The father of my child will not get a job to avoid paying child support, what are my rights?

Question

I am a working single parent and it is VERY HARD. My whole check gos towards expenses and I have nothing left at the end of the week. It is unfair. I wish I could give my children more but I have to pay for rent, lights etc. I went to court and their is an order but he will not get a job because he does not want to pay. However, he had two other children after my child. Off topic. I do not know why women have children by deadbeat dads. Can I have the judge order him to work?

Answer 1

Yes.



The Judge should put him in jail if he refuses to get a job.



He can have his drivers license and professional license (like if he is a plumber, roofer, doctor, lawyer) removed if he does not pay.



Make sure you keep going back to court. Tell them.



Peace.

Answer 2

Why did you have a child by this deadbeat dad??? Hmmmm??? That said, ask the judge what can be done in order to get him to pay child support. Eventually this will catch up with him. You may find yourself getting some money when your kid turns 18. It's called back child support. Some men are actually put in jail for failure to pay. An attorney could offer some suggestions.

Answer 3

I was in the same exact situation growing up, we had a court order, he would switch jobs every few months to avoid child support being attached to his checks...he had two other kids.....this happened all the way up to 18....he has back child support he still owes my mother but he won't pay. I am grown now and still dealing with this.



I have seen fathers go to jail or get their license taken over this...but they never did anything to mine. He always took care of his other two kids and his ex wife...but not me.



The point i'm trying to make is.... this will go on forever if he chooses to be an a** forever. The only way things will change is if he changes, it's possible that he can be sent to jail or have his license suspended but that's not guaranteed. All you can do right now is figure out a way to bring in more money for your family....be it now or in the future. This is not going to be fixed over night if ever....



It's not fair that we have to go through things like this, but just remember tomorrow is a new day...so you can always turn things around for your family by going to college for a different degree, learning a trade, landing a higher paying position, or government assistance.

Answer 4

Can a person be ordered to work by the courts? No, but you CAN request an enforcement order. The father will be required to pay the court, in full, every month, or be found in contempt (he's borderline now, if you can find a judge with the backbone to enforce the existing order).



How he finds the money to pay the court is his problem -- and missing a payment is a sure-fire way for him to get "free room & board" at the Crowbar Hotel for quite some time to come.

Answer 5

Keep taking the matter to court. Your ex could end up going to jail over not paying the child support he was ordered to pay. He won't be paying while he's incarcerated, but then again, he's not paying now, so your situation won't be any different but he will be punished for refusing to face his responsibilities. As to why women have children by deadbeat dads - you tell me.

Answer 6

Every state (country?) differs, but once an order is place, they can't "force" him to work, however, that back child support is going to add up and up and up. At certain amounts life gets hard. Where I'm from, once it gets to a certain amount they lose their drivers license if they have one, then the next level a warrant is put out for their arrest with an automatic 30 days in jail, once they've been arrested 3 times they start getting prison terms. Of course a lawyer can come up with all kinds of ways to stall, but that would require money, a public defense attorney won't put in that much effort.

Answer 7

How can you say that ?

You did just that had a child by one

But thankfully for the child you work hard to support it

Unlike him you obviously love and want the best you can do for them

He is not alone lots of guys sow seeds and then leave

If you ask me the children are better off without men like this in their lives

At least they will know a mothers love and devotion to them

Answer 8

Go to your local Department of Human Services office- tell them that you have an order, but he isn't paying child support. In some states, his driver's license can be taken for not paying and he can also be jailed. Go find out what your options are. Good Luck :)

Answer 9

There are six men for every job. It's a Mancession after all. Worse, child support arrears showing up on credit rating puts him at the bottom of the list for potential hires. It's going to be this way fro another five years, if history is any example. Move him back in and share expenses.

