Is it okay for a married person to have friends of the opposite gender?

Question

I think it's very unhealthy and very inappropriate for a married person be friends with someone of the opposite gender after marriage.There's no such thing as a married person having a healthy friendship with someone of the opposite gender.I don't see a reason for a married person to have any non business like contact with non family members of the opposite gender.It's very wrong and it's the appearance of evil for a married person to have opposite gender friends.I think if a person is friends with a married person of the opposite gender,it's homewrecking,very disrespectful,very wrong and I take that person doesn't care about that person's marriage otherwise they won't talk to someone else husband/wife about non business stuff.It's emotional cheating for a married person to have friends of the opposite gender.If a married person want opposite gender friends,they should have stayed single.There are no excuses for a married person to have friends of the opposite gender.Same gender friends after marriage is great but opposite gender friends is very wrong and disrespectful.I also think a married person should be only be polite and civil to non family members of the opposite gender and not friendly with someone of the opposite gender (being friendly is a sense of friendship) This has nothing to do with insecurity,it's about respecting marriage.Do you it's wrong for married people to have friends of the opposite gender?

Answer 1

No. Only acquaintances

Answer 2

Good grief. LOL. Ok, here is my take on this question.



No, i don't think married people need to go out of their way to make new friends of the opposite sex. If that's what someone is doing on purpose, well, i'd think they dont need to be married.



Some couples do make friends with other couples. Nothing wrong with it.



I married a man who has a female friend of over 21 years. There is no way i'd ever rip that friendship apart. I see nothing wrong with this at all. I also have a friend of the opposite sex, who I have known now for over 50 years. Yes 50. I am not giving up my friend, and my husband wouldn't think of asking me.



My husband doesn't hang out with his female friend all the time, or alone either. She comes to our house once in a while to visit. Same with my male friend. He's also married.



Every situation is different.

Answer 3

It's perfectly possible to have good friends of the opposite sex because it is perfectly possible to choose who you have sexual relationships with. If you can't keep your hands off other people, you shouldn't be married. Anyway, why assume that only friends of the opposite gender are threats to your marriage? How do know that homosexual relationships might not be occurring with your spouse? In other words, your reasoning is really flawed. Friendships are, anyway, quite different from intimate relationships.



I have numerous male friends, and have done even while I've been in close intimate relationships. These male friends and I have just enjoyed conversations; no sex at all involved. I'm not sexually attracted to random men (as your question suggests). I'm selective and civilized and can choose my mates - and so should you be able to.

Answer 4

Your son is an ADULT and can make his own decisions. And NOBODY is deluded enough to agree with you and hasn't been for OVER A YEAR with the HUNDREDS of questions you've asked about the very same situation.



There is NOTHING wrong with a person emailing, talking with, sharing food with, fist bumping, high fiving, being friendly with, or going fishing with a married person of the opposite sex. It is not cheating and your obsession with this is the reason your wife left you. GET HELP.



Peace out, girl scout.

Answer 5

A married person with absolutely no self control, who is incapable of maintaining a friendship with someone of the opposite gender without trying to fcuk them, should not have friends of the opposite gender.



For the other 99% of us, it's perfectly OK.

Answer 6

I am rapidly approaching retirement, my partner and I have been together for almost 40 years.



We both have friends of the same gender, some of mine since childhood. They are as important to me as my female friends.



I would never have chosen to spend my life with any man who thought he had a right to dictate who I am allowed to be friends with.



It has nothing to do with being disrespect but all boils down to trust and without trust no relationship will ever be truly fulfilling and last.

Answer 7

I think it's o.k. for a person, married or not to have friends without making it sexual. If that happens, that marriage or relationship has other issues, or this wouldn't factor in as one. So, for you it's o.k. to feel the way you do about not being able to control yourself sexually whether you are married or not, or if someone else is or not, but the rest of us are not you!

Answer 8

"Is it okay for a married person to have friends of the opposite gender?"



Friends, yes. Sex, no.





"I think it's very unhealthy and very inappropriate for a married person be friends with someone of the opposite gender after marriage.There's no such thing as a married person having a healthy friendship with someone of the opposite gender.I don't see a reason for a married person to have any non business like contact with non family members of the opposite gender.It's very wrong and it's the appearance of evil for a married person to have opposite gender friends."



Your mind is narrow. You fear that feelings will develop, and infidelity will occur. This is not true.



"I think if a person is friends with a married person of the opposite gender,it's homewrecking,very disrespectful,very wrong and I take that person doesn't care about that person's marriage otherwise they won't talk to someone else husband/wife about non business stuff.It's emotional cheating for a married person to have friends of the opposite gender.If a married person want opposite gender friends,they should have stayed single.There are no excuses for a married person to have friends of the opposite gender.Same gender friends after marriage is great but opposite gender friends is very wrong and disrespectful.I also think a married person should be only be polite and civil to non family members of the opposite gender and not friendly with someone of the opposite gender (being friendly is a sense of friendship) This has nothing to do with insecurity,it's about respecting marriage."



No. I am glad I am not married to you. You guarantee your spouse will cheat on you or leave you, just to get room to breathe.



"Do you it's wrong for married people to have friends of the opposite gender?"



No.

Answer 9

It's fine, god, I have plenty of female friends who I don't sleep with or flirt with or make out with, it's not an automatic thing unless you're an animal who can't control himself.



Just as an example, what if you met a woman who was nice and friendly and you liked to talk to her but she was really unattractive to you? Are you saying you'd sleep with ANY woman? Not all men are like that, pal.

Answer 10

Of course it is.



What's wrong is for the other person to feel like they have the right to tell their spouse who they can be friens with and who they can't.



Either you trust the person you married or your don't period, and if you don't they you should not have married them in the first place.

Answer 11

Yes

Answer 12

Yes, it's still okay. No matter how many times you ask this question, it's still okay. In fact, it's odd for them not to.

Answer 13

I'm happily married, I'm female, and I have many male friends, only ONE is gay, and I say "f*ck you!" to any sexist asshole who tries to give me sh!t for calling you out on your sexist crap!

Answer 14

yes, its ok.

no, it's not evil.

husband and wife will often have some of the same friends.

Answer 15

Yes,I think it's okay.

Answer 16

Let me guess, you have a son who is having "inappropriate contact" with his high school teacher. This is the same ol' same old troll.

Answer 17

Why wouldn't it be okay?

Answer 18

I bet this friend is not ugly?...then there you go you will be banging pretty soon

Answer 19

Yeah, but I suppose its vastly better than the husband focusing their sexual frustration on their female family members instead, so I guess having female friends and using them for sex is better than the alternative.



Women and men cant be friends, kids know, the people on the train know, your uncle knows and your dad knows.



But due to political correctness, people think men and women can be friends due to being the year 2015....but it doesn't matter what year we are in, men evolved to see women in a sexual light and women usually flirt with men anyway to be seen in a sexual light.



They flirt using those subtle signs, which I can pinpoint. When I point it out, those idiots try to cover their tracks up.



Ofc I think its wrong, but I think its better than the alternative.



All you can really do is try to be the better woman, rather than the bitter woman. Or the better man rather than a bitter man.