grew to become into so prepared approximately attempting to get a boyfriend. i found somewhat some distinctive solutions yet plenty blanketed changing the way i glance, or act, ect. To get a boyfriend you purely ought to be your self and attempt tidied somebody who will definitely care approximately you. attempt to speak to 3 adult males around your college (and around your age!!) see in the event that they have some comparable hobbies as you it would get you a step closer to no longer being single anymore. additionally do no longer attempt to no longer basic to your first kiss, or first something! attempt to make effective YOURE definitely waiting and don't in common terms say you're because of the fact relatively everyone else says they are.

Answer 4

He just doesn`t think it could work out, because of the age gap. It`s worrying him.



He will also come with a bit of baggage i think. Age gaps do not usually bother me but I think this guy has problems you know nothing about. Just my thoughts and opinion for what it is worth.

Answer 5

Ask your dad. Don't tell him where the guy is 'cuz he will want to kick his hide or blow it up with a shotgun. You were stupid and gave the 'ol buck what he wanted. A young easy piece of meat and something to boost his ego at your expense. Guys your age aren't attracted to you?

Answer 6

he is a 40 year old man who is out to prove to himself he can still get chicks. you are nothing more than a challenge to him. trust me , if you sleep with him he will find someone to tell he banged a 2o year old girl. its all about bragging

Answer 7

I didn't read the writting part, but based on your question, he just wants some young pu$$y.

Answer 8

did not even read anything but im 20 and hes 40. if you stay with him he will take your youth, he already had his. leave. no run!

Answer 9

Long answer short: He wants to get in your pants.

Answer 10

He might be married, men are weird in general. Just talk to him.

Answer 11

I didn't read all that but i'll tell you what he wants: some young firm flesh.

Answer 12

Jeez just go to sh@g him and stop writing essays

Answer 13

You have a daddy complex.