I am so hurt what should I do?

Question

I am engaged to be married in 8 months. I notice my fiancee is always on this site..so I decided to check it out and see what it was all about. I discovered that he has been trying to hook up and flirting with several woman via his answers...and lying about who he really is...I don't even know this man who comes out here! I am so hurt and don't know what to do...HELP

Answer 1

Sorry to hear that.

It's funny when you think you know someone and you don't even know them at all.

I think that if he is able to carry on like this online, he would easily be able to carry on like this in real life.

Even though I'm sure you don't want too you have to wipe away the tears and you have to confront him.

It might hurt like hell, but you've busted him betraying you.



If you chose to stay with him, and work things out then you might be only setting yourself back up for heartache.

Even though you can verbally say that you're not going to take it.

It doesn't always work that way with your heart.



An easy way out just my suggestion...

You make a profile on a site he goes to msg him, and compliment him.

Do what you have to get him to talk with you and get him interested. Then make a date.

Tell him you want to see him, and if you could get together. Be prepared because I'm sure you know he might jump all over this especially if you just paste a hot pick of some girl. When he sets the date you print everything he wrote.

Then throw it in his face, and then you will be able to say.

I caught you I know for a fact. It's more than flirting and more than some sort internet world for you. You've been unfaithful, and the trust is gone. ect... you're over

That's only my suggestion.

I've been there before, and I've had to go through the exact same thing. I was foolish I forgave but in the end I just kept getting hurt and they kept lying. Nothing changes. You saw his true colors and he is going to show someone else.

Just thank God that you know now instead of before you're married because he would of took vows before god and then when he would betray you it will hurt even more.



I hope you get through this

Best of Luck

Answer 2

I would be hurt and definitely angry.



The positive thing is that you found out about this now, and not after you have been married. Trust your instincts.



Confront him about it (print out the questions and answers if you need to). You need to find out why he is doing this. If he can't commit to you now, he won't get any better after marriage. Give that some serious thought. It's much easier to break things off now than to go through a divorce.



Good luck.

Answer 3

Ditto! I'm with Tracey, too! I'm just wondering if he's one of the ones who has been hitting on women but sounds like a little boy? And is he sure that he's talking to a woman? He very well could be talking to a child!! Tell him that and see the blood leave his face!!

Answer 4

first confront him about it, but i would say you really don't know this man at all, u just thought u did. if he is trying to hook up with others, his heart is not with u and u should get out of it, and not marry this man, because marriage doesn't change people, marriage is not going to solve the problems, just be glad u got a glimpse into the true him before u married and had children. this is your out, of a bad situation.

Answer 5

You can't let this go unmentioned. You need to discuss this with him before the wedding. This can get much worse if you get married and not say anything. I am certain you will do the right thing. Good Luck!!!

Answer 6

If he is really trying to hook up with someone else then you should confront him about it. If he is doing this now, he will continue to even after you are married. I understand you are hurt, I would be if I found my husband doing that.

Answer 7

If you found out he's a liar looking to cheat, be glad you found out now rather than after the wedding. Return the engagement ring and move on.

Answer 8

It's a good thing that your finding this out now.



Confront him with what you have found.



Think hard about whether you want to spend the rest of your life with this man.

Answer 9

If it really bothers you then you have the power to confront him about what's going on with meeting other females on his website. Better now than never.

Answer 10

I agree with Tracey.... Get to the bottom of this right away, and what ever you do, don't let him make you feel bad, like this is your fault.

Answer 11

I'm sorry this has happened to you, but I know this isn't much help but better that you caught him now rather than after you married him. break it off sweetie. dont even listen to his excuses. he'll just lie

Answer 12

why don't you use another sn flirt with him and agree to meet him somewhere and bust his sorry self.