My husband is a little two friendly with our next door neighbor im sick of it!?

Question

Me and my husband Zack have been living in our home since we got married 5 years ago. We have always had a great relationship, me and my husband are best friends. There have never been any trust issues to date, but our next door neighbor is slowly changing all of that. My husbands a very good looking 30 year old, and this girl is 27 I'm pretty sure. She's really pretty and she wears really inappropriate clothing. in the past 5 months or so she's been really peeing me off. She constantly needs me husbands help with something.
My husband is a general contractor so when anything needs fixed, she calls him over. It was fine and neighborly at first but now I think my husband enjoys going over there. . Then it got worse, she started inviting him and me over for dinner and my husband would insist that we go, my husband would invite her over to sit on our deck. Then about 2 weeks ago I really lost it, I came home from work and my husband and this girl were sitting on our couch playing xbox. This really hurt me because that's me and my husbands special activity. I took my husband to the side and told him to get her out or I'm getting out. She left and we had a huge fight, I said that he's working his way up to cheating on me if he already hasn't and he said I was crazy. I know he likes her because when we were at her house he was staring right at her butt when she would bend over. I live everyday now in constant fear that this girl is going to take my husband. What should I do?

Answer 1

This woman is doing nothing to you because she owes you nothing. If I could get a contractor to do free work, I would ask also. Your husband and you have a partnership where you two set the way you deal with friends and neighbors. There is no right way or wrong way. The two of you need to work this out. Coming home and blowing up doesn't help and probably made him defensive. Wait until you both cool down and are calm and relaxed and bring it up again. Not just about this woman, but how you both want to each other to deal with boundaries with others, esp. the opposite sex. You two set the boundaries WITH each other as a team that is running a healthy life partnership. You running around feeling paranoid and fearful isn't good for you or your marriage. Be upfront and honest about this. If your husband is a 1/2 way decent guy, he doesn't want you to feel that way.... but attacking him will make most men buck up and puff out their chest and say "you can't tell me what to do!" (we women do that too.)

Answer 2

Establish a minimum cost and an hourly wage for all "work" your husband does for her. No professional should work for free on his days off for what he gets paid to do while on the clock. So keep the meter running. She pays CASH and upfront for the minimum charge and hourly thereafter. Friends do that, neighbors do that too. If she doesn't own that house then her landlord should be her handyman.



How about the two of you come up with other things to do together besides sit on the couch and play xbox. It's near on impossible to make a rule that you are the only person he's allowed to play xbox with! Get off the couch and go do something else together.

Answer 3

What I would personally consider is, if she was a man, would anything that took place between them be weird?

seeing as he stared at her *** I'd take that as a resounding yes and maybe offer him a sort of ultimatum on that basis; "If I notice you two being any weirder than two male friends would be, then either she's out or I'm out."



I don't believe being assertive about this is "pushing him away or turning him off". It's best that he learns what to respect from the start so he doesn't keep pushing boundaries like that in the future. What's more important to him, his wife/best friend's trust and emotional security or some fun with a random neighbor?

Answer 4

Gee, this is tough. Well, first he is definitely attracted to her. Is your sex life ok? Do you guys have sex? Are denying him sex? If you are then he may be doing it bc of sex. I know, a man can never get enough of sex. So even if you are pleasing him he still would...well screw other girls. She looks like she's a slut. But, it's not really her fault. She puts it out there and your husband reaches for it. Your husband it's kind of chasing her like a dog. My advice: give him an ultimatum: you or her. No more dinners, helping her out, xbox etc. If he refuses or continues doing these things, then he's a ******* cheater and you need to kick him out of your life. By the way, this whole story made me really mad and angry at your husband and that ***** next door. I would looove to punch them both in the throat! Sorry, i lost it. I hate cheater and whores. Good luck and i wish you all the best. °_°

Answer 5

He is the one that needs to put a stop to it, guess he is too busy checking out her azz, to tell her she can't come over.



I feel for you, because given enough time hell cheat. You will be seen as the nagging no fun wife and the other girl will be the fun spontaneous neighbor....



