I think you have all the bases covered with the answers here.woman go after other woman's husbans for a variety of reasons. i think the number one reason is that thewoman who becomes the mistress has been **** on so many times, dumped, and hurt by many different men that outwardly she takes on this whole new lifestyle, but it all show "i don't care about men any more than they care about women. Men heve been using us and having casual sex with no strings attached for ages and now I am a liberated powerful woman and I am goinf to join the men and live and fornicate just like a man. I will have sexual relations when I want with whom i want , on my terms, i will be the one who decides if and when the man or i sleep over, i'm calling the shots now" the problem is she doesn't realy feel this way, it is all an act. woman and men ; we are different creatures. Men can have sex without any emotional ties, but normaly women need to feel an emotional attachment to the man. So these women have such so self esteem and they are tored of being rejected and hurt, so by playng it this way, they are playing it safe b/c they are not ever in jeopordy of getting hurt. They knw going in that this is jsut as fling, they are the other woman, this man has a wife and a familly that he goes home to and snuggles with and wakes up with on holidays etc. Not all affairs are this way, and woman should not alwayd be the only one or even the one one at all to receive the blame. For some archaic reason in in our society, take for examplt two married couples ;both with school aged children. If the married wife has an affiar with a married man, then she is the talk of the town and pretty much ostriciszed, especially in upper class socio economic families. She is the one qwho is labeled the adulter, the one who destroed two families, she loses all the freinds, the contry club memebrship, an quite often ends up losing both men and spends the next ten years paying a high price therapist. Oh I dare not forget and then she is most defiantely A horrible mother, this angers me the most, b/c I have known somw woman who had affairs, some discree, others not(they wanted out of their marriage) they never broguht their child anywhere near another man (unless they ended up marrying him, and they were aalways there to care fo the children. Take the sam eexample, if ne of the husbands has an affiar, well he is jsut a good ole boy, his freinds don't desert him, they still pay golf on the weekends, in fact more often than not he and the the new g/f will soon be ocupyong wifes diner seat at the couples favorite places to double date, the double standard is still too prevalant..
I have asked some of my friends who are either married or are separated and going through the divorce form hell why the see or date married woman and what they tel me is that they actuall "Prefer" married women, (these men are not looking for a relationship or anything serious) so to them a married woman has just as much to lose so she is a safer choice. I don't have any female friends who are having affiars so I cna't sopeak for the females, but male friends tell me that they don't really think about the other men involved b/c they don't know them, so the can't connect a face to the name. They have all said theywould not have an affair with a good friend's wife,b tu when pushed really hard and I asked what if she removed all her clothing and began rubbing her breast on you or began massaging your---- under the dinner table etc, their stnadard answer , "uh well you just don't ever let yourself get into a situation where anything like that could ever happen.
Lack of respect for themselves
The attention they get, b/c it is short lived so it is intense
The secrecy of an affair brings excitement