What would you do if you found out that your husband was looking at the casual encounter posts in craigslist?

Question

You know, the ones where people post trying to find someone to have sex with in the area. I found out and brought it up to him and he said that he accidentally went to it, and that I shouldn't worry about it because people on there are fake! But I KNOW people actually meet. I don't know what to do cause I don't know if he cheated or not..but he was looking

Answer 1

Me ex b.f did the EXACT same thing. I opened his email and saw 3 pages of replies. The first time he said his friend went on and i said ok. We broke up and I went under his email and boom, women! I would ask him about it for sure. my experience with it wasn't good.

Answer 2

Hmmm...what you can do is install Pandora PC on the computer, as long as its your computer...and find out what he's up to. With Pandora PC, you'll be able to see screen shots of what he's looking at, and what time it was happening, you'll see what websites he went to. So if he 'accidently' looks at that stuff again, you'll know it was no mistake. Anyway, here's the link to Pandora PC:



http://www.pcpandora.com/



To buy it, go here:



http://www.pcpandora.com/order/clickbank/?



I had to buy and install this on both home computers because my husband had a problem last year with pornography. He was becoming addicted to it during my pregnancy, and I had no idea. When I had suspicions, I installed this, and saw EVERYTHING. Of course it was heartbreaking, but it was something that needed to be done. If your husband has a problem , you need to find out and address it. He could be unhappy in the relationship, he could be sexually unsatisfied...whatever it is, you need to find out. And the only way to know is by installing Pandora PC and doing your own detective work.



If you install it and see stuff you don't like, don't say anything for a week. Let me continue to do what he does. You can print out evidence later...It's a really easy program to use, and I have to say, it saved my marriage. If my husband had continued to look at porn, he would have become deeply addicted, and our marriage would have been in complete ruins. It was the hardest year of my life, but we got past it. I still have the Pandora PC installed on our computer, and I do check them once in a while to make sure that everything is in order....



Good luck...let me know if you need any help. This is a hard time for you...

Answer 3

It depends.



I was dating a girl and I used to look at stuff like that. But the difference was I did it in front of her and showed her where I was going, because I thought those ads were hilarious. They are so nasty and bottom of the ladder.



But if I was doing it on the downlow, that would be a major problem.

Answer 4

If I really felt he messed with someone on there I would kick him out get tested and move on with life because any women or man that would post themselves on Craigslist for sexual encounters has got to be nasty.

Answer 5

Ask him this.



How does he "know" the people on there are fake? The only way he would "know" that for sure is if he responded to some ads and found out they were fake for himself. He's caught himself in a very obvious lie, hasn't he?



P.S. I'm an infidelity couples counselor. This isn't to be taken lightly. This mean that he is either looking to cheat or he's already cheated. Whatever you do, get yourself tested for STDs immediately. Your health could be at risk.

Answer 6

He may not have been doing anything on there. We read them here at work all the time. Some of them are off the wall and can be very funny. If you have not read them take a look. You would be surprised.



Sometimes it is just entertaining.

Answer 7

And I'm sure he believes that pigs fly! This guy is full of crap. You guys are married so it's not like you can just up and leave him. Obviously, something is going on to make him think it's ok for him to inquire about that sort of stuff.

Man, I don't envy your position. Try to see what else is going on and go from there.

Best of luck to you.

Answer 8

you cannot assume hes already cheated. he may have been curious to see whats in the adverts. surely as youre married you know ur husband the best. is he the type?

Answer 9

I have looked at a lot of things on the internet, including Craigslist, just out of curiosity. (I have often been shocked and amazed to find out what is going on!)



If you trust your husband, then you have to trust him. Did you look? Were you as shocked as I was?



Me and Valerie - two great minds!

Answer 10

In ALL FAIRNESS, I looked a couple times here at work STRICTLY for entertainment, and morbid curiosity sakes....trust me on THAT one!



So, he probably was too, I mean seriously, its like a freak sideshow, some of those ads.......

Answer 11

I would guess that he was looking. That doesn't mean he was cheating but it probably means he's thinking about it. People who use craigslist have been known to hook up.

What does your gut tell you? Is there any other evidence?

Answer 12

i've gone on there just browsing around, and jokingly told my husband. i would say as long as he didnt do anything other than look at CL then you are fine. when you start seeing other behaviors like the phone calls and comeing home late, etc... then you should be worried, but for now you are good! :D

Answer 13

Your husband is a liar and he is thinking of cheating. It is that simple. Don't be one of those ridiculous women who see water falling out of the sky and questions whether it is raining or not.

Answer 14

I hope he wasn't pretending to be the hot chick I'm meeting this weekend.

Answer 15

I would seriously laugh....cause I look at those too, some of those ads are just strait filth and funny to read.

Answer 16

Well you have to believe him because he is your husband. BUT i would keep your gaurd up and check his e-mails/phone etc for suspicious activity. If you find nothing within the month drop it and never talk about it again.

Answer 17

it was probably just curiosity..just to see whats out there. i would be more worried if he signed up for pod or tagged

Answer 18

Did you only find him on that site once? OK it doesn't look good, but, some men are just curious.

Answer 19

calm down, everyone has a curiosity to look at things, that doesn't mean he is planning to cheat on you, he is just looking out of curiosity.

Answer 20

Sounds like he isnt get what he wants at home and is looking to see whats out there.....



I guess you are one of those prude wives that think sex is bad now that your married.....

Answer 21

print off the page...call my attorney in that order..good luck

Answer 22

i am married and have looked on there too. the sole purpose was to cheat on my wife. this gives you two options assuming that you believe my conclusion.



1. divorce the jerk

2. go to craigslist and do the same thing and then divorce him