Why my ex boyfriend still flirts with me even after he married?

Question

We were together for four years...but he decided us to stay just as friends. I accepted to stay in contact with him.
Now he is married. Since he married I stopped flirting with him. But he didn't. I stopped him few times from flirting and told him this isn't right and I don't like flirting with just a friend.
But he is not ending that. He even asks me to contact him more than before.
He sent me new message and again said he wants us to be friends.
I am very confused. Why does he flirt even after he married?
What should I tell him now??? Should i end the friendship with him? Anyway he is ruin it with his wrong attitude.

Answer 1

Hmm well you didn't really describe how he's flirting. Maybe you are just overreacting and misinterpreting little things he's said because you still have feelings for him. Or if he's always been a flirt it could just be innocent and he feels comfortable enough with you to be like that. He could still care about you in a platonic way so he thinks he's boosting your confidence and ego and there's nothing wrong with it. But if he's clearly putting the moves on then I'd say he's hoping to have an affair. Especially if he knows you still have feelings, he might be hoping to take advantage of it and get some action on the side. Be especially wary if he's asking to meet up alone together and if he's mentioning he's unhappily married or complaining about his wife a lot. If you feel like he wants an affair definitely end the friendship. You sound like you know better than to get Involved with a married man. So just trust your gut and do what feels right.

Answer 2

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First: This girl may have been your first love - but she will not be your last love. She was just first. By first, that means there will be a second - and maybe a third and fourth - love. In fact, I rather doubt you really do love her in the way a real relationship works - because you fought all the time and you apparently always had to have the upper hand. If you really loved her you would have been much more considerate of her in the first place.



Second: You are at least man enough to describe what you did to make her break off with you - you argued with her about everything - who she talked to, that she wasn't at your beck and call, everything. Would you want to be with someone who did this to you? Hardly not. Well, neither did she - and she ended it. OK so learn something from this. Don't do this kind of thing to your next girl or you will be back on Y/A crying like you are now. Learn from this. If you need to get counseling - then seek counseling. But at least you recognize what you did to screw things up. That's to your credit. But learn from it.



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How do you mend a broken heart? It takes time. LOTS of time. It starts by accepting that the relationship is over and then reflecting on what went wrong and how you contributed to it. You're doing this now - so you're doing the right thing. Stop contacting her because every time you do, you're just tearing open an old wound. Be polite and even friendly when you two meet in person (as you probably will occasionally) but explain to her that you need some time away from her so you can heal from the breakup. Make it stick



Is this easy? No. Breakups hurt all over. They make you sick to your stomach and can even cause you to mess up other things in your life - but that's why they call it lovesick.

Answer 3

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Answer 4

He sounds pretty immature. If u want to end all contact with him ( which would be a good idea seeing his lack of intergrity) and he continues to contact u, advise him ur going to forward all his messages to u back to his wife.

Answer 5

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Answer 6

i guess he still luvs u... Buh, he wud've married u if he had found u more interesting and gud...

I think he rushed for the glittering one and later realised dat not all dat glitters are gold...



It's not gud continuing dat way, cut him off and go on with ur life, lest he ruin ur future..



Buh do it in a matured way.. Gud luck

Answer 7

He most.likely still wants you and his new wife. I wouldn't cut all tieswith him just ignore the flirtations that come from him. Let him know again it's wrong.

If you think is all wrong then say your good byes

would you like it if he was your husband

Answer 8

Because men will always be men, sex is always in their mind and masturbation and fantasizing is never gonna stop. You are his mind porno, free, easy and cheap. You are the only person that think he genuinely wanna be good friend.

Answer 9

He probably believes in polygamy and wants to f^ck with people's heads. F^cked up people exist. He sounds pretty majorly f^cked up. Cut him out of your life

Answer 10

Of grow up and cut all ties! U know u wouldn't like it if ur husband did this !

Answer 11

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Answer 12

Cos he is a w.anker.