How can I make a good future for my son?

Question

I have a son who is now 2 months old. I was unemployed all through my pregnancy, but now have a job waitressing. I am waiting to start college so I can study my degree in applied science, n I also have a job interview at my local bank. My fiance has always been in work, however his pay is always gonna get garnished for child support. Right now he pays 65% for a 2 year old he has with his ex, n the more money he makes, the more his ex will take him back to court for money. His 2 year old daughter has everything, his ex and new booyfriend have just bought a 4 bedroom colonial house, have 2 cars, just went on a disney vacation, his daughter has 2 trust funds set up and a college fund n what does my son have? Nothing, because the court system wont allow for my fiance to afford anything for him. My fiance has already told me that our son will never have as much as his daughter, infact we have no car, no place of our own (we live with my fiances dad) n no money behind us. Our son doesnt even have medical insurance. My ideal future is that I will be a home owner n have a nice car n my son wont ever go without but my fiance says I am living in a dreamworld n the only job I will ever have is being a waitress. But if I go to college n better myself then why cant my son have just as much as his half sister?

Answer 1

If the ex has a live in bf then you can get the 65% lowered or gone

Get a good lawyer with NO upfront fee and LOW fees. There are many lawyers, you need to call around. Make sure his expertise in this.



I don't think you should work for the family sake. I mean he gets 35% and he can get another job or 2. Living at your Dad is cool nice and saves. You need to take care of the family and help more around dad's house



Your son will have much, believe and make your husband believe too in a soft sweet meek way.



Recommended to take it slow, take time to get to know the person. Try to keep things clean, less baggage. Let 7 years of perfect relationship before marriage. After 7 years of perfect marriage then a child if wanted.



If things are minor I usually just wouldn't even give it a second thought. If it is major I just fix it the best way and that's it. Maybe this will be a good method for you guys. Always reinforce it with Love

Either way for later as a wife if you decide make sure to take care of him always in the love making area. I hope you can be stay at home wife ([no school]events with guys around unless your husband is there 100%) that takes care of all the woman things and he is taking care of all the man things like lifting, fixing working outside and handling all those jerks, and if you do work outside you know what I mean. I hope you can be a home wife so the marriage can be a loving one with peace.



Always talking is good. Find a private place to talk with time to talk. Never teach, just inform if necessary and in a meek manner. Handle the kids and teach them with few words and listen well, pay attention to details. If some parts kids can't be handled then inform the husband.



Be a good wife and make sure all the cooking and cleaning is done. Stay Fit, Smell Good, Dress well. Make sure to make love when ever either of you want.



Be meek. Quick to listen, slow to speak. Only tell him things when needed. Never teach him. If you do tell him something make sure it is kindly. Handle the kids, and if you notice you can't for sure then inform him in a kindly way.



Hugs and kisses are always good any time, instead in front of the guys otherwise the guys might want some too. Make sure to let him know to keep the making love part private.





On another note you seem to be a very nice person, so I like to add that what ever person you want a serious relationship with, take your time (years) and really really really see if this is the person you will spend your whole life with. If you can even better never get married and just enjoy your life with nothing serious, make sure the other party knows your intentions. I like to add though, in marriage it is a different kinda love, a very valuable kinda love. Always do whats best for everyone like what you did when you asked this question,



Try your best. Love like you never love before. This is the best way for love to come and start surrounding your life. May love be around you, through you and is you.



Love and the Good Life will come



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Answer 2

Wow, sounds like your hubby is being a downer. Instead of him bashing on your idea of what you want in life, he should be supportive! It's sucks that his money goes to a kid that's well off but that shouldn't stop him from supporting you in getting on your feet. I don't know where you live or what assistance they have available for you and your kid but you can google "Government assistance in *your state*" or even google and see if you have the WIC program for your son (it's assistance with diapers, formula, wipes. . ) But another thing is when you get enrolled in college you can apply for grants and student loans. I got a grant and I took out student loans and the student loans covered the cost of a used car:-) That's a start ya know?

Answer 3

What kind of job would an applied scientist graduate apply for and what is the market for such a degree? Go for the job at the local bank. The court will not acknowledge your son as an de-pendant of your fiance because there is no legal status to your union. I can see no way for you to be able to afford college,a home, cars, or health insurance on your income alone or even with the piddly help your fiance has to offer. This 65% he is paying sure seems like a big load of bull, have you seen the court order that states that, I doubt it. I think you are being used.

If you want all you said for yourself and your son you can do it but not with this anchor I can see why his wife divorced him. Look a little harder at him so you don't make another mistake.

Answer 4

First of all, he doesn't pay 65% of his gross income for child support. He's lying to you. Secondly, stop blaming what your son doesn't have on his 2 yr old daughter. Seriously, shame on you for not providing your son with health insurance. Thirdly, don't major in applied science. It's a waste. Unless you want to pursue medical school or something of the sort, which I highly doubt.



Did I mention he DOESN'T pay 65% of his income in child support? If he really does (which he doesn't), his ex had a damn good lawyer on her side. But again, he doesn't. What state are you in?