I sneaked into my ex's e-mail....?

Question

Geez... I know it was wrong!! But sometimes I still obsess about him and I did it before I thought it through. We used to share that account when we were married and he didn't change the password
Anyway, he does not save email, except for many emails to me from way in the past until about 6 months ago. ... AND
1 email from his current girlfriend that is full of gossip about me that is NOT true.
My question is this: He treats me like he doesn't know me or care at all, but I'm reading into this that perhaps secretly, he doesn't really think bad of me at all.
What is your impression of this?
(besides the fact that I am a jerk for having accessed the acct.)

Answer 1

The current girlfriend feels threatened by you...only reason why she would waste her time sending him an e-mail with gossip about you.



His saved e-mails from you could be:

a) They could be sentimental. A momento from your relationship.

b) He may not even realize that he still has the e-mails saved.

c) He still likes you.

d) none of the above.



Also, change his password to something random. Close your eyes and press a bunch of different keys. Copy & paste the randomness to the "re-enter new password" section and push send. He'll either have to use his more private information to re-access his account or he'll have to create a new one. Either way, you won't be tempted to check it anymore (because you won't know the password). It's healthier for you not to.



ps:

If you're feeling particular paranoid over spaznskitz's comment, before changing the password delete all of the e-mails that you have sent him. Or don't. It's completely up to you.

Answer 2

call him up and lay the cards on the table and then if you can without him knowing bring up about the untrue gossip without tipping him off. This should end the deal or work it out and in the long run YOU should be able to have closure. It is not the end of the world, either way and who knows you might run into someone else you would enjoy being with in the long run. Think about it, look in a mirror and feel your expression when you go out in the world. Sad but true some people look like they are sad and not interested in anything or anyone else. So suck it up and put on a happy face and you will get through it. Think about how you act and look and try and be happy and who knows you might run into brad Pitts littlle bro. take care.

Answer 3

in case you have purely been married 4 mos and already are having this a lot doubt and non believe, this ain't very reliable. I had a challenge like this while me and my hubby first have been given married. i replaced into constantly a splash jealous of his "terrific chum". nicely it blew up one time when I went out of city and when I come returned discover out he had talked to her for hours on the telephone on an identical time as i replaced into long gone. i replaced into very indignant to declare the least. I made it very sparkling the way it made me sense and that i under no circumstances needed him to talk to her returned, i did not care how "close" they have been. ( i wrote him a letter, that makes it extra effective each and every on occasion) That does sound egocentric yet even nevertheless the hubby won't have undesirable intentions the female prob does and desires to appreciate he's married so go away him on my own. we've been married 7 years and he has under no circumstances had any touch together with her returned. Now that i seem returned on it i do sense stupid and does not care now if he talked to her, yet i replaced into newly married as you're and emotions are nonetheless kinda insecure as far as marriage is going because of fact it is so new. If he lied to you approximately it you should discover out why. do not enable this tear your marriage aside it is barely a minor factor of what you would be dealing with mutually in life. per risk you should the two attempt some marital counseling that might assist you start off extra effective. end questioning Divorce or you will finally get one.

Answer 4

I would not mention to him that you checked his computer and found that email he received from his current girlfriend. Remember, you are his "ex" and he's got every right in the world to have a new girlfriend.



Should you mention to him that you've seen that email you'll be divulging information to him that you're prying into his personal life which is something that you have no moral or legal right to do.



What you need to do is accept the fact that he is your "ex" and get on with the remainder of your life. You've got many good years ahead of you and should get started.



Good luck.

Answer 5

You're contradicting yourself.

None of your question makes any sense. But anyway. My impression overall:



You are doing illegal stuff, sneaking into his email account that way. I find it hard to believe you can keep your mouth shut about what you've done, and surely you will throw it in his face. When you give yourself away, you could end up prosecuted for this. He could have his internet provider prove when/where you logged into his account.



Stop cyber stalking your ex husband! and move on with your life.

Answer 6

I think you're on the wrong track. If the only email he kept from his girlfriend is one that bitches about you, I don't think it's a sign that he has good feelings about you. More likely he kept it because it reinforces his feelings of anger towards you.



Sorry, that's just my take on it - I don't want to hurt your feelings. And feel free to disagree with me. I'm wrong all the time...

Answer 7

you are obsessing and have a real problem.



If he is saying things about you that aren't true, hun, that is a pretty damn good indication he doesn't think very much of you at all - and the saved e-mails - could be there if they are arguments for evidence just in case you started to cause him problems in the future....like...I don't know...snooping on him....



leave the man alone!

Answer 8

What? How confusing. So, all you found was an email to his new girlfriend gossiping about you (things that aren't true) and from that you deduced that he secretly thinks you're great? HUH?

Answer 9

you still care and what you did is wrong and you couldnt stop yourself... try talking to him casually. if you run into him or something bring up topics that he might be interested in and try to draw him into a conversation.. if he still isnt interested say something like nice seeing you and call anytime you would like to chat... or be straight forward and just tell him how much you miss him and you will see him around... let him simmer on that awhile...

Answer 10

well i think that the two of you should talk about your relationship even though hes your ex. and who knows mabee you will both benefit from this little talk





and dont sneek into his email anymore :)

Answer 11

Hes your ex for a reason darlin! I think your reading into it a little too much! Its probably nothing!

Answer 12

I think if you don't like what you are finding that it is your own fault for sneaking into the accounts and you get what you deserve.

Answer 13

Ever thought he may know you can access the account?

Answer 14

I think he knows that you have the password - and he is playing you!!!

Answer 15

Get a new guy

Answer 16

i think you are nosy and need to get your own life. Get over it, hes done with you for godsake!

Answer 17

I think you need to move on and get over him.

Answer 18

move on please, before u make yourself sick behind nothing