Donna C asked this EXACT question 5 yrs ago, and the below, by J Alex, what was chosen as best answer (you can go to the link and see all the other replies as well, fake question asker).
"I understand how you feel.
I'm contemplating moving back to my hometown, a place I left for better options, for an intimate relationship. Thankfully hometown is experiencing a surge of urban renewal though it's still not as affluent as my current location. But my last visit home was so pleasant, I can now see how I could create a happy and comfortable life there. I've lived all over the US and now I'm ready to settle down.
But in your situation, the location you're currently residing in seems like a hopeless place. Maybe not for others but definitely for you. You're totally not happy and it seems a move is the only solution.
If you haven't already, tell your husband the truth...the whole truth and don't hold anything back. It's possible he may think you're being selfish but you both need to at the BIG picture. Your life is a living hell, you're not happy, and eventually your lack of enthusiasm is going wreck havoc on your marriage.
Your unhappiness will soon effect your responsibilities as a mother, if it hasn't already. Your child can feel your pain even if he or she can't make verbalize it. Children are heavily effected by their environments and the last thing your baby needs is an unhappy mother.
Other side effects your unhappiness can eventually lead to clinical depression, resentment, weight gain, and a decline in your writing abilities. You, your child, your career, and husband deserve better.
Is your husband's job really so important that he'd allow something as a physical location to eventually ruin his marriage? Family is the most important thing in the world. It's because of my love for my family that I'm willing to move back to my hometown. I love my extended family and want my future kids to be surrounded by love, their elders, and generational traditions. I lived far for my family as a kid and missed out on a lot. Besides, I'm lucky to be from a place that's rich in culture and anything but boring.
Back to you...
You previously mentioned that your husband works for a large company and should be able to get a transfer to a more desirable location. That's a plus!
Your current location isn't the end all and be all. I know that sometimes when you're in you're under 40, it feels like once in a lifetime options are limited, especially when you're trying to build your career. But from my experiences, I'm learning that success and opportunities exist no matter where you are. There's always a way to succeed at doing what you love. However, when you're in a negative environment - whether it's a city, home, or even within a particular company - it's very difficult to take advantages of those golden opportunities. Your living environment is key.
In your heart, you know a move would improve your family life. Discuss how you both feel about your living situation and then come up with a relocation-action plan. Do this as couple, you're part of a supportive team, remember? Imagine how much happier you'd both be in an environment that enriched your lives. Think about the type of life your child and future children would be able to enjoy. No city or location is perfect, each place has it's pros and cons. However, we all need to live in an area that's safe and comfortable. You might not be able to move overnight but you should be able to move someplace better.
I understand that we need to compromise in relationships but at what expense? Remember, your job as a wife and mother trump everything else. It's more important than a job that can definitely be performed in another location.
I hope my answer helps. I wish you luck and hope a moving truck eventually arrives at your front door before the end of 2012."