EX-WIFE HATE NEW YOUNG WIFE?

Question

My ex-Wife is very mean...she has turned my 13 yr old daughter against me and my wife and step-sons.

She hates my new wife and step-sons.

She has told me and wife and daughter that my current wife sleeps with me for money and is a whore.

My ex-Wife has been re-married 2 times since our divorce 9 yrs ago, and has 2 new babies with new husband of 2 years.

I go to court next week, she filed papers. she wants to change custody with our 13yr old daughter and wants more child support.

She does well for her self, owns a successful business, new hubby does well.

Bottom line she has taught my daughter to hate me, my new wife and steps-sons.

My attorney has prepared legal paper stating child alienation, what will my daughter think when her mom tells her about all this?

My ex-Wife really hates my new wife and step-sons. Why is she so hateful?

Answer 1

What the hell did you do to her. A woman only acts that way when a man did her wrong. I don't know why she is so hateful but you know why. I don't feel sorry for you but your daughter I feel bad for her. Now it has been 9 years and she needs to get over you. Like I said before what the hell did you do to her?

Answer 2

That's very intense and immature for your ex-wife. It is always going to "punch" her in the face one day.



As a child of divorce I can tell you that the only person your ex-wife is hurting is your daughter! The best thing for you to do is to left your daughter see for herself - by being the best dad you can be and not forcing her to choose between you and her mom.



Your new wife must learn to ignore ignorance and not blame your daughter - it will be hard to overlook, but parents who try to make their children hate the other parent for no reason - usually end up losing the trust and respect of that child. Your daughter should feel that no matter what happens between you and her mom - you both will always be there and that you both will put your ill feelings aside just for her. My mother and father did this and I think that I'm well-adjusted and happy, and my parents have their own outside interests and new partners - so now I have two moms and 2 dads and they are all wonderful just because I know that they put me and my step-brother first!



I suggest you write a letter to your wife and explain that you realize that she might not like your wife, but that you beg her to put the life you created together before her bad feelings and learn to respect the person you are with now even if she never likes them.



Your new wife should avoid conflicts with the ex and decisions about the your daughter should be discussed between her mother and you - and any thing that is a major change when your daughter is with you should include her mom.



If your ex will not cooperate - then limit your contact with her and avoid bashing or making bad comments about your ex or fights in front of the children at all cost. If you ex-wife argues - let it be a one-sided argument - she won't be able to talk for long to herself.

Answer 3

Maybe she wants you to be miserable? Some people are like that. They will do anything possible to make you live a miserable life. But think back, is there something that you could have done to make her hate you so much and your new wife? Is your new wife nice to your daughter? I will say your ex wife shouldn't try to brainwash your daughter just because you guys are married to other significant others. She needs to realize that she has her own family to take care of too. Well, whatever her reason, tell her to grow up and start being a mother.

Answer 4

Ok so like maybe she is still in love with you and trying to hide it lock it up so she directs ange torward you and your new life. She has married 2 times because she didn't love them she loves you. I don't know why you got divorced in the first place but if she loved you and you broke her heart then maybe she isn't over you. But if not then maybe she's like Fatal attraction? As far as your daughter is conserned she will see the trueth when the time comes. I don't think your daughter hates you and your family she just doesn't understand why you left her and have them now. What stability has she had with her mother in the past 9 years, 2 differnt marriages and 3 dads? think about what she maybe going through and stop thinking of yourself. What she must be going through. You and your family new and old should seriously get some kind of counseling on your daughters behalf. She is being scared for life. She needs Love.

Answer 5

Your ex needs to move on and get over herself and stop putting your daughter in the middle of things.

If your wife treats your daughter well and the ex is acting out she may need some counseling so your daughter is not affected by her.

The past is the past and the present is what counts when it comes to the well being of your child.

Sometimes an ex can wreck hell in your life because you are often dammed if you do and dammed if you don't.

You can only let your daughter know how much you love her when she is with you and have the best quality time that you can.

Here is a site that may help you.... Step talk.org

There are many personalities out there that can have a difficult understanding of blended family issues that have never been there so find sites that can truly relate to your situation.

I have a blended family and it is not always easy no matter how hard we try.

Answer 6

Some people are bitter forever, and if you just accept it, your life will immediately improve.



As for your 13 year old daughter -- she is at an impressionable age. Someday soon she will learn to use her own brain and she will "see" you for the person you are, and i'm sure she will come around.



Her mother is abusing her if she is constantly putting you down in front of her. Her mother also sounds rather mentally unstable. After nine years she's still bitter over the divorce? it takes all kinds, doesn't it?



Your wife shouldn't be talking to a 13 year old about the details of a court proceeding. again, it's abusive. Children shouldn't have to be involved in adult problems.

Answer 7

My husbands ex wife has done the same thing to his children......however she started this before I even came into the picture.



She send my husband texts telling him the children hate him and wishes he was dead. We have had to have the [police call her and give her warnings to stop the harrassment, otherwise we will put a restraining order on her......the list of horrible things is endless. She even throws away any gifts we buy the children, so now we cant even give them a present.!



She hates me and my children, for no reason whatsoever as we have never even met her.



My advice is to let her take you back to court, and have proof of everything. Suggest to the judge that you would like the chance to have counseling with your daughter and for your family. This will ensure that the judge knows that you are willing to do anything to repair the relationship.



I am living through the same thing, and women like you wife give us all a bad name.



