simon e
2010-07-12 11:11:51 UTC
Over $25,000 in court costs, for every other weekend, no spring break, no Christmas break, one week of a 12 week summer break, and a daughter who has not seen her father on her Birthday in 5 years, first right of refusal which has not been followed. We financially ruin ourselves no matter what, you fight, it costs you, you don't fight, it costs you, all the while no one listens to the kids, what about our children, how they feel matters, why is everyone only interested in getting what they need, AKA child support and fees? Fathers like myself are going through a living hell, our children are suffering and nobody helps. Of course the best interest of our children is the number one issue, for a father to voice his personal pain and his needs and wants too, does not make him a bad person or a bad parent. Many of us suffer a great deal, my ex cheated on me, was abusive during and after the marriage, but in court she said I was abusive physically, mentally, sexually, even claiming I raped her. Since our separation she has been arrested for DUI, Domestic Assault, public brawling and she also attacked me at a custody exchange, also I submitted police reports involving her, over 15 in total. I have nothing, not one problem, only a couple of speeding tickets in 20 years, she has also made the same claims about the father of her first child, and her last boyfriend. She is viewed as the victim always, she was even was reported for beating our 7 year old with a hairbrush by a Guardian appointed by the court, yet I'm called petty for asking for help and a parenting time expo, something suggested by the guardian and opposing counsel, plus something you have to motion for in my state, I'm then ordered to pay $2600 in attorneys fees because I didn't seek mediation before court action, mediation which we have done and she has broken the commitments made, I was put in a room with two women and my ex-wife, I was then made to watch my ex cry and beg me to drop everything, that she loved me and perhaps one day we could get back together, that she adores me (the Rapist) and would never get in the way of me being a father (deadbeat) to our kids, the sucker I am I made the choice to believe her, after the divorce mediation was needed again,that she then used it as an opportunity to attack me, then I'm held responsible in court for leaving after 30 min, leaving which was agreed upon by the mediator for all our safety at that time and to not cause further problems, thus why we are in court, also why mediate on placing a professional whom can only be appointed by the court, especially when the current setup works for the person causing all the problems! If you have mediation, if you have written reports by guardians that make direct quotes, shouldn't we be taping it, shouldn't we know what fact is over perception or manipulation or even simple mistakes in notations, these people all have personal agendas, including member of the court, this is all so disappointing, plus this is the 2nd time I've gone through all of this, first as the child and now as the parent, 28 years later it's the same old system.