Can't truly feel the joys of pregnancy....?

Question

My husband and I are expecting our first child together. We have been married 3 years.

I will admit I am fairly over weight. I learned to eat right and exorcise 2 years ago but still failed to loose weight.

Now I'm 7 months pregnant and you can't even tell I'm pregnant....you would just think I was fat.

3 other women at my job are pregnant and they get compliments all the time about there "baby bumps" but not me! Everyone wants to touch there tummy....but not me!

I hear these women talking about how there husbands rub there tummies....mine doesn't. At first he didn't even believe I was pregnant, I had to take a test in front of him!

I feel like I haven't been able to enjoy my pregnancy as much as slimmer women.....

Whats wrong with me?

Answer 1

Sweetie, its okay! Not everyone carries their babies the same way. You will look pregnant at 9 months and everyone will want to touch it, so don't worry about THAT. In a way its good that you aren't showing that much, because you won't have as many stretch marks later! That baby bump doesn't feel all that great to the bearer of the bump, and when someone touches it it generally doesn't feel good, so I don't think you are missing out much. Can you feel the baby move? Can your husband feel the baby move inside you? That is a special secret between you and the baby, and it is a very special part of being pregnant. The other people at work are most likely afraid they will offend you if they mention you look big since you started out big, because it is a major taboo to tell an overweight person they look big, so they are most likely trying not to upset you. Encourage them by telling them when the baby is moving and letting them feel it. You are obsessing over this because pregnant women obsess over everything. That is okay too. You aren't missing out on anything, not really! So hug your baby from the inside and be glad he/she is there. Okay?

Answer 2

Awww! Demand that your husband take side in his developing loved ones! I have had the identical proposal even though. Im 15 weeks, and I simply seem tubbier then natural. A buddy of my sisters has a lovely little bump that every body compliments her on, so I do recognize your envy. I have made up my brain to free weight for my subsequent if I can. I suppose additionally that it maybe a extra a laugh revel in if it's not included in a pair inches of chub.

Answer 3

You should pop to your doctor after give birth and explain how you done what were suppose to do and didn't lose weight. as my friend was in the same boat as you and never lost weight but at times put a bit on, it turned out she has under active thyroid gland and now that she is on medication for it she is beginning to lose some weight slowly but Truly. let me tell you i had that when i was pregnant all that attention as i had huge bump where looked like i was carrying 4kids, i hated people touching me where its seriously annoyed me that in the end i told every body to get lost, you don't want experience that as its head wreaking, what you should enjoy is the baby kicks, put ball on your stomach and see it getting kicked, when you feel a kick get your husband to feel it, he may become excited again as the long wait on the arrival i found was too long, just wanted my child out as soon as possible. try breast feeding when you give birth as many my friends done so and lost weight more then they original were before being pregnant, i didn't do that and remained big girl for years to come, only now im taking charge of my weight!

Enjoy what is left, congrats and good luck x

Answer 4

Well many woman don't find the joy in pregnancy. You are not alone there. And just because a person happens to be slim doesn't necessarily mean they are happy and pregnant. I have never been happy. Emotionally I don't handle it well and physically pregnancy is difficult on me (I almost died with my first pregnancy)



Pregnancy is tough. It just is. And some woman handle it better. And honestly some woman have easier pregnancies than others. For whatever reason - emotional, or physical -pregnancy is not always a happy time.



So try to focus on being a mom. That you can enjoy even if you don't like pregnancy.

Answer 5

As a big girl, how you feel is normal. When we're pregnant, we expect the extra attention and if you're not getting it, you feel left out. Have you told coworkers that you are pregnant also? Try getting a new haircut or pretty maternity clothes to spiff up your appearance. Unfortunately, you will have to wait until after the baby is born before you lose the weight. It sounds like your coworkers are being a bit insensitive to you. Have a healthy baby and tackle the weight issue afterwards.

Answer 6

Who CARES what others think? Pregnancy is really a personal thing. If you share it with your husband, that should be adequate. I despise being pregnant. I vomit every day and was clinically depressed the last time. I laid in bed and cried and contemplated suicide. I can't even relate to what you're complaining about.

Answer 7

Many of these feelings will disappear, once the baby is born.

Answer 8

Your "baby bump" (or lack thereof) is a blip on the radar - you will have many many years to experience the joys of parenthood.

Get over it.

Answer 9

What's wrong with you? You said it yourself, you are overweight. I know that the media is pushing for a more "positive image of women" and you're probably feeling like you should accept your self as you are, but here is some interesting news, being overweight isn't positive and it isn't healthy. A big fat belly isn't attractive and it isn't fun to touch. It's gross.

Answer 10

Oh well. Suck it up buttercup. I was not overweight and I didn't have tons of people complimenting my baby bump and it didn't bother me one bit. Get over it.

Answer 11

if you did eat right and exercised you couldn't HELP but loose weight! You've been KIDDING YOURSELF! when you get SERIOUS about loosing the weight you will, otherwise you will continue to make yourself SUFFER!