You are gone to work... He is at home... She's next door,..... Bending over on purpose so he can look at her goods...



He is allowing this. You'll just look like the pissed off wife.



Want to know if he respects you ? Tell him he can't be acting like he is single with this girl and that he needs to stop all communication with her. Then put small cameras in the living room and bedroom.

You get to see what he does while you are at work

Answer 6

You need to go over and tell her that you know what she's doing and she's going to stop or you will stop her. Tell her to stay the ~f~ away from your house and your husband. Next, tell your husband that his working for her for free is over. If he's getting twitchy, he can take care of that with you at home.

Or, the next time she invited you two over for dinner, invite an attractive, single male neighbor or friend. Tell him that you need him to flirt with this chick and see how your hubby reacts. If he gets jealous, you know he is or was planning to have sex with her.

Answer 7

Your neighbor is 27 and she knows exactly what she is doing. Being in your home, sitting on your couch

playing computer games is out of line, and both she and your husband know it. I would tell my husband to

put a stop to it or I would. Don't let people tell you that you're being childish or jealous or unreasonable or a

witch.

Answer 8

You have rights to be worried and I would not be surprised that in another 6 months he will be in bed with her! I don't know the answer but its not a good sign. You guys need to set boundaries NOW. If you can't, then your marriage will end.

Answer 9

had a problem with my exs friend and he often drank way too much. he often crashed at our house when drunk. My husband and i have a three month old daughter but when I was six months pregnant his friend sexually assulted me and my husband beat him very badly. There was no intercourse because I am a crazy nut and kicked him so hard into the china closet it broke into pieces. Hey I am a crazy ear protecting my baby bear in me. Did not like he grabbed my butt and boob that was a no no and trying to pull down my bottoms. We filed charges and they stucks since he has been arrested in the past for his ways. Husband did not know because this guy works with my husband and was a supervisor who since lost his job. WHat goes around comes around.



Sorry the husband likes the neighbor but are you letting yourself go and becoming a fat pig? Often the guy marries a pretty girl adn loves her to death and after one kid she becomes huge as a house. Trust me I seen it. Husband works so hard the wife does not work and pops out babies and never goes to the gym, feed the poor kids crap because she is too lazy to work because she spent all day on facebook while kids are in school. The house is a mess and has not been cleaned. The poor guy has to get a maid since lazy fat wifew will not cleann and he is afraid of buys and dirt for his kids. Then wife sspends his money on her nails, and going to the dinner ot that restaurant for lunch while husband eats leftover take out from the day before.Guy comes home to lazy wife on faccebook with kids crying they are hungry and house a mess and the husband has to go get pizza, mcdonalds, burger king, or etc to feed the kids.

The wife will say thanks she was just about to call for pizza. Ladies in Long Island and Jersey known for this in the suburbs and I hear it all day in the office.

CAn you blame them for looking at someone who takes care of their body and maybe their home.

Answer 10

I would have a "woman talk! that is best not to be friends ! You appreciate her generosity invitations, however is getting in your marriage way. tell her if she needs someone to fix something, look else were, don't defend your husband but tell her your working on getting that straight with him.because he will not be allowed to go to her house. It will stink at first but you are putting your cards on the table then tell your husband how you expect him to behave if neither one listen, that may tell you something is going on! Keep your eye open and your heart close. Guardyourself With courage! , ask her if she has something to say!!# good luck

Answer 11

You don't have to do anything but your husband should act immediately. I strongly suggest that you move out of that place and find a good residence elsewhere. It is like the lady is trying to attract your husband by asking him all doubts and asking him to help fix up even small things. She is really fond of your husband and it is time you told him to move out.

Answer 12

She cannot take what is not freely given (by him). Perhaps couples counseling to see where your marriage is lacking (that is causing him to seek company elsewhere).



Don't get too mad at her, because she can't lure him into doing anything he doesn't want to do. Your issue is with him and in finding out what's changed in your marriage for him to be allowing his eye to rove and seeking other females for company.

Answer 13

Start getting freindly with a male neighbour on the otherside of the street and play xbox with him.

Answer 14

You need to tell her to back of