is it bettr 2 divorce than 2 live with the fact that u r gng 2 cheat on ur wife 1 day cos u r not attrctd her?

Question

been married for 4 years but never felt good about being married.its a hard decision and its a painful.maybe u can give me an opinion poll with a yes/no along with ur inputs.thanx a ton

Answer 1

Yes because as a woman it's better to just be hurt versus being hurt and damaged. If you ask for a divorce she is going to want to know why, and that's when you should tell her that you will hurt her more and cause more damage if you continued to stay. It will burn at first but it will allow her to heal faster. It's loving her but not being in love with her, and you should say to her you deserve someone who will be in love with you. Good Luck.



P.S. Just don't cheat until you have laid your cards on the table. Wanting out will already hurt enough don't add onto it if you really don't have to.

Answer 2

have been u interested in her whilst u married her? WAht replaced? consistent with hazard u can attempt n locate that spark back. yet whilst no longer, or if that spark isn't adequate, then particular, it truly is acceptable u divorce. Ur spouse can stay a dilluted lie and be married, yet quicker or later, u will stray, and that isn't solid for her the two. ITs' much less confusing for adult males than women human beings, that could additionally be the clarification she needs u to stay and love u in spite of u on no account loving her. besides the undeniable fact that it is no longer solid for the two one among u. basically report for divorce. it is going to harm her, yet u comprehend, she could desire to the two be a dull corpse in a marriage, or attempt and stay exterior one. via fact i do no longer care what she thinks, quicker or later, she'll be a stay corpse in a marriage with a hubby who doesnt love her and instructed her so. i wish u don't have teenagers, this might influence them badly the two way too. solid luck.

Answer 3

Ok first my criticism. If you are old enough to be married, you are old enough to formulate a question. The whole "look I can text" thing is really juvenile.



As far as the marriage part, you made a vow. That is a promise that is supposed to be unbreakable. Why did you get married if you weren't attracted to your wife? Attraction is essentially a series of receptors in your brain telling the rest of you how to behave (sweat, eyes dilate, etc etc) so perhaps you are so determined NOT to be attracted to her that you have let yourself rewire nature. I would suggest counseling.

Answer 4

ever guy and girl are prone to not like there parnter one time in there marriage if thtz the case take a break or a second trip together or somethig but if ur not feeling anything at all and she still luvz u then u shuld not hurt her..but y did u get married if u never felt gud abt it..its not only ur life its herz as well...

Answer 5

get a divorce. Ive been married for 8 years, i cheated on her last year, because we were bad, then it got good...she found out...and now it's up in the air. It ******* hurts to see my wife hurting....take it from a guy's perspective, don't do it..if you do cheat, make sure it over between you two

Answer 6

It is better to divorce because you are not truly vested in your marriage, and that type of arrangement isn't fair to your wife....this is the bottom-line. All the other reasons you mentioned may or may not happen, but if your heart isn't in it, you shouldn't be there. Give her a legitimate shot at real happiness. Good luck to you.

Answer 7

I will have to agree with the consensus to divorce now, before there are additional problems. If you already anticipate yourself cheating in the future then you are already late in getting a divorce.



It'll hurt, but it'll be easier than if you cheat first.

Answer 8

Yes, divorce her now and never marry again. You are aware most everyone bodies change as they get older and for the worse are you not?

Answer 9

A WOMANS HEART IS AS DEEP AS THE OCEAN & WE WOMEN "DO NOT" TAKE THINGS THAT IS LIKE THIS VERY EASILY...IT'S BETTER THAT U DO TELL HER HOW U FELT INSTEAD OF HURTING HER LIKE THIS BY NOT TELLING HER ANYTHING ALSO....



THIS MAY BECOME WORSE IF U JUST HIDE THINGS FROM HER,JUST U TELL HERT THAT WHAT U WROTE IN THIS FORUM & EXPLAIN IT " IN DETAIL" FOR U WANTING TO DIVORCE HER & DO REMEMBER TO TELL HER PARENTS AS WELL OR THE BLAME WILL BE PUT ON HER INSTEAD!!!



GOOD LUCK!!!

Answer 10

Yes. Tell her now, before you break her heart or wind up murdered because you pissed some woman off. The truth shall set you free, remember? Then you'll be free to screw any runway model you attract.

Answer 11

IT was rather better that you should have not got married only. y u guys r like this. u married and now u have a responsibility. and still if u feel like this please dont go for a child cos in future if u broke u will mess up that child's life as well.

Answer 12

Divorce her, being cheated on is the worst thing that can happen to anybody.

Answer 13

Yup. Get a divorce. I was cheated on and it was devastating. it would have been better if he had left me than to cheat on me and then leave.

Answer 14

you should divorce her. if you kno that are going to cheat on her so0ner or later, then just end it here before that happens. save her the pain.

Answer 15

Why did you get married to her if you're not attracted to her? that was a very dumb move on your part.

Answer 16

Been there and done that........ divorce, it hurts more at first but in the long run you will be alot happier :)

Answer 17

Why did you marry her if you felt like that?

Answer 18

ur not happy.....you married her? Get it over with so she can move on......



Divorce!