No motivation anymore? Help???!!?

Question

So I have been a stay at home mom ever since I got married 12 years ago. Nothing with my hubbys job has really changed and we r broke no money for vacations . We also have 3 kids and 4th is on its way . But now i have no motivation anymore to do wat im supposed to be doing i guess cuz its been the same routine for a long time . I can't work so thats not an option for me . Does anyone have any ideas of how i can become more motivated to be a mommy and housewife ?

Answer 1

It's clear you haven't used the best judgment to date as you can barely AFFORD two children, yet alone four, right?! That's just poor CHOICE on your part as a woman. You're probably headed for depression as you are now overwhelmed with the 4th unaffordable child on the way. Again, you made this CHOICE. These do not fall into the realm of "accidents" dear, these are INTENTIONAL choices on YOUR part. You see that, right?!



Were I you? I'd look for a local church to help support me through this...Reach out in faith and hope that others there can help you build the support net you clearly need and quite possibly, counsel you.



I'd like to think at this point in time? You understand what's "causing" the birthing of all these children you couldn't possibly afford in your position, but I rather doubt it. So let me spell it out: B I R T H C O N T R O L and now with this 4th? Well, you'd be crazy not to have the doctor's "tie" your "tubes" dear.



Grace

Answer 2

mary has a good idea. do you have family around? a few hours or an overnight helps a lot. we have 4 kids, 8, 8, 6, and 1 yr old so yea i get it, its not like its super demanding but the 24/7 day in day out makes me get the blahs. 1st if its energy you need, talk to your doctor my daily vitamins don't always cut it so i get a B12 vitamin shot every few months and it perks me right up. next if you need a little break lean on friends/family or hire a teen baby sitter, i had one when my kids were very little. my now 6 year old was really hard colic so i would pay my neighbor girl in a little cash or treats (gum, candy, fast food) to take my son out to the park down the street or ice cream because just a few hours of 1 less kid was amazing. she really liked him, so often she would come over just to play with him at the house and that was very helpful. as for "vacations" do what you can, move money around. we are broke too but we still manage to pull off a trip now and then. its cheap to spend time outside, go camping, off-roading, or just take day trips so you don't have to spend on hotels and move money around, we just went on a trip to sand mountain and it was awesome, next month we will live seriously broke because now we need to play catch up on some bills but it was worth it.

Answer 3

Is there another mom in your neighborhood (or several) that could form a mutual support group? Are most of your kids in school? If you have only one or two still at home, perhaps you can drop them off occassionally at one of their houses (asking first, of course) so you can have an afternoon "off". Of course you would have to return the favor now and again. Also, churches have mothers' groups that support each other.

Answer 4

Your love for them should be your motivation. Need a swift kick in the azz?