I am on very good terms with my ex husband, in fact just today he came to our house to visit with the kids, he came inside and had a coffee with my husbdan and I before he took the girls shopping. Theres just no need for hostility...life is too short.

Answer 8

The answer is obvious, support your daughter, love the new family , get a good lawyer and ignore the ex wife. Why is you ex around your new wife, I think you have issues to resolve. Man up and move on, your daughter does not hate you and she will come back into your life when she is out of the influence of ex-wife.

Answer 9

Are you serious?



Listen you need to think before you get married. Love once and get married once. You'll live longer. You are in this position because of your own choosing.



Plus a girl will "turn" against her best dad's love toy if she feels neglected or if you keep ignoring or brushing aside her concerns.





If she tells you something about your new wife don't be so quick to side with your new wife. Be unbiased they are after all both girls you love....your daaughter and your new wife.



If you are honest and unbiased your daughter will see through the lies.....if any you ex is feeding her. There is no need to try and turn you duaghter against your ex.

Answer 10

What has your new wife done to cause your ex wife to have these types of feelings towards her? Does your new wife go out of her way to start trouble with your ex wife? Does your new wife interfere with the parenting plan between you and your ex wife which by the way is none of your new wife's business? Does your new wife try and get you to limit your ex wife to as little contact and visitation as possible with the children? Does your new wife deliberately do things to cause grief and sadness to your ex wife? Does your new wife bad mouth your ex wife in front of the kids to the point that the kids go back and tell her? Does your new wife tell you that you are not allowed to speak to your ex wife and does she make you only communicate by email in which your new wife gets the email first and you get to read only what she feels is appropriate? Does your new wife answer all the emails to your ex wife and you let it happen? Honestly, did your ex wife ever really come right out and say that she "hates" your new wife and stepsons?



These are many things and there are much more that I could list that can cause your ex wife to have these feelings towards your new wife. I have noticed a pattern with new wives and how they treat the ex wife which is really bad. The new wife in a mans life seems to forget that the ex wife does have feelings too and that she truly loves her children. The new wife wants to take over like the ex wife doesn't exist. This is not fair to the ex wife or to the kids.



Child alienation? You are going to have a very hard time proving this. Save your money! A person cannot teach a child to hate the other parent. There are experts in the court system that will talk to the child and you can be subject to perjury and for bringing forth nonsense in court should they find out that the child does not "hate" you. The child is 13!



More child support? Tell her not to be so greedy.



If you ever want peace in your life and want your ex wife to like your new wife, attitudes have to change first. If your new wife is doing any of the things I mentioned above, they need to be dealt with.



I bet your ex wife is not hateful. I bet she is just tired of all the drama that your new wife brings to the situation and wishes that she would quit!



EDIT:

My ex husbands new wife does not like me either. She does all the things I listed in the first paragraph. I have never given her any reason to dislike me. In fact I have tried very hard to get along with her and I even sent her a very nice letter when my ex and her got married. I thought I would try and be a friend to her for the sake of the kids. She rejected me instantly. I have never been jealous of her at all. My ex and her only recently got married about two years ago. I have been remarried almost five years now and am very happy. My darling kids are the ones who suffer because the new wife cannot stand me. She bad mouths me in front of them to the point where their father had to tell her not to. She conjures up ways to try and make my life as hard as she can. My ex husband was very desperate when he met her on eHarmony and won't do anything to jeopardize his relationship with her because he cannot live without a woman (it's a sexual thing). His new wife is just simply a very rotten person. She has the personality of a rattlesnake. My ex husband and me use to get along alright until his new wife came into the picture and put an end to it. We live 600 miles apart and it's not like I sit in their living room every night and watch TV with them. Was there really a reason for the new wife to come into my kids home and cause all this drama? They were content before but once the new wife started in, the kids started to act out. Like I said before, new wives can be a real problem sometimes. Would I forgive her now? Of course! Is she woman enough to come to me and apologize? NEVER!



EDIT AGAIN:

I take it I hit a bad nerve to get thumbs down.

Answer 11

I got rid of my new wife because she was such a tyrant. I felt like I had a drill sergeant instead of a wife. I couldn't leave the house without her accusing me of something and even my ex wife wasn't that bad. Now I stay single a free and just date at my own convenience.

Answer 12

wonder what you did to her? but she should leave your daughter of out this, if you guys have issues then, it should be solved within adults, she is very ignorant, but you are to, since your daughter is jelaous, the new family stole her dad, come on give it time, and do not believe everything your new wife says, make sure of the facts, be a dad before a man.

Answer 13

It depends on what you did to her. If you cheated on her then there is a reason she is so hateful, but at the same time it is not fair to your daughter to be pitted against you. Unless you really are a dead beat dad and then she doesn't deserve you.

Answer 14

If you and your lawyer can prove your ex has tried to turn your daughter against you,your lawyer should be able to nail her @$$ to the court house wall.I really feel for you and your situation because I know several different guys who have been screwed over in court by their ex wives and it sickens me to see how easily they did it.Men don't have a fighting chance in court when there are children are involved even if the wife is the cause of the divorce.Good luck next week,you'll need it.To all the women who are giving me the thumbs down,the truth hurts doesn't it.

Answer 15

this too shall pass....limit your contact with her...love your daughter with all your heart, she is the one that matters. Ex wives go away over time...they really do...but daughters love you forever...think that way and you too will find happiness

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Answer 17

Its because she still cares for you and knows what is good for you. women have a third eye and can see the motives behind the other.