http://dads-house.org/Mancession

Answer 10

Wow, a number of those solutions and all extensive of the mark. 2 issues. extensive sort one is teenagers want fathers. you could spend time which incorporate your babies now so which you would be able to spend time with them whilst they are babies and want you. (The detention center wardon's union will disagree with me in this, because boys devoid of days are two times as probably to pass for reformatory.) extensive sort 2 is that the courts will make you pay newborn help. The state does not prefer to pay to advance your babies. tell her you will pay her $40 a month. in case you could bypass to which incorporate your babies you will pay $XX a month. It sounds like your spouse will choose for the greater montey. Write help on the 1st 2 tests. How lots is XX? you ought to use your computing gadget to be certain how lots newborn help is. A lawyer pal advised me that in case you bypass to CSE (newborn help Enforcement) before her they are going to be very lifelike. they'd't replace the quantity, yet their suggestions-set can help. Get the newborn help figured whilst your earnings sucks. One in many cases does not could report an greater advantageous earnings. they're going to ask on your address. provide your mum and dad address. in the event that they provide you a confusing time say she has damanged your components, and bodily abused you. If she does that back get witnesses and take photographs. If she has stabbed you she ought to be in reformatory.

Answer 11

Have the judge decree a dead beat dad. Once that is done apply to the state for assistance on the court order, the state will have to assist you and charge him the bill to be paid to the state. maybe some prison time will wake him up.

Answer 12

yes, the judge can order him to pay even if hes not in work, he can tell him to get a job and get so much paid by a certain period of time, especially if hes skilled and he can tell him hes going to prison otherwise.

Answer 13

No, The Judge can not physically make anyone work...

Yes, your life may be hard right now.

You are young, with a child to care for and no help or support; BUT this was your choice.

No one forced you to enter into "relations" that brought this young child into the world - this was a "choice" that you made by living & doing the things, that you caused yourself to have a young child.

NOW... you seem to be understandably - heavily burdened, beyond that which you can mentally, financially or emotionally handle some days - yes, very difficult consequences that have come from only "your choices" - no one else.

No one forced you to conduct yourself as you have - this was 100% your doing - no one else.



SO now today, you have to focus on you working hard daily; you have to focus on formally educating yourself ( night classes perhaps ) and also reading as many good books as you can to prepare yourself for a better future. IF you have any kind of family, stay close to them. Get involved with a Church, so that you have some kind of spiritual belief structure and a larger extended family of sorts. ALL sociological studies have shown that by being involved with Community brings a greater feeling of structure, people who you can weekly talk with, that can help you carry or support you during difficult years of growth & seemingly struggle. Their are many great & loving people in every community that can help you learn, mature and grow...



Your future is as bright as you want to make it - good things will only come to you by your positive, healthy "DAILY" choices. IF you want to blame everyone else - fine, this is your choice BUT this type of attitude will only hold you back. You have created what you have created - ALL by the choices that you have made & no one else but you.



Lift your head up & take courage daily, fill your mind with healthy positive thoughts & goals for yourself. Let no one else or any present circumstance deter you from progressing everyday. Only you control your thoughts and actions - no one else. Set goals & work towards them daily, weekly, monthly - ask for help from those who have already been successful & daily - live a positive healthy lifestyle. Your future is bright - so go out and create all that you want...



May you create all that is important to you through your daily positive thoughts and actions...do not give up - it is totally worth it! You are just beginning to learn what you are made of "on the inside".

The Universe is pulling for you to Win!! :)

Answer 14

For him not to pay for his own child by consent, either

a) he never agreed to pay in the first place in which case you have no right to expect him to, or

b) you must have been a real *****, or

c) you chose a partner who was way unsuitable.



You believed the brainwashing that said men and women are equal when in fact, by nature, women have a much greater liability when it comes to children.



In any case, it's your fault and you deserve it. Sorry but that's just it. By going to court you will only make matters worse for you and your children.



Besides, you still haven't exhausted all your options for making money and you have an obligation to do that before you complain about others.

Answer 15

working or not he has to pay his child still has to eat some states once u owe so much in support they lock u up

Answer 16

Talk to your atty and see what options you have. Your situation comes under state law, and no one here even if they were attys could really answer your question unless they knew what your state law was regarding your situation.



Good luck.